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#1 of 106 Old 04-22-2011, 08:06 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I feel like I'm missing the "real" chat thread somewhere - never started one before!

 

MamaChef, thanks for setting me straight! A lot of good info at the end of the last thread about pre-e.

 

PunkElmo, I hope you've found some peace and happy space surrounding how your BP and caregiver situations are going!

 

Geekgolightly, WOOHOO!!! joy.gif

 

Mrs Bone, so happy you had a nice day - you had one coming to you!

 

AFM - Not much going on. My man got home yesterday evening, so we get an extra day together this week again, happy times, AND I sort of sneaked him into the birth center after he got here last night so he's *finally* been able to see it. He seemed pretty pleased with how it looked and felt, so while I was sure he'd feel good about it, it's nice to *know* he does.

 

Day before yesterday I must've been mentally "accosted" by 10 people, giving me the whole gamut of "you're 'bout to pop, honey!" commentary. Thought I was going to sketch. Then yesterday, nothing! From anyone! Very refreshing, lol. My exhaustion went away too.. I think it was largely because I wasn't getting all of my supplements going at the right times - I take an adrenal supplement in particular that makes all the difference - and not necessarily due to residual food poisoning effects. Either way, it was nice to have two fairly energetic days in a row. Found some fabric I've been looking for 2 days ago, and got it in the mail to my mom yesterday, so that's diaper pail liners and wet bags and some happy receiving blankets and gauze swaddling blankets.

 

With dh home, I'm not going into stalker mode... just waiting to see who's next! Hope you all have a great weekend and Happy Easter if your beliefs lead you in that direction! Happy Earth Day, too! :D


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woohoo! I predict 3 births during this chat thread.

 

I decided to go AMA and NOT go to the hospital for BP monitoring - at least hold off for a couple of days... I suppose I'm going to have to face my midwife and tell her all that at some point, I'm kind of ignoring her calls for now (which makes me feel slightly bad, but... if she can't be bothered to call me for 5 days when I'm waiting for pre-e tests, I can't stress over her calls when she transferred me out of her care.)

The EXCELLENT news is - I got the Health Care Proxy for DP and my "do not consent" list together and notarized last night in anticipation of having to go to the hospital (because if I'd gone into labor last night, that's where I would have birthed, which is SCARY to me).

 

I have meetings with two different midwives (it turns out they're actually friends and agreed to work together with me, if we decide that's what we all want) tonight and tomorrow - they've been apprised of the situation and I think they seem comfortable with it, we'll see how the in-person meetings go.

 

I think my BP went down 10 points when I heard from one of them last night via PM on here om.gif Just knowing I won't be abandoned or left to fend for myself at the hospital is HUGE!

 

I started feeling some burbling and gurgling, which might be contractionish (or it could be gas, who knows?!)... but nothing that said "o hai, THIS is what a contraction feels like!"  I still think I've got 1-2 weeks before this babe decides to show its face.

 

I'm feeling HUGE, but super-healthy... I always seem to lack energy on Mon/Tues, and have it back the rest of the week - I could leap tall buildings in a single bound today (as long as I can wear shoes that don't need re-tying too often).

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We had nice weather yesterday so I went over and spent time with our new neighbors (we just moved). Two stay at home moms (like me), both with two kids close in age to Monkey. One is still nursing her almost 2 year old so I don't have to worry about freaking her out with the tandem nursing. All the kids (and a mama) had a wonderful time feeling the baby curled up on one side of my belly. He(she?) slept through the whole thing though, except for a big rolling over. It was my first real belly rubbing extravaganza this pregnancy, but how can you say no to a fascinated three year old.

 

My midwife, my mother and I agree that while I am due on the 3rd, the 5th would be just the perfect day to have the baby. Preferably starting labour at 6 am when I usually get up. If wishing only made it so.


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That made me giggle. I've given up on shoes that have laces. it's just too much of a pain.

 

AFM- DH's side of the family is a combination of Jewish/Catholic beliefs so we're doing a Seder/Passover dinner tomorrow night and an Easter brunch on Sunday afternoon. DH and I don't believe in either but it's still nice to join the family in a time of celebration.

