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Old 07-22-2010, 07:11 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm miscarrying. Our little miracle baby, that took 3 1/2 years to conceive, is gone. We saw the h/b at my first appt. on Monday. Told my almost-5-year-old the great news. 10 minutes later I got a gush of blood. I lost a lot of blood and tissue/clots that night. U/s the next morning showed the baby still had a strong heartbeat. Bleeding stopped for a day, then started again. U/S this morning showed no heartbeat. I'm going in tomorrow morning for a follow-up. Don't really know why.

We have family coming in this weekend to celebrate ds's birthday. The timing is lousy and I just hate that I'll be sitting there waiting for imminent massive bleeding to start. My doctor is willing to do a d&c tomorrow, but I don't know if I want that, either.

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Old 07-22-2010, 07:13 PM
 
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So, so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

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Sending you healing thoughts.

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So sorry, sending healing vibes for body and spirit and family.

Mama Lea, grateful wife to and mom to Big Boy 10/04/06 and my little Sunshine boy 10/06/08 and surprise joining the bed sometime in March 2011
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so very sorry for your loss

"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bank balance smaller, home happier, clothes dirty, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for." ~A.U.
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I am so very sorry for your loss

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so so unfair. i'm very sorry.

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so sorry mama!

Melanie, SAHM to Kyley Grace (5)  Elijah Franklin (2) and Asher John (March 17th)
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I'm so sorry. Let yourself grieve and consider canceling the weekend plans for another time. Everyone will understand.

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I'm so so very sorry.

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I am so sorry.

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I'm so sorry. I hope your family can support you. FWIW, I have never m/c'd at home, but it sounds like it can be brutal. At least with a D&C you can ask for some ambien/vicodin to take the edge off for a couple of days so you aren't so sad. My first m/c I was so sad and traumatized I didn't know how I was going to get through a family wedding and the OB took pity on me.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. :

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so sorry you are having to go through that.

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Trini, I am so sorry for your loss.

Adrienne belly.gif - Loving my DHguitar.gif, our daughter Harper Emaline ROTFLMAO.gif (3/2011), and maybe a baby?? jaw2.gif (5/2013)

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I'm so sorry Trini. I can't even imagine how you're feeling right now. Sending healing thoughts your way.

Jen, Wife to DH Rob, Mama to DD Paige 17 months and Lab/Doberman Jedi 5 years, and a new little friend due 3.22.11
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Oh no, I am so sorry, how very painful You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
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I'm so sorry Mama....be gentle with yourself.

Camille~
Mama to F (3/09) and S (3/11); and never forgetting my babe gone too soon angel1.gif(4/10).

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I'm very sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry (((Hugs)))

Wife to a wonderful husband and mom to 6 beautiful children. Also to one sweet angel, who we will always keep in our hearts 10/2012

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Trini, I'm very, very sorry. My thoughts are with you.

First child born March 2011.  Constantly in awe!
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so very sorry, take care of yourself!

Shawna- wife to DH, mother to DD (6-2009)
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I'm so sorry

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So sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry. I can't imagine losing a baby after trying so long. I'd also cancel the plans for the weekend. I've miscarried before and it isn't fun.

Leslie, mama to Paige 8, Zara 3 and Audrey, Sophia & Nina June 7/11 @32.6
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I'm so, so sorry!

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Old 07-24-2010, 12:27 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Thanks, all. I did have a D&C yesterday. I couldn't cancel ds's birthday, but the family that is coming will all be supportive.

I was so thrilled to be having a late winter baby.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I have mc naturally and with a DnC and I recommend naturally. It was far less painful for me and was over much quicker. With both of my DnC's I went home and cramped and bled for a week, it was not nice.
And my midwife gave me vics for my natural miscarriage. I never took them because DS was home with me and I was the only adult around and didn't want to be loopy. Once the tissue passed I felt much better and wasn't in any real pain. I did have a period for about a week after but it wasn't too bad. I will tell you that I had a clot of tissue get stuck in my cervix about 3 days after the mc and went to my midwife and she removed it with some forceps. But all in all I would do it again if it ever reoccurs.
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