Alright... who's gearing up to labor/birth for the first time? Is the unexpected starting to get to anyone else? I 'know' what is going to happen, physically, but the whole unknown of how I am going to be in labor, of how DH will be, of how it will feel, etc. has brought some anxiety into my thoughts recently.
What are you doing to combat anxiety/fear? And to all the experienced mamas out there, how did you deal with labor/birth the first time?
Adrienne - Loving my DH, our daughter Harper Emaline (3/2011), and maybe a baby?? (5/2013)
Hi, I loved the birth stories in Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. I have re-read them every pregnancy, and in fact I may re-read them again now that we are in the home stretch...I also like the idea of a soothing mantra, whatever works for you to help remember to give in to the pressure waves/rushes...they are going to help you meet your baby! These things helped me and oh yes, having a doula is WONDERFUL...I swear that's how I did an unmedicated pit induction (my first after PROM, pretty difficult but ended up being a positive experience overall) and a much easier natural labor/childbirth (my second), highly recommend having a doula if you can. Hope this helps!
2nd time here but I agree with the Ina May stories. You want to go in with an idea of the variety of things that can occur but at this point you want to focus on positive birth stories and relaxing and reducing any fear or anxiety you may have.
Make a plan - but be mentally prepared to be flexible about the plan.
I did a lot of pre-natal yoga and it helped to focus and breath and relax. I tried to think of it more in terms of being excited to experience something new and looking forward to the discovery.
To be honest, it is been so many years now, and you do kind of forget the details, that I am starting to feel the same way - even though it is my second =) Time to do a bit more yoga practice and maybe re-read Ina May.
This is my first pregnancy. I'm trying not to deny nor give in to my fears -- that is, I notice them and often mention them honestly to my husband or a good friend when they come up, but then (if they're about things I can't control) I do my best to let them go.
I'm also finding meditation helps!
I also love the Ina May books. Reading really positive birth stories is empowering. We did Hypnobirthing with my first pregnancy and I found that sitting quietly and doing breathing daily really helped with any feelings about the 'unknown'. I also used Mimulus, a Bach flower remedy, whenever I felt uneasy about it... don't know if it helped but I think it did.
"Fear of worldly things, illness, pain, accidents, poverty, of dark, of being alone, of misfortune. The fears of everyday life. These people quietly and secretly bear their dread; they do not freely speak of it to others." - Dr. Edward Bach