And if one more person texts me or messages me about when I think I'm going to have this baby I might just scream. I mean, really? Do they think I'm just not telling them or that asking will move things along faster? I get that they are excited, I really do but it's getting really old.

 

I've gotten a ton of laundry done this week. if she decided to arrive this weekend I think we would have plenty of stuff done and ready for her. the car seats still haven't been safety checked but I'm planning on doing the today after 3.

I've been making a play list of music that makes me get up and dance and I currently have that blasting so that I can get up and get moving and maybe shake this baby down a little lower, or if nothing else work up a good sweat

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that's funny, I'm due on the 5th, and keep thinking the 3rd is the perfect day! orngbiggrin.gif
 

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My midwife, my mother and I agree that while I am due on the 3rd, the 5th would be just the perfect day to have the baby. 


 

SallyNichole, I still have 4 pairs of non- slippers/flipflops that fit - running shoes, uggs, ugg rain/snow boots, and dr. martins... the uggs (only ones without the laces) are the hardest to get on because there's no more give room in the ankle!  At least with the lace-ups, you can kind of pull it apart and make the shoe bigger.  Oddly enough, my ankles aren't really swollen. just my feet.

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We have a baby- yeah, geekgolightly! I am so excited.

 

 


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Doing good here. I've completely given up on DH getting anything done that I want done before baby arrives. It's so frustrating that there's a list a mile long of things I CAN'T do, and he doesn't have the time to do them..well I take that back, he does have time, he's just usually trying to catch up on sleep or relax with DS and I after a long 12 hour day, or dealing with our HO and car insurance companies.. Oh well. He's going to have 2 weeks off after baby arrives and plans to get a lot of it done then. So, today I did the things that needed to be done that I could do, like gardening/straightening up the back yard. I went to lowes and bought a bunch of plants on sale and came home, planted, trimmed the rose bushes, sprayed down the front porch and patio and pulled a few weeds. I feel much better about the way the outside of the house looks now at least! The bins I wanted DH to move to the attic won't fit up there without putting down more plywood(not a huge priority right now), so I moved them into our closet and have a few suitcases that can fit in the attic. The box springs will be wrapped and put in the attic this weekend, and one bin full of DS's clothes I'm going to go through and mark the pieces I really want back and give the whole bin to my friend that is due in July. I feel bad because our house really isn't that messy, but we just have a lot of "stuff" that I'd prefer not to have. DH's side of the room(also his desk/office area) is full of stuff that there's nowhere else to put. Drives me crazy right now! The garage is full of stuff(half of which could just be thrown out, but DH would probably freak out), a car that we don't use, and the baby's closet is still full of DH's stuff that he won't go through. It probably wont happen until after the baby's born at this point. URGH. I know alot of this is nesting and pregnancy and would not be bothering me nearly as much if it weren't for that. That and every little mess he makes at this point is making me crazy! Anyone else in the same boat? It doesn't help that I'm at home all day with our son, and that's all I see and do..I see the messes, I clean all day to keep myself busy. So the days I leave the house it doesn't bother me as much!


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My "to do" list is so long and yet I can't even stay focused on getting anything done.  Maybe one thing a day.  I've made a list for the next few days of particular things to get done (or have DH do), so hopefully that will help.  We haven't even colored Easter eggs or picked out what the kids are wearing on Easter, so those are big ones for tomorrow/today.  I can't sleep and have been awake for 2 hours, so it's 3:30 in the morning.  I'll probably feel terrible all day from lack of sleep and not get anything done again!  I figure we'll have a baby! next week or the following week, so we better start taking this stuff seriously!


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Is a "to-do" list ever REALLY done? there's always *something* to add, I think!

 

just an update - went to a different midwife, my BP was about 6 systolic points lower and 14 diastolic points lower than the reading the stressful midwife had been getting... DP and I just sat and talked with the midwife about everything under the sun, and we feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted - I feel really VALIDATED, because she backed up a lot of the thoughts/intuitions I'd been having all along about my BP and my original midwife and was just SO... wow. I wish there were more people in the world like her!

We've got a meeting with another midwife today - the one we met with last night (who was the "runner up" in our initial search, so we'd met her before), and the one we're meeting with today are friends, and will (assuming we get along with her - we have a REALLY good feeling about it) most likely work together for my birth - YAY! 

