1st OB appt. NP said "gain no more than 10 pounds TOTAL"! - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 27 Old 12-14-2010, 03:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
mia's mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Central New York
Posts: 95
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Granted, I am overweight and my BMI is close to being "obese" though my body composition dictates it to be less than that. But, I was shocked as my NP told me to gain no more than 10 pounds, my entire pregnancy. 

 

Doesn't baby, placenta, blood volume, etc., etc, account for more than 10 pounds???? 

 

I am feeling so awful as she made me feel like I'd be harming my baby if I didn't keep my weight in check. And truly, I just feel like a slob.

Feeling so hurt and angry and not sure if this is accurate or the NP's tactic for keeping myself out of the fridge. greensad.gif

 

I guess the worst part is that I am a really healthy eater and struggle with weight because of a slow metabolism. I'm not out eating cheeseburgers or snack on junk!

 

What do you think???


 
Tracy, mama to Mia Elizabethhearts.gif10~4~06 and Baby Ava Elise baby.gif 8~6~11

mia's mama is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 27 Old 12-14-2010, 05:34 PM
 
alyssatuininga's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2003
Location: New Hampshire
Posts: 959
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I think she is nuts. I think if you eat healthy and try and stay somewhat active you will be fine! I am overweight- started each of my pregnancies 20-40lbs over my ideal body weight. In my pregnancies I have gained about 22, 40 and 10lbs respectively. The only times I gained less would be because I was highly sick in my first trimester and lost weight. 


AP crunchy homeschooling mama to Henning (1/4/03), Connor (7/1/05) and Elijah (9/21/08) Forever holding my 3 lost little ones in my heart.
alyssatuininga is offline  
#3 of 27 Old 12-14-2010, 08:21 PM
 
scheelimama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Ft. Sill, OK
Posts: 5,290
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I think she's nuts too.  Even if you're overweight, I think the recommendation is still 15-25 lbs. weight gain in a healthy pregnancy.  25-35 in normal weight people and 35-40 in very thin, or something close to that.  I've always gained between 30-35 and eat whatever I want (mostly healthy, but I eat when I'm hungry, somedays that a lot and other days not so much).  That's just what my body puts on naturally.  I think most people find that they can't totally control how much weight they gain.  You have some control over it, but in the end, your body will gain what it needs to to make a healthy baby.


Alisha, Army wife to Nathan , Homeschooling mama to Scheeli (May 2003) , Bronwynn (Nov. 2004) :, Piper (Nov. 2007) , and Wesley (January 2010)
scheelimama is offline  
#4 of 27 Old 12-14-2010, 09:03 PM
 
lookatreestar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 971
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

shes nuts. that sounds like the rec my grandma got when she was pregnant in the 50s, her doctor actually told her not to gain more than 10lbs and made it seem like the end of the world too. i say eat until satisfied. mostly healthy foods but feel free to splurge too.


mama to one '07 and one '09
lookatreestar is offline  
#5 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 03:19 AM
 
LivingSky's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 1,389
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Your body knows more about what it needs than your doctor does.

 

Most doctors (not all, but most) have a very strictly defined view of weight and a healthy body. They seem to think that the BMI and the Canadian/American Food Guide are the answer to everything. Well, screw that! :) My highest "healthy" body weight based on the BMI is 155 lbs. Once, a few years ago, when I was bedridden after a car accident for 6 months and had my jaw wired shut, I droppd down to 175 lbs, and I looked like a skeleton. And that was not just fat loss, but muscle loss as well. So losing another 20 lbs just to BARELY reach my healty weight? No, thanks. My frame simply will not accept that.

