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#1 of 4 Old 03-26-2011, 11:12 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Every time I see a baby(under age 2), since my son is 2 right now, it just takes me back to when he was a baby and reminds me of how incredibly fast they grow. No matter how much you try to enjoy each phase as it lasts, it still goes by fast. Has anyone ever gotten to where they actually slowed down and were able to enjoy each phase enough to look back and say "I didn't rush!" I feel like I did pretty good enjoying each phase with DS, but still look back and think I should have slowed down. Has anyone ever done that successfully? just curious!


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I don't think there's any getting past that.  Mine are nearly 6, 3.5, and 13 months, and I still get weepy at times thinking about my oldest growing up.  Even though I was home with him every day, I still can't believe how quickly those early months and couple of years flew by.  There's no way to function day-to-day and still slow down enough to soak it in.  From the moment they are born, our children are growing up.  It's obviously the way it's supposed to be, but it still makes me weepy.

 

hug2.gif Mama; though I sometimes get sad to see the years pass, I am comforted knowing each stage gets even better than the last and when I think I couldn't love them more, suddenly I do.  Enjoy your little ones, and soak up this time as you near the end of your pregnancy.


 

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I don't think there's any getting past that.  Mine are nearly 6, 3.5, and 13 months, and I still get weepy at times thinking about my oldest growing up.  Even though I was home with him every day, I still can't believe how quickly those early months and couple of years flew by.  There's no way to function day-to-day and still slow down enough to soak it in.  From the moment they are born, our children are growing up.  It's obviously the way it's supposed to be, but it still makes me weepy.


So true!  I find the nostalgia is greatest for my oldest...and I imagine as my middle guy loses the last of his baby-ness it will kick in for him, too *sniff sniff*  I often wonder if I will ever be able to watch baby videos of my kids and actually enjoy them - it's almost a form of torture to watch videos of my 5.5 year old from when he was a baby and toddler!! :P  I think we are so lucky to live at a time when we have cheap technology to take home videos...we can look back and see what our kids were like, how they spoke, etc at various ages.  You forget that so easily, at least I find I do.  Which reminds me, I have to take more video of our middle kid, so we remember all the funny ways he says stuff right now!

 

As for how to slow down...maybe a gratitude journal or the like? Something to jot down a memory from each day.  Life goes by so fast, it's a great habit to get into when kids are small but throughout life in general.  We have one of those big fridge calendars and if the kids do/say something cute I write it on the square for that day - I have 4 years of the pages saved now, not entirely certain how I'm going to archive them but there are lots of memories captured in those tear-off sheets!

 

 

 

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hug2.gif Mama; though I sometimes get sad to see the years pass, I am comforted knowing each stage gets even better than the last and when I think I couldn't love them more, suddenly I do.  Enjoy your little ones, and soak up this time as you near the end of your pregnancy.

 

ITA with that!! And it took me by surprise. My mom is CRAZY baby-oriented, and in my head I just felt like kids went downhill (yes, I really thought that) after around two years... (not Mom's fault really, she's been wonderful all along!) until I had my own kids. It's bittersweet for sure, watching them grow and change, but it's also amazing to watch them transform, doing things you never even dreamed they'd be able to do!

 

And I second the technology angle - it's crazy to look back, but it always makes me feel like I must have done *something* right even as I was struggling to expand my world to fit theirs as they grew. And of course, THEY love to see themselves as littles!
 

 


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