 

I'm REALLY glad we didn't go to the hospital, and REALLY glad I found some women who seem to care SO much.

 

MrsBone - I think when you stay home all day, it's really easy to get frustrated about housework - I know my DP gets frustrated that I don't do more (I work 8 hrs a day, plus subway commute and make most of our $$, so it's not like I'm just slacking!) - I know the days he gets out of the house, he's less likely to get irritated about my not doing the dishes (or whatever chore), so I'd say it's definitely good to leave the house when you can!

 

jrsmom - I keep getting up around 4am and not being able to get back to bed... it's not even an "I have to pee" or "I need a snack" issue - it's total 3rd tri insomnia!  it's a vicious cycle... someone told me it was to get your body used to the sleep schedule you'll have with a newborn. um... yay? *sigh*

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WOOHOO Indeed! Can't wait to hear the story/see pictures!!



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The EXCELLENT news is - I got the Health Care Proxy for DP and my "do not consent" list together and notarized last night in anticipation of having to go to the hospital (because if I'd gone into labor last night, that's where I would have birthed, which is SCARY to me).

Thanks for adding ANOTHER thing to my list... Time to find my 5 wishes...
 

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That made me giggle. I've given up on shoes that have laces. it's just too much of a pain.

 

And if one more person texts me or messages me about when I think I'm going to have this baby I might just scream. I mean, really? Do they think I'm just not telling them or that asking will move things along faster? I get that they are excited, I really do but it's getting really old.

Laces? What are those? Oh, those things on the shoes I *don't* wear? Yeah, I'm a slip-on shoe kind of preggie. Actually, I'm happiest barefoot, so I typically try to keep it to flip flops. And you can send your family/friends to this website! ROFL!
 

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just an update - went to a different midwife, my BP was about 6 systolic points lower and 14 diastolic points lower than the reading the stressful midwife had been getting... DP and I just sat and talked with the midwife about everything under the sun, and we feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted - I feel really VALIDATED, because she backed up a lot of the thoughts/intuitions I'd been having all along about my BP and my original midwife and was just SO... wow. I wish there were more people in the world like her!

We've got a meeting with another midwife today - the one we met with last night (who was the "runner up" in our initial search, so we'd met her before), and the one we're meeting with today are friends, and will (assuming we get along with her - we have a REALLY good feeling about it) most likely work together for my birth - YAY! 

 

I'm REALLY glad we didn't go to the hospital, and REALLY glad I found some women who seem to care SO much.

 

 

Glad you found someone else you're gonna work with!

 

AFM- I had some serious internet issues the other day, so I couldn't get online. I was quite irked. Actually, the phrase I was using was threatening to throw the DSL off the balcony. DH was home yesterday, so my whole schedule feels off. It feels like today should be Sunday, but I get another Saturday!! :D Last night DH hung out with the kids so I could go to the last game night with the ladies from church. We were supposed to play Bunco, but ended up just talking all night. It was nice. Everyone was excited to hear I was full term. I just hope it doesn't begin a slew of "did you have the baby"s. Today I'm *supposed* to go to the store and pick up the car seat with my SIL. I've got 5 kids to feed first (my 3 siblings--ages 12, 11 and 9 are here).

 

Lazy day today and tomorrow planned. A friend of ours is coming over to play some games tomorrow. NOT planning on going to any egg hunts or the like. First, DH isn't big on the whole Easter thing... long story. Second, DD is allergic to egg and peanut, peanut being the more severe allergy and my worst fear is her coming into contact with some kid who's had a chocolate peanut butter egg or something... So yeah we're avoiding that much to the grandparents' frustration. I don't care. It's not safe for my kid...

 

Have a happy weekend everyone!!
 

 


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PunkElmo - your visit with the new midwife sounds fabulous - sobglad you're getting better vibes! I switched care providers at 34 weeks last time and it wad absolutely the right move.

Still waiting around to have this boy - 39 week tomorrow and getting impatient.

 DD1 (8yrs) + DD2 (6yrs) + DS1 (4/25/11) = one crazy adventure!
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Ugh - apologies for the iPhone typos!

