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Old 11-06-2010, 11:54 AM - Thread Starter
 
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For some reason I have had such a hard time believing this pregnancy is viable. I have all the symptoms, and can't believe how big my tummy is already (10 weeks today). With my daughter we had no major problems and now have a bouncing two year old. Maybe it is just that I can't spend as much time focusing on this baby. Anyway, a few days ago, after many tearful episodes in which I told my husband and midwife that I had a hard time believing that nothing was wrong with the baby, I finally went for an ultrasound yesterday. We were not planning one until the 20 week scan, but I felt that I really needed to know either way.
I was so nervous for the two days before and was totally preparing myself for no heartbeat, no baby, or maybe twins! Turns out, baby is there, bouncing around, with a strong heartbeat and growing exactly on schedule. I can't tell you how relieved I felt. Suddenly this pregnancy felt real. My daughter watched her little brother or sister bouncing around on the screen and, for the first time in the last 10 weeks, I felt able to be excited about this.
Then, just as we were about to leave the room the doctor stopped us and said, "you know, you are only 10 weeks along and at the moment the chance of miscarriage is still very great, 20%. Not until 11 weeks does the chance drop to 2%."
Boom, there went my feelings of elation. My husband told me it was ridiculous Surely, if everything is right on track now then the chances can't change that dramatically in just one week can they?
Why do doctors use this scare tactic? Man, this is why I am with a lovely midwife!
Anyway, does anyone know whether I can start to relax a bit, or whether the chance of miscarriage really is still that high?

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I don't know the statistics, and couldnt find that statistic the dr. quoted online. But I think you got what you needed before his comment, and you should hold onto that.

I hope you can, as you said, start to relax a bit, and enjoy the pregnancy! The statistic I do know is that the greatest odds are still that this baby will be just fine.
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I think what you should take away from the visit is that you have a beautiful, healthy, thriving little person growing inside of you and that the doctor not only has atrocious bedside manner but is most likely a sadist.

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thanks for the responses ladies. I do need to remember that the odds are that baby will be just fine. He/she looked just fine yesterday and i need to remember that.
Blah to doctors and their twisted around statistics!

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I think what you should take away from the visit is that you have a beautiful, healthy, thriving little person growing inside of you and that the doctor not only has atrocious bedside manner but is most likely a sadist.


Just thought I'd DDC crash to say that MY doctor, who is wonderful, and who in the past has been very cautious about giving false hope, told me that after seeing a healthy pregnancy w/heartbeat at 8 weeks, the chance of miscarriage dropped to around 3%. Online, I see 3% and 5% come up frequently as the risk after healthy heartbeat. She also told me that most miscarriages happen by 8 weeks.

I know it's so, so hard to stay calm.

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I think what you should take away from the visit is that you have a beautiful, healthy, thriving little person growing inside of you and that the doctor not only has atrocious bedside manner but is most likely a sadist.

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What a jerk, and he was totally wrong. I saw a fertility specialist before I conceived my first and she told me (and this is what I've been able to find online) that after seeing a strong heartbeat on ultrasound at 6 weeks, the chance of miscarriage was already down to 5% and keeps dropping thereafter. If you are at 10 weeks and everything looks great on u/s, I would put your chances of miscarriage now at 3% or less.

The more doctors I go to, the more I realize that doctors sometimes talk out of their asses and don't always know as much as a well-informed patient.

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I am 13 weeks pregnant and have felt the SAME as you did and was so stressed about the possibility of miscarriage that I wasn't sleeping at night. Mine was more along the lines of I can't *possibly* be lucky enough to have 3 healthy children so fate must be planning on kicking me in the rear at some point soon. Anyways, I had a great ultrasound at 8 weeks (actually the DR was fear-mongering too) and had a midwives appt. at 12 weeks where we again heard the heartbeat so I'm starting to accept that maybe I will be lucky again this time to bring a healthy child into this world. Remember, odds our definitely in our favor that everything is normal, healthy, and fine.

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Thank you so much for sharing this. I think this is how I have been feeling. How can I possibly be this lucky again!?!? Something must go wrong this time!?!?! I think I am accepting that maybe it will all be ok though....well, I think I need to believe that everything will be ok. It is just so hard though isn't it!

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I really needed this thread today. I've been stressing out so much too. feeling exactly like Mommykrista. I am 9 weeks and 2 or 3 days and I have just felt so stressed. I haven't had a midwife appointment yet (first one on weds) or an ultrasound so I've been worried that there really is no baby. I am so glad that I am not the only one who has these concerns and that I'm not going crazy.

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Yeah, I have to agree that doctor is a jerk. Even when I was pregnant for the third time after a normal pregnancy and then a later first trimester miscarriage, my OB was over the top positive once we had seen a heartbeat...even though the baby was measuring over a week behind where I thought it should be. The chances of miscarriage drop drastically once you have seen the heartbeat.

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I found a graph online (sorry I didn't save the link--it was in a PDF document) where they showed that from the moment of conception, there is a 25% chance of miscarriage, MOST of those being before or during the time of a regular AF so that most women mercifully don't even know they were pregnant. After that, from about 5 weeks to 12 weeks, the chance of miscarriage drops about one or two percent every weeks from like 15% to 1% or so. I would agree that this shows scientifically that the chance of something going wrong at this point is only a few percentage points at most.

I would think that seeing a moving baby with a strong heartbeat at 10 weeks is pretty much an ALL CLEAR for first trimester dangers.

I'm with you though. At 10 weeks myself, I have not heard a heartbeat or seen my baby on a sonogram. I just pray that in a week and a half when I go in to see my midwife, she can pick up a heartbeat on dopplar. If she doesn't, I think I will be in your exact same shoes of wanting to see a healthy baby so badly that I will do or pay whatever I have to so I can see that little person I'm carrying.

Enjoy those precious images of your own little one! I'm so happy for you!

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if you cruise over to the may 2011 club there is a pretty identical post over there with a lot of reassuring things being said smile.gif

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