 

My doctor wanted me to lose weight before I got pregnant. I agree, I need to lose weight, and I tried and failed and got pregnant anyways. Now, weight loss is on hold until after the baby is here. Period. Thankfully, my doc has not suggested I lose weight or restrict weight gain now. My personal goal is to try to keep my weight gain to about 25 lbs, but if it ends up being more than that, I'm not going to stress. I'm going to exercise and eat what my body tells me it needs. Breastfeeding and babywearing once the baby is here should help me lose a lot of it anyways :)


Married to my wonderful DH 5/2010, Mom to DS1 Kayden 7-14-2011 wild.gif and DS2 Jakob 8-29-2013 babyf.gif


Owned by Friesians and Drum Horses, plus the dogs, cats, rabbits and chickens

LivingSky is offline  
#6 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 03:52 AM
 
heavensearth's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Winnipeg, Canada
Posts: 302
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I vote she's nuts! I am overweight, but my doctor doesn't bring up my weight at all.I dont even get weighed at appointments unless its necissary for my bloodwork, and I like it that way. He just mentions that its important to eat healthy and stay active. After our little baby is here, I hope to lose 50 lbs, but that's after the baby.

 

Im sorry that your doctor has brought up your weight and has given you ridiculous ordered.. she should have told you to be healthy and put your baby first.. ugh!


Serena - married to Jason, mom to Sebastian (b.12.22.2008) and Poppy (b.07.07.2011) ♥

heavensearth is offline  
#7 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 04:40 AM
 
maisiedotes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Central MA
Posts: 2,955
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I think it is a big hunk o'crap.  They told me that during my first pregnancy and I was so upset if I gained weight that I made myself sick over it.  I am curious what my OB will say- today is my first appointment.  I think they just want to make sure you don't go crazy and gain 120 lbs.  I have found through my pregnancies that I gain what I gain, no matter how well or not-so-well I eat.  My highest weight gain was 32 lbs. Don't let them scare you into not eating!  I just try to eat a healthy diet and not worry so much about the weight gain. 


Kerri, mom to Doran  angel2.gif  (born still 7/6/05 at 33 weeks), Mairaed (11/16/07),  angel1.gif 11/15/08 at 10 weeks,  Kieran (11/2/09).   angel1.gif 1/11/11 at 15 weeks
maisiedotes is offline  
#8 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 05:04 AM
 
tourist.'s Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: in a daydream
Posts: 456
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Quote:

Originally Posted by scheelimama View Post

You have some control over it, but in the end, your body will gain what it needs to to make a healthy baby.


yeahthat.gif
 

And I agree, as long as you're eating a healthy diet, I really wouldn't worry much about weight gain.


ahhh to be able to think well enough to create a clever signature.sleeping.gif someday i will have enough sleep to accomplish this task...

Janae, mama to X (1/09) & X (7/11) and wife to J (since 9/96!)  Homebirthing, cloth diapering, baby (and toddler) wearing, co-sleeping, lactivist, intactivist. luxlove.gif

tourist. is offline  
#9 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 06:40 AM
 
CarrieCo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Central Illinois
Posts: 494
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I lost 14lbs from my pre pregnancy weight from breast feeding my boys .... of course I've gained it all back now and I started this pregnancy with the exact same weight as a I did my last.  I do think I need to eat better and exercise more ... I was secretly hoping that morning sickness would help! lol Still no barfing yet!

 

Something to keep in mind.... the baby is consuming a lot of calories just to make him/her so if you eat right, you could lose fat and gain baby!


Loving my twin boys! fencing.gif 11/03/2009 And my daughter 08/16/11 hearts.gif novaxnocirc.gif vbac.gifmomma  chicken3.gif Homesteader supermod.gif Doula

CarrieCo is offline  
#10 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 09:06 AM
 
javilu's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California
Posts: 1,763
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)

I don't see how a ten-pound limit is even really possible without your body actually *losing* weight in the process (which isn't desireable, in my book).  I actually did end my pregnancy only up 9 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight, but it was only because I lost 10+ pounds during my super-sick first trimester.  I wasn't able to eat very much toward the end, either, as I got full and sick-feeling again after only small amounts.  It was NOT ideal nutrition or anything near it, and I would not recommend it to anyone who can help it.


SAH dissertating mama femalesling.GIF to my sweet little boy (2/2009)
and his rainbow1284.gif baby brother (7/2011)
javilu is online now  
#11 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 09:37 AM
 
BarefootinBrooklyn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 434
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

 

If you're uncomfortable with the recommendation, as I would be (seems a bit extreme to me too--the recommended weight gain for someone who is overweight is obviously less than for someone who isn't, but 10 pounds could be a whole baby, not to mention fluid, etc.) you might want to think about switching care providers and getting another opinion? If you do gain more than that, it sounds like this practice might give you a hard time and be more likely to induce you early for something silly like "big baby." 