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PunkElmo- so glad you are connecting with some midwives that are not alarmist

 

SallyNicole- kudos for getting all that laundry done.  I have only minimal gender neutral stuff washed until baby arrives.  Then my older sister will either descend upon us with all her boy bins or I will trek back into the attic for all the pink stuff :)

 

Mrs Bone: I totally understand where you are coming from with DH's to-do list and clutter.  We have a sizeable house and I just want to purge and clean. Right now I have the need to do it but he doesn't and I can physically only do so much so I have to live with a bit of it even though it is driving me batty.

 

 

AFM: I am preparing everything for a home visit with my HB midwife.  Can't believe we are going to do it but both DH and I are utterly relieved not to have to ward off the "medwives" the rest of the birth and just cherish the beauty of a homebirth.  I have fast labors, too, so that was causing us major stress to figure out how to logistically get to the hospital (about 40 mins drive) were it rush hour (we're outside of Boston) or just about any hour with 2 kids, 2 dogs and myself.  One of my dogs has epilepsy and takes meds 5x a day so we'd even have to take him with his meds and have him in the car to run out and give him meds.  My parents are a full hour away and my sister is about 20 mins away but also has young kids and can't just zoom over.  My HB midwife is about 25 mins from me so I'm hoping she gets here and if not, we have all the home birth supplies and DH has already done the delivery once and wouldn't have a problem a 2nd time.  I went out and bought some Hibiclens.  They did a swab at my last prenatal appt but since I'm not going back I'm assuming it is + since it was with my last pregnancy.  My current HB midwife doesn't require Hibiclens but I know I'll feel better if I use it at the onset of labor. Even were I birthing at a hospital I'd probably use the Hibiclens rinse because I'd never be able to get the full abx in time, unless they were inducing me- all my labors were 4hrs or less.

 

Right now, I'm off to wash and groom one of my dogs.  I washed the other dog on Thursday and was super crampy the entire night so I'm going to take this in stages as I need to wash, dry, brush and then do a combo of the clippers and scissors to groom him.  It's the last "strenuous" task on my to-do list.  Everything else is just decluttering and cleaning.  Can't believe I'll be holding a new baby in about 2 weeks time.  Yikes!!!

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I get sooo irritable at the end of my pregnancies!  I feel bad for my DH, but I can't seem to help it.  I'll keep trying.  Here's the latest thing that's I'm overreacting about...

 

I read an email from my MIL to my DH.  It was basically asking him to send a list of food the kids like and bedtime routines (because she is watching the kids when I have the baby), in case I "go into labor or something."  And then she states, "I wish she would just have a scheduled C-Section."   

 

Now, I really do appreciate that she is taking the kids for 2 or 3 nights and she'll have to use vacation time from her job to do it too.  But, I'm not going to schedule a C/S on a Friday so she doesn't have to use as many vacation days.  To be fair, she's very medically oriented and she probably thinks it's safer for me to schedule than to wait to go into labor and end up with a RCS or try to VBA3C. 

I know she can't understand that this is an extremely emotional struggle for me to have to deal with having had three C/S (we planned HB each time), and has no idea of my struggle to find support to not just be automatically sliced open again. Another frustrating component is I'm dealing with a fractured rib that is healing, but I still have excruciating pain with a simple cough or sneeze.  I don't know how I would get through labor and pushing (if my body actually got to that point this time.)  So mentally, I was close to accepting scheduling a C/S on or after 40 weeks because of the rib pain.  It would be reasonable to expect this baby to be 10 1/2 pounds based on the others and none have dropped at all before even after more than a day of intense 2 min apart contractions.  Now I don't want to even consider scheduling a C/S just because of her statement.  I know that isn't a good reason to make a decision one way or the other. 

 

I'm especially emotional today anyway, because 2 yrs ago today, I had the last conversation with my mom that I will ever have.  The next day, she was intubated and so drugged up for a week before she died, that even though I was by her side, I had no idea when she could hear or understand anything I was saying.  She couldn't react much at all, just open her eyes briefly, and certainly couldn't speak. She died after a surgery that was supposed to keep her on a ventilator through her throat and let her be less drugged, so she could be lucid again.  I was so hoping to be able to talk with her even one more time!  Sorry.  It helps to get it out.

