I was so nervous for the two days before and was totally preparing myself for no heartbeat, no baby, or maybe twins! Turns out, baby is there, bouncing around, with a strong heartbeat and growing exactly on schedule. I can't tell you how relieved I felt. Suddenly this pregnancy felt real. My daughter watched her little brother or sister bouncing around on the screen and, for the first time in the last 10 weeks, I felt able to be excited about this.
Then, just as we were about to leave the room the doctor stopped us and said, "you know, you are only 10 weeks along and at the moment the chance of miscarriage is still very great, 20%. Not until 11 weeks does the chance drop to 2%."
Boom, there went my feelings of elation. My husband told me it was ridiculous Surely, if everything is right on track now then the chances can't change that dramatically in just one week can they?
Why do doctors use this scare tactic? Man, this is why I am with a lovely midwife!
Anyway, does anyone know whether I can start to relax a bit, or whether the chance of miscarriage really is still that high?
Anything can happen......... but chances are baby is and will be just fine!
Rae 27 DH Phillip 32 married 11-22-03
DS1 Nathaniel b. 11-21-04, DS2 Ian b. 9-8-06, DS3 Samuel b. 10-1-08, DS4 Peter b. 5-24-11
sorry that doctor was such a killjoy.
try to focus on how you felt before that.
mother is a verb
I GOT MY !!!
20% is the OVERALL miscarriage risk for the whole first trimester (or whole pregnancy? not sure). Obviously that risk goes down by week (seeing as the majority of losses are very early).
My pregnancy week-by-week book indicates that the fetal stage of pregnancy starts at 10 weeks, and this is when the risk of miscarriage really starts to drop. Add to that the fact that you've now seen a healthy, on-track fetus, and I think your individual risk drops further. I can't imagine it's 20% at this point.
Everything that I've read suggests that once you've seen the hb by u/s, the risk is closer to about 5%. Risk goes down week by week. That doctor was an idiot... the risk doesn't suddenly go from 20% to 2% when you cross the magic line from 10 to 11 weeks. I'm so sorry that you were given such bad information.
Mama to DD 2.18.03, DS 3.18.06, DD 5.7.11
Sorry your doctor was freaking you out.
Fiction writer by training, writer/editor of anything anyone will hire me for by trade. Me + D=my girls E (4/2011) and little N, 1/2014.
mama to 9 year old h 3 year old z and brand spanking new baby m
It is great to have all this support though and to hear what I guess deep down I believe to be true too. So, thank you
Heres hoping for lots of sticky babies all 'round
Some doctors are just so negative.
i guess he's on the other side of the spectrum...so much that i thought it was kinda weird. oh well.
I have had two miscarriages this year. I was always told once you heard the baby's HB with a doppler or a US after like 8 weeks...your chances of m/c drop significantly. For me, I felt immediatly reassured and better once I heard the HB on a doppler at 9 weeks 3 days. I'm sorry that doctor took your security away by the way he spoke. That is really sad to me. I can't imagine your risk being 20% still after seeing everything on US look great! Hang in there mama!! I think you're safe!! *hugs*
My midwife explained that the reason they tell you that your risk of miscarriage is 20% until 12 weeks, is because that is usually when they can find a heartbeat with a doppler. If you see it, or hear if by U/S earlier than that, you are automatically in the lower bracket or 5% or less. It is hearing the heartbeat that drops your risk, not when you hear it. There are times when other things happen, and the risk is never gone, but it does drop and I am sorry that the doctor scared you. They don't know how to trust a woman's body at all. They sometimes live in so much fear, they can't let you just be happy.
I just keep remembering, this is a natural process. My body is working everyday to help this baby grow and live!
Hope you are feeling better and keeping you in my thoughts!
Happily married mother of a tiny angel (12/06 at 5 weeks) Maya Elizabeth (12/07) and our full term angel Mateo German (Lost during labor on 06/01/11) Currently pregnant with our naturally conceived twin 's due 8/15/2012!
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