Mama to one darling and wild 3 year old, and growing a tiny new June Bean.
BarefootinBrooklyn is offline  
#12 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 10:27 AM - Thread Starter
 
mia's mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Central New York
Posts: 95
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

thank you, everyone!!! I am really considering finding another provider. I'm worried that this isn't just the nurse practitioner's philosophy, but the practices' as well. I think ideally I'd like a midwife as this will most likely be our last baby and my aim is to have as little intervention as possible anyway. My doc is great but there are now 5 total physicians in the office and anyone of them could deliver me. Besides, I just think it's ridiculous to give a woman an amount she needs to gain~ and 10 pounds is simply unattainable IMO, not when you consider the baby will weigh a full 3/4 of the weight I would gain! It's just stupid and I want to complain... in fact, I think I'm going to... and contact a different provider (with midwife on staff for a consultation). It's just really too bad because my doctor is so wonderful, and a champion in our community for women who want natural birth. I think if he knew this nurse said this he'd scoff... but can't be sure. I may just call and try to speak with him and ask his opinion. Not sure I can get him in the phone though.


 
Tracy, mama to Mia Elizabethhearts.gif10~4~06 and Baby Ava Elise baby.gif 8~6~11

mia's mama is offline  
#13 of 27 Old 12-15-2010, 03:31 PM
 
awallrising's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Wyoming Valley (PA)
Posts: 672
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Like PP, if you are comfortable with this Dr, find someone else.  I find that midwives tend to be much more compassionate & realistic.  As for weight gain, I am 50 lbs overweight (and am petite).  My midwife said no more than 25, but maybe more like 15.  To figure out calories to eat during pregnancy, she said to take the calories to maintain your ideal weight & add 300.  Make sure you get at least 60 grams of protein a day & eat a healthy variety.

 

With my last pregnancy I started out 30 lbs overweight, gained about 25 lbs & lost all of the baby weight in under 3 mths.

 

Your Dr should be more compassionate, but the reality is that overweight women can end up with large babies and health probs like gestational diabetes (which can also lead to a big baby).

 

If you feel like it, tell your Dr your concerns & give them a chance to respond.  If you don't like the response, you can move on.  Try to ask around & find a midwife or a Dr with more compassion.


"Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth."- Albert Einstein

awallrising is offline  
#14 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 06:22 AM
 
gardenofsimple's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: livin' the dream, NY
Posts: 146
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I don't think 10 lbs is reasonable, and I don't think you should stress yourself trying to stick to that.

 

If you are bordering obese, the recommendations are 15-20. Sure YOU may be overweight, but your baby still needs the nutrients.

 

 

I gained about 70 with my first pregnancy and my doctor didn't care. I was slender to begin with, but quitting smoking packed on the lbs in the first few months. I was monitored and healthy. My second one I gained 80 and my doctor was HORRIBLE about it. Mean. I used to hear the midwives laughing about me outside the room and the I would leave there in tears almost every time I went because of the comments about my weight. I was a size 2 before that pregnancy, and again quitting smoking packed on about 40 lbs in the first 5 months.

 

I didn't lose the weight after my youngest and as a result I am starting this pregnancy 30lbs higher than my ideal weight (I've gained 4 lbs already and am at 154 and 5'3)

 

My midwife didn't say a word about my weight yet, though I am definitely in the overweight category.

 

Look, I get that you have to be careful with weight gain. I had VERY large babies (8.12 and 10.12). It was MUCH harder to lose the second time.

 

But instead of concentrating on weight and numbers, what I'm doing (aside from my new french fry addiction) is trying to focus on eating well - whole, local foods. And getting activity. My first time, when I gained 70lbs? I walked 5 miles a day at least 4 days a week until the last month. I was huge, but I wasn't really unfit.

 

I wouldn't recommend ignoring weight totally, but it shouldn't be your focus OR your doctors focus. It should be on maintaining healthy eating and a healthy lifestyle.