 

Easter is just going to be a blast tomorrow! *Rolling my eyes*  I'm sure MIL will make well-intended but offensive statements about the pending birth.  All the extended relatives will ask too.  And I may just break down from missing my mom anyway.  Can you tell I'm looking forward to it?  The kids will have a good time though and that will make it worth it.


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OK, ladies, I'm a complete and utter nutcase!

 

(Moderator, if this is against the UA, please let me know!)

 

I have super coarse hair "downtown" and was dreading a vaginal birth/recovery with all of it. I dread going to the restroom with it! It literally hurts me. So, I had a friend tell me about this place in town that was supposed to be good for body waxing. It just happened to be next door to the Target I had to drive to to get baby's car seat. So, I popped in, and 20 minutes later popped out hairless! OH. MY. WORD! It hurt SO BAD!! I'm still quite tender. She said I was red and swollen, but even more so because I was pregnant. But, that's one thing off my secret "to do" list.

 

I also got the car seat, birth ball, and a new booster chair for DD to sit at our table in. It's pink, so she is in love with it.

 

My house is clean!! Except for my bedroom and mopping the kitchen floor, which I will deal with the bedroom next week and do the floor after dinner tonight. I'm so happy to have my little sister here helping me! Now I can finish my mama cloth pads!

 

Oh and (te he he he he), said little sis is being my guinea pig for my smaller cloth pads... she asked what I had and I told her all I had was cloth. She asks, "Will it be too weird?" I said, "I use them all the time." It's just till tomorrow lol


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jrsmom,  ((hug)).  Sounds like a tough weekend.  Could your DH just take the kids and you could get some you time?  Then they would still have fun and you wouldnt have to deal with negativity?

 

PunkElmo,  Wow, that is a heck of a difference in blood pressure.  Im glad you found someone you feel good about.

 

 

 

 


 

 

 

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JrsMom- (((HUGS))).  I can't imagine how tough it is to deal with a fractured rib at this point in pregnancy.  I am very petite and will get horrible burning in my ribs but that isn't a fracture and it kills.  So sorry about all the memories you are having about your Mom.  Even without all the pregnancy hormones it would be super tough.  I hope tomorrow goes well and you are able to enjoy the day with your children and block out your MIL.

 

Becca- send your clean house vibes my way.  My 6.5 yr old and 3.5 yr old- combined with DH and my 2 doggies are doing everything in their power to make me insane as I try to get ahead of the cleaning.  I just wish I could restrict everyone to a single room in my house, so that the floors would stay clean for longer than 30 mins. - LOL

 

 

I'm so very, very tired tonight.  This is the first night that I've noticed any swelling at all in my ankles and such.  I really pushed it today with grooming my dog, making food for an Easter breakfast at my church plus general household and kid stuff.  Can't believe I'll be 38 weeks tomorrow.  The ladies at my church threw me a surprise baby shower last weekend so I have to find some time tomorrow to write out Thank you notes.

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jrs mom *BIG HUGS* hug2.gif  I'm sending VB(AC) vibes your way!  Sometimes people don't really realize how their words feel SO hurtful to us - I'm hoping that's the case with your MIL... I'd be FUMING af.gif if someone suggested I "just schedule a c-section"

 

becca_howell - I get waxed pretty regularly - I think I mentioned in the chat thread 2 or 3 weeks ago how EXTRA sensitive the lady bits were (it didn't help that she didn't do my "regular" brazillian, and then had to go back and re-do a big chunk and I don't think she used the "sensitive" wax on the re-do shrug.gif) - I just grinned and bore it (it always hurts a wee bit, so I'm kind of used to it), but if you have any reusable cold packs for post-partum prenium icing, that might help... so might a cloth soaked in witch hazel  (can freeze that too) and put in your undies.  I'm just happy that everything from the waist down will probably be hair free until a couple weeks after the baby gets here, 'cause I'm sure I wont' feel like a bikini/brazilian for awhile after birth! (but the legs will probably get done sooner)

