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Old 05-19-2011, 09:09 PM
 
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so sorry, mama hug.gif i just know you'll be holding your baby very soon. hang in there, and connect in with your baby. its such good news that you are so far dilated. you won't have much more work to do once things get rolling. who knows, maybe you'll just come to an urge to push and then babe will be there!
 

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well i'm frustrated. i did the labour smoothie this morning at 8 and again at 12. besides making me feel horrible all day and clearing out my system, it hasn't done much. my midwife says if by 2:00 pm tomorrow it hasn't done a lot, then it won't. blah. oh well. i realize i still have a week to go but i am SEVEN FREAKING CENTIMETRES. WTF, BABY!?! who sits around for a week between 4 and 7 cm besides me?! ugh. i know this is just my body and how i do labour, and even though it isn't conventional obviously it is working. i just have to keep telling myself that. we walked in the park and at the fair and had a picnic for dinner and played soccer in the dog park and i was having some crazy contractions...of course as soon as i came home and laid down they dulled away. oh well. life goes on. she can't stay in there forever and they think it will be soon. we decided not to rupture membranes unless it was a really good idea, right now it just isn't. the midwife agreed with me. i see them again on wednesday (hopefully this doesn't go on THAT long) and they can stretch and sweep...again. i think that i have accepted the fact that i can't MAKE her come out (well i could, but i don't want to that badly) and that i'm not letting anybody down if she comes later than i'd like. i wanted to make everything work out and i think i just stressed myself out so much about it that i forced myself to not progress at all. so whatever. i'm done! i'm letting go. 

 

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Big hugs rylee! And you aren't alone on hanging out dilated...I'm not with this one but did with my 2nd...I was at least 5cm for a week before he came...it was a very easy labor too. And I've heard 2 stories from 2 different MW's of ladies who have hung out at 7, so you're not alone.
I hope that you can relax this evening and maybe just letting go will help you go into labor. Hugs!

Oh and you could try pumping/nipple stim and see if that brings it on.


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thank you :)

unfortunately i gave my breast pump away last summer on freecycle to a desperate sounding new mom and don't have the money to replace it.

 

but, i am feeling SO much more at peace about this all and cleared up a lot of anxiety with our parents over them being here at the same time. i was so stressed out trying to make it work so that they would be here at separate times because i knew they'd both be patronizing about it and be like "oh well we don't want to intrude, we'll just go home" ... which they both said tonight on the phone...after a complete breakdown and my husband calling them both back it's all been organized and worked out and we will all be in our house as one big happy family. THANK GOD. seriously. i was so stressed out...

 

feeling pretty crampy.


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thank you :)

unfortunately i gave my breast pump away last summer on freecycle to a desperate sounding new mom and don't have the money to replace it.

but, i am feeling SO much more at peace about this all and cleared up a lot of anxiety with our parents over them being here at the same time. i was so stressed out trying to make it work so that they would be here at separate times because i knew they'd both be patronizing about it and be like "oh well we don't want to intrude, we'll just go home" ... which they both said tonight on the phone...after a complete breakdown and my husband calling them both back it's all been organized and worked out and we will all be in our house as one big happy family. THANK GOD. seriously. i was so stressed out...

feeling pretty crampy.


Hopefully having figured all that out will bring on labor. Stress does strange things, maybe it was keeping your labor away.


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This might sound too hippy dippy for you, but have you tried taking a relaxing shower or bath by candlelight and trying some light meditation? I did this when I was overdue and terribly uncomfortable, as a way to help calm my own nerves and stop myself from getting caught in that cycle of, "I want baby out!" and, "My baby wont' come out!" that can really easily exhaust and depress you.

I sat in the shower (to block out noise) and visualized reaching into my body and cradling my baby, saying things like, "I'm ready for you to come out, but I want you to be ready too. I trust you. I trust my body. I am uncomfortable and impatient, and that's okay."  Give those feelings room - they're valid!

 

(PS. hoping this doesn't come of as pushy, TOTALLY not my intention if it is!! Only to suggest a helper for if you're in need of some calming down time).


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oh no, i am TOTALLY into that idea. we probably will sound a little bit more "hippy dippy" after you read this!! haha

 

i broke down last night in my husbands arms bawling about how i knew i didn't LET the labour smoothie work and how i was certain it was mostly because of how stressed out i have been that she is still hanging around in there totally comfortable. we are both firm believers in the connection of your mind to your body and i know my anxiety over our family and trying to make everything work to the best of everyone's schedules (which is totally ridiculous, by the way..and i KNOW that!) and trying to have the baby before my BIL leaves town sunday etc etc etc...it's all dumb. and i'm pretty over it. i am not 100% relaxed yet, but i'm trying to be. my husband pointed out that i am probably anxious and might have even caused myself to dilate further by thinking that it HAD to be time and happen because with haye i was induced at 38w 6d (for stupid reasons, but whatever) when i was 3-4 cm. 

 

 i'm just going to go on with my life and know that really, she is only 6 days off my EDD (which is 100% accurately lined up with my 30 day cycles, they predict the 24th but i say the 26th...the last ultrasound showed the 26th).

 

my blood pressure is 120/80, her heartrate is 145, she's head down and in an optimal birth position, her face is in a good spot, i think she moved her hand down, she's low, and most importantly,  she's healthy. so yes, i want her out. the selfish part of me wants her out NOW. but you're totally right...it has to be both our time. i'm trying to visualize that and understand it. 

 

thanks for the support, everyone. i'm really glad we didn't go with the membrane rupture. sometimes you just need to be talked off the edge, right? haha. i'm not saying it won't come down to that, but it hasn't happened yet and i don't see it in the near future.


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I'm so glad to hear your husband is so supportive of you during this time. That's SO important and so awesome. :)

 

I can't lie, as much faith as I have in my baby's timing: I want her out. Not enough to do anything about it, but enough to sit in bed at night and cry because I'm in so much pain (I have a spinal disease and it's causing me a lot, A LOT, of pain right now as a result of baby's position. My mobility has been cut down to almost zip, even with the aide of a mobility device - I'm already disabled and this has effectively made me house-bound). My partner has been a total rock for me and said some of the most wonderful, supportive things. He helps me keep perspective: in the long run this is only a few more days or a few more weeks... and really? That's nothing by comparison to having a healthy, NORMAL labour and birth that is free of additional factors thrown in to complicate or intensify it. So I keep that in my mind when I'm feeling crappy. There really isn't *that* much time left, and I can hang on.

 

PS. We're due at the same time!! My conception date says 24th, early ultrasound said 26th. :)


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awesome!!! that's exciting! i've been reading your posts on LJ (as you know) and have really been feeling for you with the pain...and the idiots you deal with on a day-to-day basis... mischievous.gif

and your hubby is awesome too! he sure is supportive. thank god i have derek, seriously...he has been a dream through this pregnancy, reading ina may and researching things. 10000% supportive and amazing, cleaning and watching haye, getting me anything i need...i don't know how women do it without supportive partners, honestly.

 

but yeah. i'm done. i just want her out too!! 

 


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thanks, sami :) <3


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