 

Oh, and I would consider seeing a different doctor - just from my traumatic experience with a weight concerned doctor.


Crystal
 
mom to two boys (9/19/98) (8/24/03) and soon to be # 3 (7/2/11)
 
 
gardenofsimple is offline  
#15 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 06:58 AM
 
Gismobabe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Vienna
Posts: 325
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I think that it should be up to the mother how much she decides to gain. I am the same as you weight wise and have been for my past 2 pregnancies. I gained 25 Ibs with each boy and lost all of it before I got pregnant again. I did not have diabetes or difficult labors or any other weight related issues.

This time I am trying to only gain a max of 15 Ibs. That said, I think that the baby/blood/placenta can take the calories out of "fat storage" if the mom eats enough vitamines and protein.

My 89 y.o. friend (who weighs about 95 Ibs) had her daughter during Second World War and she gaind 2 Ibs her entire pregnancy. Her daughter was rather skinny when she was born (she got one orange during the pregnancy and gave it to her toddler niece) but she nursed her (and the neigbor baby) for one year and her daughter grew up to be university professor with an undestroyable health (she has been smoking for the last 45 years of her life).

I think that whatever you do, your baby will be fine. It just depends on you how much you are willing/able to restrict yourself during this pregnancy. And I would tell this NP that her way of telling you, hurt you.


Barbara, Mama to Isabel (06/2004), Jake (08/2006-03/2007), Noah (01/2008), and Matteo (07/2011) 
Please always research the safety of vaccines even if your doctor tells you they are harmless! novaxnocirc.gif

Gismobabe is offline  
#16 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 08:04 AM
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 2,342
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

DDCC. I am so sorry you had to deal with this. I got fat-shamed by an insensitive NP too, for having gained 'too much' weight relative to the point in my pregnancy that I was at. It was really upsetting! As pregnant women, we're following what our bodies need, and we know what they need better than somebody who's not in our skin. These practitioners should be ashamed of themselves, particularly given how many women have food issues of some sort and could get REALLY messed up by that sort of comment.

 

I do have a friend who was overweight before she got pregnant, and she said after she had her son she weighed less than she had pre-pregnancy. So I suppose it's not unheard of, but if you are eating the food you need and you gain more than your practitioner said to, then clearly that's the amount you were supposed to gain.

erigeron is offline  
#17 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 01:11 PM
 
RollerCoasterMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: the burbs
Posts: 5,384
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 49 Post(s)

I was just told yesterday not to gain more than 10 lbs by my midwife.  But I put on 10 right before we got pregnant because of all of the cycling meds.  The midwife is pretty much assuming that once I'm off all the extra hormones (no more shots!!!) then things will stabilize again.  I only gained a net of 6 lbs with DS and he was roaringly healthy.  But I had a lot extra to start with, and I lost about 12 the first few months when all food was gross.  I gained that back plus 6 lbs gradually starting about mid-way through the 2nd trimester and lost all of it within a week or two of giving birth(including the extra 12 I'd lost early on).  I didn't try to do anytihng in particular.  My OB wasn't worried and my body was doing what it needed to do. 

 

This time, I weigh more because of the meds, and I don't have the strong food aversions like with DS, so I haven't lost anything.  But I'm also not really gaining yet. 

 

I wasn't feeling shamed by the midwife.  I was actually relieved that she wasn't going to yell later if I didn't put on more than that.  I'm eating healthy and going to start up the eliptical again, so I ought to be able to keep things pretty moderate and just trust my body to do the rest.  And one of these days I can quit sticking needles into my poor hips!  Then we'll just let nature do what it's supposed to do.

 

I didn't interpret my max wieght suggestion as command.  More of a caution to just keep an eye on things. 

 

However, if I were getting the guilt trip at each visit...I sure wouldn't be sticking with that clinic!