 

and yes joy.gif  I think I found an awesome birth team - DP and I are breathing a HUGE sigh of relief... it was all these weird things coincidentally happening and working out and... yeah, wow!  We went out to meet the other midwife - she has an awesome 1yo daughter who hung out and BF'd and played the whole time we were chatting, and we got some baby clothes at a cool family-owned indie store nearby, and had a delicious meal... we didn't get much done on our to-do list for the home today, but our EMOTIONAL to-do list got a lot shorter. *WHEW!*

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Well today was chaotic and insane but fun. DH and I woke up to our 2 year old asking us to get up at 8 am(he goes to bed at 8 usually, and didn't go to sleep until 11 last night!), so we got up, made breakfast, ate, and rushed out the door for a busy day. First we drove to a bike place about 20 miles away to get DH shoes and socks for his new bike(he entered a 5K a few months back and needs to start training for it) How he'll have time for that I don't know...anyway, while he was doing that I ran over to the nearest health food store and bought some evening primrose oil to start using to help soften things up, and picked up a few bottles of coconut water for labor. While I was in the supplements section, the lady gave me a bunch of free samples, natural sunscreen, motherlove nipple butter, saline rinse, diaper cream and some organic lotion. I'll bet there was about 15-20 dollars worth of natural products there! Went back and picked up DH and DS and drove to the bank to deposit our insurance check, then trekked to the IL's house to borrow their trailer. This whole time I was feeling like I could throw up, so I did, and it was mostly stomach acid. YUCK. I hate these last few weeks. It's like I'm back in the first trimester again. It's only in the morning. Anyway, hitched the trailer, drove to BRU to pick up the night stand, full bed conversion and the toddler rails for the baby's crib, then went and got lunch at BJ's Brewhouse. By this time it was 2pm. We then went to costco buy the swingset that we had just finished putting together for DS before hail hit it and destroyed it, so we had to get a new one..and start all over. While we were at costco, we found DS a present for when the baby's born, a Cars Tow-Mater bubble machine thingy. SO cute. 

 

After costco, we ran back to IL's house to load up a japanese maple that DH's MIL bought for us a week ago, and FIL's wood chipper(DH is going to turn all of our wood scrap from the storm into mulch for the garden), and yes, all of this fit inside the truck and on the trailer! At that point we were going to make one more stop at Lowes to get a dog run for our dog(temporary fencing, since all of our fence is down), but there wasn't enough time. We drove back home, and DH was just going to leave everything on the trailer while we got back in the car, dropped of DS at my parents house and went out for a date, but there was rain in the forecast, so he had to unload the trailer, jump in the shower and then make one more stop..We have easter service tomorrow, and DH and I are some of the core members of our church, so we offered to help load up our pastor's van with all the equipment for church service..so we stopped by his house, DH helped pastor real quick, then we headed back out to my parents house to drop off DS so DH and I could go out for a quick date. We went to an excellent Mexican restaurant, and shortly after we got there we both started complaining about how tired we were and just wanted to go to bed, but I knew this was the last weekend we had to have a date before baby arrives, so we were bound and determined to make it happen. We weren't gone an hour and a half, went back and picked up DS, then headed home. DS luckily passed out in the car on the way to my parents house to begin with so at least he's going to get a good night's sleep tonight!

 

Tomorrow we have to be at church at 8:45 am to help set up and practice singing, then we help break down after the service, and head back to my parents house for an easter egg hunt with DS's cousins, lunch and pregnancy photos. Then we're crashing the rest of the day!!  I can't believe after reading all that we actually did all that today. I was mostly just cranky, tired and worthless for help while DH did everything, but I'm just as exhausted. DH came home and immediately passed out! Oh, and with all that driving, we probaby put like 150 miles on our cars. Too much with gas prices! ACK!


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Karen-goodvibes.gif I would not be able to have it all done without the help from my sister! It's just been too much! I'm glad I got it done though because we're gonna have a game day today after church. Probably our last game day before baby gets here!


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Happy Easter, everyone!

 

PunkElmo, glad you found better birth support!

 

Thanks for all the support everyone!  I didn't mean to dump so much.  After getting my thoughts out, I already felt better.  My MIL really isn't terrible or anything--she just thinks like mainstream America thinks.  She'll make a few comments today, but I know she has good intentions. 

