Hi all. I'm starting this thread as a place for those of us who are considering or have decided a on UC (unassisted birth) for our June babes.It's a spin-off of a few threads discussing making the decision to UC. It seems like those of us who are considering it are still working through some logistics, fears, plans, and feelings surrounding having an unassisted birth -- this would be a great place to talk about it, work through our fears, questions, and support each other on our journeys. Some mamas have already had one, or multiple UCs and of course are welcome here to share their wisdom, experience and so on!
I thought it could be a supportive place even if some of us ultimately decide against having an unassisted birth. Many of us are working against 20-30+ years of societal and cultural conditioning that says a woman cannot birth without "professionals". Some of us have had birth trauma, or c-sections, and though desiring UC, may later choose it's best mentally/physically not to. That's fine, no pressure!
I myself am still not sure if I will UC, though I feel really, really led to it. I had a home birth with my daughter and though my midwife was swell, the baby came with or without her and I feel like I would have been more comfortable alone (or with dh). I'm working through the fears and what ifs and I do think they're valid even if improbable or rare, because they affect the process and mental/spiritual state.
I know I have to get to a place of complete trust and I'm getting there.
To be brutally honest, my biggest fears are CPS, and if something happened to the baby, everyone blaming me (including myself) even if it would have happened with a midwife in attendance. I also fear having to transfer and being treated like an irresponsible nutcase. I fear shoulder dystocia (sp?) even though these hips were made for birthin', I assure you lol, so that's not a big fear. I fear the baby not breathing and me completely forgetting infant CPR or freezing and being of no help. I fear losing control during transition and calling 911 for no reason or something and blowing the whole thing etc... I don't fear hemorrhage for some reason because I've never been a bleeder at all and that's not a you're-dying-now scenario. I don't really fear breech but that would freak me out a bit I think, although people say it's not a big worry.
Obviously I have some things to work through but I feel really led to UC.
Welcome all :)