 

 

 

RollerCoasterMama is online now  
#18 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 04:05 PM
 
reikimama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: SRB, FL
Posts: 111
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I gained about 50 with each of my previous pregnancies.  I just stopped looking at the scales when I'd go for a prenatal visit and the last one I didn't even step on one that much because I didn't see a MW that much.  (I'm not recommending that.)  I started out this pg a size 9.  I am 5'8" and if I am 145, then I am a beanpole although I am a size 7/8 at that weight, and that's the median weight supposedly for my height.  When I got below 150 once, my husband said I was too thin.  I was between 160-165 when I got pregnant.  I have no clue what I weigh now, but I still fit into my jeans... However trying on other non-maternity jeans a couple of weeks ago sucked.

 

My mother (not my biological mother) always harped on me because she gained 12 with one child and maybe 17 with the other.  But it was the late 60's/mid 70's and she was (and is) a chain smoker.  I have to politely remind her that I do not share her genes and therefore the idea that I should gain what she gained is absurd.  Plus, my babies all over 8 1/2 Lbs and her babies were barely 7Lbs.  I also BF all of mine and I think she might have tried with DS1 but didn't last long at all.  Heck, I can't blame her.  The first birth my dad saw was not his own children, but my first... Don't ask... And he had no clue why I was "breathing weird."  Basically, mom did the best she could.  bow2.gif

 

If you love the MD, try to work it out with him.  If not, find someone else for a provider.  To have someone harp on your weight starting now is just frustrating.  I know the hard part is finding providers that are pro-natural birth.  I pray my MW won't be like that.  I don't see her until Jan 13th, so I have no clue until then.

 

Hugs, keep your chin up and tell whoever off that you need to tell off.  It's your body and your baby.stillheart.gif


Lisa (39), DH (51), SDS (29), DD (8/29/01), DD (8/22/03), DS (8/3/06), an angel named Xan angel1.gif, who went home on 12/18/10 and now a new bundle of joy due 05/24/13 stork-suprise.gif.

reikimama is offline  
#19 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 04:27 PM
 
kriket's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: SW Ohio
Posts: 4,609
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)

I gained 90lbs in my first pregnancy :( which I haven't lost all of) and am really trying to only gain 15lbs this pregnancy. (Disclaimer, I quit smoking, had just lost 50lb which I easily put back on, and had pre-e swelling, I lost 30lbs in the first week after the swelling and baby were off me)

 

For me, I can't "just eat healthy" I have to be micro managing my diet, or I eat like it's my last meal, every meal. I don't have the full switch in my head. I will literally eat until I get sick.

 

My goals are 0 lbs in the first trimester. Which I have *almost* reached! I am 9w and I think I have gained 2 lbs. Then about 1lb a week until birth. I think my weight gain set me up for pre-e and a long recovery.

 

But yeah. 10lbs is ludicrous.


I'm crunchy... Like a Dorito.
Mama to Sprout jog.gif 4.09 and Bruises babyboy.gif 7.11 handfasted to superhero.gif 9.07

kriket is offline  
#20 of 27 Old 12-16-2010, 04:47 PM
 
motherhendoula's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: LawnGuyLand
Posts: 751
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I just wanted to chime in - i weighed 245 when i got pregnant (im 5'6")  and was 297 when i delivered (and i pushed that baby out while leaning over a STURDY chair!)   While this isnt exactly something id recommend to all eat.gif  buuuut,  I wanted to say i had NO health problems at all - no HBP, no GD - i delivered at home with my midwife, as planned.  (baby was 8'8") 

so eat, birth, and be merry!


Happy at Home Mama to DD 4/95 DS 4/98 and DS#2 8/10  femalesling.GIF        h20homebirth.gif       sewmachine.gif

http://www.etsy.com/shop/motherhendoula
 

motherhendoula is offline  
#21 of 27 Old 12-21-2010, 07:59 PM
 
heavensearth's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Winnipeg, Canada
Posts: 302
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by motherhendoula View Post

I just wanted to chime in - i weighed 245 when i got pregnant (im 5'6")  and was 297 when i delivered (and i pushed that baby out while leaning over a STURDY chair!)   While this isnt exactly something id recommend to all eat.gif  buuuut,  I wanted to say i had NO health problems at all - no HBP, no GD - i delivered at home with my midwife, as planned.  (baby was 8'8") 

so eat, birth, and be merry!


I loved reading this! thumb.gif
 

maisiedotes likes this.