 

The boys woke up at 6am to find their Easter baskets.  So cute!  My DS6 wrote a note to the Easter bunny last night asking him to make it hard to find his basket.  The funny thing is, that DS6 is terrible at finding things as it is.  If something is behind or under or even slightly blocked from view, he'll never find it!  DS6 looked in the closet that his basket was in at least 3 times (but never looked up on the shelf) before giving up and asking DS4 for help. 

 

I can't wait to get them dressed up.  DD2 loves dressing up!  And she's pretty adorable, if I say so myself!  I have great kids!  Soon to have one more!  Can't wait!


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our EMOTIONAL to-do list got a lot shorter. *WHEW!*



I might be the only one but I just started figuring out recently that I've been really neglecting my emotional to-dos. Dh is working on his master's degree and his class this semester has a huge project that he has to do in a group. He hates working in a group and it's been really stressful for him. Between that and working full time, he's been in a stress haze for months. I try and not mention anything that will add to his stress but that leaves me making almost all of the decisions and feeling a little alone in this process. Honestly, I talk things out more here than I do with DH because I've found that he prefers it when I just tell him what our options were and what I decided. But this last week I've felt really lonely and stressed in trying to get everything done. and it just hit me that come hell or high water we will have a baby in our house within three weeks and it's likely to be a lot closer than further away. Anyway, I think I'm going to have to figure out a way to share some of the responsibility of these last few weeks with DH.  And I'm really glad for you two that you've taken something that could have been really frustrating and bad and made it into a positive. I'm so glad you found the support you needed.

 

 

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Jr'sMom - I still need to give you a hug even if you ARE feeling better today! hug2.gif I hope you guys had a great Easter and no one drove you too crazy with their concern! I can't imagine looking towards birth with a broken or cracked rib! You can't even use "slow deep breaths" to get through that. Hope things come together somehow for the VBA3C you've been wanting!

 

MrsBone - I'm usually the guilty party in our house, with DH doing lots of cleaning when he gets home, but the nesting thing is really kicking in... high desire and low ability are making me SO grouchy about the littlest messes around here, so I can't even imagine how much more so for you with all the extra mess and "to-dos" on your list after the storm. Dh has been taking care of his priorities, but not so much mine, and I haven't been noticing until he's gone, so then I'm on hold again for a few days. Argh!

 

PunkElmo - AWESOME. Nicely done, listening to your own needs and body and finding such a great solution for you guys! And that website is hysterical! lol.gif

 

Becca - I could use a little sister about now! :) I hope some of your crunchy crumbs rub off on her a bit while she's spending time with you guys! :)

 

SallyNichole - I kind of know where you're coming from. With DH gone so much, I find myself going to other sources to discuss, chat, vent, whatever, (like here!) so I that what little time we get together remains sort of "issue free" (not that we can't find a way to get into it easily enough!) and that frequently leaves me feeling like he's not as involved as I need him to be. I usually realize this when I casually reference something and he has no idea what I'm talking about... sigh. He's frequently ok with that too, but sometimes, like, when I'm about to give birth to his child and all, I just really want and need more from him. Hope you guys find a good connection that works for both of you soon!

 

AFM - We had a pretty good wknd. Dh cooked a lovely Easter dinner for us Saturday with plenty of help from the kids, since we knew he'd be leaving today - and he did. Even knowing it, I still get sad and pitiful. I warned the kids last night that there would be no magical baskets of sugar appearing overnight, (for a few reasons) but my dd - my TEN y/o dd who now wears bras - still woke up and asked me "where her stuff was"... so we actually ended up having an Easter Bunny based reality check this morning. Ds has long suspected that all "mythical" characters like the Bunny, Santa, the Tooth Fairy were bunk, but dd just seemed to want to cling to it all. To my surprise. But it's all over now! I told her she was just seeming so grown up that I felt like she could handle the truth, and there were a few tears, but I was relieved at how quickly she switched over to seeming to be pleased to have whole story, with clarifications on why we believe what we believe. Ds was just delighted to have been right. :) Then we took dh to work, went to the store and bought ourselves some Easter candy. Which I later regretted, but only because the abundance of sugar in their systems was abundantly obvious based on their behavior. One thing dd was happy about is that now that she's not wrapped up in specific mythical expectations, we can color eggs whenever we want - like when we have a kitchen more suited to doing that kind of thing, hopefully in a few short weeks!

