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#31 of 39 Old 11-08-2010, 10:27 AM
 
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My God, I hope those were intimidation tactics.

Suppose this is an MD who does not understand the location of the uterus in the first tri?

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I think this is an MD who has not had to remember the location of a uterus in the first tri, because none of her patients refuse ultrasounds.

She had to do all this extra intellectual work because she didn't have the ultrasound she typically relies on.

I don't think she knows how to *do* medicine without one.

Thank god my midwife does. Really made me steamed about comments I've heard about how midwives aren't as skilled as docs, blah blah.

Yeah, right. Tell that to my imaginary fibroid.

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Yeah, right. Tell that to my imaginary fibroid.
nothing about this situation is funny really, but that one comment made me laugh out loud!

Sending you hugs! I'm so glad you won't have to go back to that miserable place.

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I think this is an MD who has not had to remember the location of a uterus in the first tri, because none of her patients refuse ultrasounds.

She had to do all this extra intellectual work because she didn't have the ultrasound she typically relies on.

I don't think she knows how to *do* medicine without one.

Thank god my midwife does. Really made me steamed about comments I've heard about how midwives aren't as skilled as docs, blah blah.

Yeah, right. Tell that to my imaginary fibroid.
When is your appt with your midwife?

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nothing about this situation is funny really, but that one comment made me laugh out loud!

Sending you hugs! I'm so glad you won't have to go back to that miserable place.
Likewise

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Hi mamas. Thanks again for all the love you gave me on this thread. What an outpouring of support. And I really needed it.

 

Several of you asked for an update once I talked to my midwife, so I thought I would oblige.

 

Finally got ahold of her Monday. She was in births all weekend, it seems! smile.gif

 

She confirmed every comment you all made. This MD was looking in the wrong place for heartbeats, and that it isn't even a huge red flag to be looking in the right place and still not hear them at 12 weeks.

 

She also said there is no reason I need an ultrasound unless I choose one to look for fetal birth defects, or if I want to know the gender.

 

When I told her this doc didn't feel for fundal height and had the wand up over my bellybutton, my midwife, usually a pretty prim and proper lady, released a loud, "pshaw!" It was hilarious, especially if you know this woman.

 

Oh, and the fibroid- she says she says many women in her practice who have them, and that she doesn't worry about them until/unless they cause pain for the mama. No u/s needed to detect them, since we'd only address them if they grew so large as to become painful.

 

Also the pelvic- not necessary at all, in the midwife's opinion (just like some of you smart ladies suggested).

 

It's weird, talking to her for 10 minutes, I just thought, why was I ever worried? Sheesh. She is just so calm and calming as opposed to the alarmist doctor. 

 

I see my midwife next week on Thursday, and I'm calm as a cucumber. Never going back to the HMO. EVER.

 

Long live Midwifery, that's all I have to say!

 

 

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I am SO glad to hear your midwife's reaction to everything...  Yay!  I can't believe how panic-inducing or dismissive doctors can be sometimes (I still remember an appointment I had a few years back where the doctor literally patted me on the head at the end and said "next time be more careful, little lady" about my sprained ankle).  Aaanyhow - it sounds like you're in excellent hands with the midwife - isn't it great when 10 minutes talking to the right person can just... make you breathe deep?

 


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I am so glad you are felling better about this and have gotten some reassurance.  It makes me mad when providers MD or MW are making women panic through normal varriations or their own incompetence.  Good for you for getting the support you needed and staying cool.  I just went though something a little bit like this (though in the end it was a MW at my HMO who reassured me LOL).  Hang in there.


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She said the pelvic was the feel the uterus. And I said, can't you do that from the outside? She said no, she couldn't tell how big it was, just how high. She also said she needed to see if any bones were jutting out on the inside that would make it hard to vaginally birth. I was thinking to myself...what?? You are looking for bones in my vagina?!?! What are you saying?
 


 

 

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