Serena - married to Jason, mom to Sebastian (b.12.22.2008) and Poppy (b.07.07.2011) ♥

heavensearth is offline  
#22 of 27 Old 12-23-2010, 11:24 AM
 
lamamaloca's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 30
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I've read that some recent studies actually suggest that obese women and their babies may do better if the woman gains less than 15 lbs, or even if she gains no weight at all. See here: http://www.webmd.com/baby/news/20090602/pregnancy-no-weight-gain-for-obese-women

lamamaloca is offline  
#23 of 27 Old 12-23-2010, 12:57 PM
 
javilu's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California
Posts: 1,763
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)

That very well may be, but obese is a range of weights and if the OP is at the very lower end or not even technically obese, her provider's mandate seems extreme.


SAH dissertating mama femalesling.GIF to my sweet little boy (2/2009)
and his rainbow1284.gif baby brother (7/2011)
javilu is online now  
#24 of 27 Old 12-23-2010, 01:08 PM
 
Jenne's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 2,945
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DDC crashing...I'm 34 weeks today and have gained about 6 pounds. I'm probably 50 pounds over what *I* feel is a good weight for me (and that is probably 40 pounds or so over what the median for my height would be but I have a big frame). I don't think I could gain more weight if I wanted to. My midwife said at our first appointment that she was going to help me only gain 10-15 pounds. It didn't hurt my feelings but I also haven't tried to gain or not gain. I eat what I want when I want. Period. I have had a sweets aversion which has probably helped but I don't think there is necessarily a ton of difference between a cheeseburger and a slice of cake. eat.gif Anyway, depending on how many calories you were eating pre-pregnancy you may be able to continue doing what you were doing before and have a really slow gain. I totally wouldn't stress about your weight or really what a practioner says/thinks about it. As pp have mentioned your body is going to do what it needs to do provided you are feeding it the appropriate fuel. orngbiggrin.gif

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I wish you a happy and healthy 40 weeks!

Jenne

joy.gifOur joy is born!  joy.gif
            02/11/2011   
                   
Jenne is offline  
#25 of 27 Old 12-23-2010, 01:36 PM
 
texmati's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 6,760
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)

I'm also very overweight but I was told last pregnancy (only when I asked) that the recommendation is still 15 pounds. This time around (same starting weight) no one has mentioned it.


Texmati-- Knitter, Hindu, vegetarian, WOHM. Wife to superdadsuperhero.gif and mom to DS babyf.gif24 months, and DD boc.gif 8 months! .

texmati is offline  
#26 of 27 Old 12-24-2010, 09:00 AM - Thread Starter
 
mia's mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Central New York
Posts: 95
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Yea, no. My BMI is 29 so very close to being obese but not technically so. Plus, I believe that BMI is a flawed system that doesn't take body composition into consideration. I do not have a high fat to muscle ratio for example as I have a more muscular frame.
 

Quote:
Originally Posted by javilu View Post

That very well may be, but obese is a range of weights and if the OP is at the very lower end or not even technically obese, her provider's mandate seems extreme.



and again to everyone. Thank you so much!! As it turns out, my body is really slowly gaining. At first, I even dropped 4 pounds and now I am making my way back to my original weight. I think I have been eating healthy and getting the nutrients I need (but really not eating more), just burning a lot more calories. I appreciate all of your input so much. Unfortunately, her words have kind of stuck with me and it's something I often think about. But I plan on asking my OB on the 3rd about it and still leaving the practice if I find he's not on board with me. 


 
Tracy, mama to Mia Elizabethhearts.gif10~4~06 and Baby Ava Elise baby.gif 8~6~11

mia's mama is offline  
#27 of 27 Old 12-27-2010, 11:17 AM
 
firefly mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Oregon
Posts: 245
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

How about this - refuse to step on the scale.  I haven't stepped on a scale in my midwife's office in 2 pregnancies.  We discuss my eating and exercise habits, and I casually monitor my weight from home, but don't talk numbers with the midwife at all. 

 

You know what is good for your body. 


Christine, mama to Ava (7.05), Alder (5.07), Sadie (2.09) and #4 due mid-July 2011! 
firefly mama is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off