 

I've been sort of suggesting dh consider an extra week off when the baby gets here. Eat rice and beans or something to make that work! Guess that will depend on whether or not we move to a cheaper place or not. I want more time with him!

 

Unfortunately, something in the happy dinner didn't agree with me AGAIN, and again I've spent most of the day today drinking Gatorade and eating pretzel chips. Stupid squished sensitive stomach!

 

We keep forgetting to take pictures together, and I don't have one shot of dh and I with me obviously pregnant this time around. Honestly, I don't know if I have them from the first two pregnancies! But we want it this time - we HAVE to get our acts together next weekend!

 

I actually got some time to myself on Saturday while Dh cooked our dinner. The local Birth Network hosts "Blessingways" each month, with two mamas telling their birth stories. This month, since it's Cesarean Awareness Month, the birth stories were a VBAC and a planned "thoughtful" c/s. The mama with the c/s had marginal placenta previa, leaving her with few options, but she was able to make some plans and have them respected, making a huge difference for her, and she found that just having some say-so helped her to heal tremendously from a traumatic emergency c/s with her last child. The meetings are held at this wonderful Natural Baby store, and not only was it a great get-together, but I FINALLY got to do some shopping while I was there! I've been very patient and not doing it with the other meetings. I really wanted some BabyLegs, but I couldn't find any that were "neutral" enough in color or design - I think my baby clothes shopping is done until LO arrives so I can decide for sure what colors I want! But I did get a cute diaper cover with little frogs on it, some raw silk and hemp diaper inserts (to use initially for me post partum), some hemp and cotton nursing pads, one little snappi, (so I'll have at least that one for the prefolds and flats) and some diaper detergent that was a great price on sale. I can't wait to spend more there ...

 

Reminding me I'd better get on the ball with things like a bed for the baby and a carseat...

 

And our A/C died today. It was 85 here today, so it is definitely too warm in here right now! My midwife/landlady said she'd have someone out here tomorrow, and I'm trying to be thankful for that instead of whiny about the heat.

 

 


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PunkElmo - seriously. That website is making me laugh so hard it's causing B-Hs!! Possibly a brilliant labor aid in a couple more weeks! ROTFLMAO.gif


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Can I have my baby this week?  That would be awesome!

 

DH woke me up telling me there was a huge porcupine in a tree outside out window (!!!) and yes, it was true, there it was.  For some reason I got all weepy looking at it, I thought it went up there to die or something cause it seemed so strange.  But it shuffled its way back down the tree somehow I guess.

 

I had a dream last night that so much milk came in that I developed a third boob in the center of my chest.  And to be real, my first two are already huge.  So I was using a breast pump in my dream last night.... first time.  Sleep is a total disaster for me these days I told DH I'd give part of one of my pinkies for a night of sweet slumber.  Apparently I'm snoring now too which sucks because when DH snores I give him shit for it cause it keeps me up.  I've lost the ability to be righteous about it.

 

We had guests come this weekend for Saturday... old friend and her husband, they did a nice job of keeping me entertained for a day, and yesterday we took a break from to-do lists and watched basketball and relaxed.  It was wonderful.  


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I'm doing my best to rub off on her. She went with me Monday to my OB appointment. When the CNM asked me if we were circumcising him, she says, "EWW!" joy.gif

 

Then she starts her period and asks me for a tampon... lol... we have cloth pads. That's about it. She asked me, "Will it be weird?" I said, "No different than wearing a disposable pads." She seemed to do well with them.

 

I'm feeling that uneasy squished tummy as well. Wishing I could sleep more... a nap is not in the works today I do believe...


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My AC died yesterday too. Fortunately, we spend the afternoon at my mother's and nights are still pretty cool. 85 is not a good temperature when one is 8 mos pregnant! It also means I probably won't be able to paint. The heat/fumes combo would definitely get me. Maybe I could do it at night- then dh could also help! I am hoping it is an easy fix but don't want to tap into savings to have someone check it out. Dh and I both work for the government and get paid on Friday- gotta love the last week before the end of the month!


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