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#1 of 20 Old 04-05-2011, 08:54 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I really don't believe MDC fits in with my personal philosophy with much of anything anymore and am actually incredibly offended by another thread in another due date club that rather badly trashes emergency services and lumps it into a general "medical model"

 

 

I dont know where in the last 5 years MDC got so snarky and catty but this isn't the place for me anymore.

 

 

I have genuinely appreciated everyones well wishes in regards to our recent hardships and have generally enjoyed reading everyones posts on a multitude of subjects so I wanted to say goodbye...and good luck to everyone with your plans, wishes hopes and of course new babies.

 

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Thank you for your reply to my post!  I'm new here so haven't seen this just yet.  Good luck to you in everything.


 

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I'm so, so sorry that you were offended by another post.  Trust me, I have BTDT.  If you do decide to stay away, I just hope that your birth goes well!  Good luck to you!


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Awww, you don't want to just check in here at our DDC every so often?

 

I feel you, though - MDC can be rough at times.


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Oh, mama, I completely understand where you are coming from. I have often thought about throwing in the towel here... but my addictive personality just won't let me do it. The climate here has gotten a little wonky lately and I do fear that it will only get worse in the future as MDC grows and grows.

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I sure do wish you'd only take a break and, in a little bit, come back and share with us. Whatever you decide I wish you the best. blowkiss.gif


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There are people on here who believe I 'poisoned' my baby because I formula fed and suggested I didn't 'try hard enough' when I communicated how truly nightmarish breastfeeding was for us and explained (read:defended) my entire situation. There are people on here who believe I am 'unparenting' because we unschool and that I'm lazy and don't teach my kid anything. The UC forum has positively been a battlefield lately (I dunno what's going on there but the mods seem to be MIA).

 

Anyway, my point is, even when MDC does fit with one's personal philosophy in many ways, there are people and threads that will be really offensive. It's part of the monster of being anonymous on the internet and people feeling more free to say whatever they like. It's sad and something I think most of us with didn't happen, but unfortunately... it does.

 

I'm so sorry that you were hurt, especially since I know how rough of a time you've had lately and all the adversity in your life recently. Like the others have said, of course do what you feel is best for you but we're here if you need to vent or want to share.

 

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ddcc and nak....

 

I agree that mdc feels different lately!  (much snarkier)

 

But ... do you know that you can hide/ignore specific users so you don't see their posts!??

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We could always make our own DDC Mama forum if we would all like to stay in touch.

 

I have noticed the unfriendly conversations taking place all over, as well as the overall "all or nothing" thoughts. I try to ignore them and pick up only on things that remain civil as best as I can.

 

Hopefully things will turn around though.


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Whew, I get you... I had amazing birth experiences at my hospital. Here at MDC, saying so is close to blasphemy. It's worth staying for me so far.
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I'm so sorry to hear that! As a nursing student and future nurse it's really hard for me to hear the medical profession trashed at times. I know that not everyone is bad and not everyone is good. I know you've just had a ton going on lately and I completely understand you needing to distance yourself. I do hope that you'll come back to our DDC and check in so we know how you're doing.


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Count me, too, in the club of future health-care providers who get twitchy at some of the stuff on MDC. Sorry to hear that you've gotten so fed up. It's a bummer to face drama instead of support--nobody needs that.


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I also had a great hospital experience AND my last birth was attended at home by an obstetrician. I cannot stand to see some of the generalisations, assumptions and judgements that go on between women who would do better to support, gently educate and love one another. We're not all that way!

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I also had a great hospital experience AND my last birth was attended at home by an obstetrician. I cannot stand to see some of the generalisations, assumptions and judgements that go on between women who would do better to support, gently educate and love one another. We're not all that way!


 

I totally agree.  I don't post a whole lot on here, hardly ever anywhere but the DDC!  It's a great source for info and help for me since I'm more on the crunchy side, but sometimes the generalizations and judgement just goes to far for me.


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I wanted to wish you much love and good luck.  I don't get to post here as often as I would like, but I love knowing that this is a good place for resources.  Like all internet message boards, you have to wade through the folks that hide behind the anonymity.  We will be here if you need us.


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I understand what you mean ... but I feel it's important to have people who have varied opinions so it isn't just an echo chamber here, y'know?  I really like to hear opposing views on different subjects and there are a lot of really intelligent posters here who make good points, some of which I agree with and some I don't.  I lean toward crunchy but I am definitely not as far down that road as a lot of people on MDC, but yet on a really mainstream board people would think I had two heads.  I hope you change your mind, as I for one really enjoy hearing your perspective, but if not then good luck with your birth! 


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I would say more in support, but I'll probably just accumulate more naughty points. Anyway, I hope you find what you're looking for.


 


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Sorry mama. I think message boards go in cycles....and it's definitely been a little crazy here lately! You can just bookmark this DDC and just come here and see ONLY the DDC club posts :)


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  I lean toward crunchy but I am definitely not as far down that road as a lot of people on MDC, but yet on a really mainstream board people would think I had two heads. 



See... I'm so far down the road it turned into dirt and rocks and *I* feel like I have 2 heads 'round these parts most times unless I'm haging out somewhere particularly "radical" like UC areas etc. If you think about it, Mothering magazine seemed to originally be geared toward non-mainstream parenting and living but clearly things have changed slightly ( or maybe not so slightly) with time. I digress. Perspective is a curious thing.

 

To the OP- The mommy wars are alive and well no matter where you go. Just stay away from junk that pisses you off. That's what I do... and I have managed to never accumulate any naughty points- and clearly, I'm not banned. Unfortunatley, it does limit my participation on MDC greatly. I think I mostly stay because I've been around for so long and I learned so much here as a young parent. But who knows... I could be right behind you eventually. It's a toss up day to day. Unfortunate. Wishing you the best mama!!!

 


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See... I'm so far down the road it turned into dirt and rocks and *I* feel like I have 2 heads 'round these parts most times unless I'm haging out somewhere particularly "radical" like UC areas etc. If you think about it, Mothering magazine seemed to originally be geared toward non-mainstream parenting and living but clearly things have changed slightly ( or maybe not so slightly) with time. I digress. Perspective is a curious thing.

 

To the OP- The mommy wars are alive and well no matter where you go. Just stay away from junk that pisses you off. That's what I do... and I have managed to never accumulate any naughty points- and clearly, I'm not banned. Unfortunatley, it does limit my participation on MDC greatly. I think I mostly stay because I've been around for so long and I learned so much here as a young parent. But who knows... I could be right behind you eventually. It's a toss up day to day. Unfortunate. Wishing you the best mama!!!

 


Totally agree.  OP, if it makes you feel any better, I tend to post stuff here that matters to me, and everything else is simply not worth my time or energy.  There are a lot of things that I do that go against the general grain here (won't go into specifics but I personally feel good as a mom and don't need the judgement that I see on here sometimes).  I mean, I WOH, I had an unplanned CS, I pumped and supplemented with formula, I have a kid, that (gasp) goes to preschool.  People can be very harsh but I've been around long enough and have the experiences in life to know that a loving family and good childrearing is not contingent on a pre-determined list.  I'm sorry to see you go, but I understand your issues.  Hopefully you'll continue to follow us and know that many of us are in the same position, philosophically and spiritually, as you.

 


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