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#1 of 13 Old 02-13-2010, 09:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My father died suddenly.
It's been twenty years.
It changed who I am.
It changed the path of my life.
I grew up without him.
He died suddenly with no warning.
I feel like I want to say something,
but twenty years on it just seems dramatic.
Or at least I worry that is what people will think.

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20 years is a tremendous milestone, and losing your father is a tremendous loss.
so sorry!

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Not dramatic at all. My father died over 33 years ago, and I still mourn the loss. Your life is just never the same.

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I could have written your exact words except make it 28 years. My life also would have been completely different.

I'm sorry for both of us.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine that even 20 years later the loss would still sting.

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Wow your words echo true, every one of them. Very eloquently put. In two months it will be twenty years for me also. It was sudden also. I was 14. It changed everything forever. He visits me in my dreams. About a week ago he came to meet my daughter and the love we felt was real. I find great comfort in his visitacions and hope you can experience the same.
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It has been 29 yrs this month since my father died. There are times I still feel like that 10 yr old girl....
" It changed who I am.
It changed the path of my life
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So true...


Blessings and Love to You..
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big hug. my dad died 5 years ago and it feels like yesterday.

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