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#1 of 12 Old 04-15-2010, 06:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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But, I just need to get this out somewhere that I won't be laughed at. I found out this morning that the lead singer of a band I grew up listening to passed away last night. I'm 27 now, and have listened to his music since I was 14. His music helped make me into who I am, dh and I drove 6 hours to see this band almost 3 years ago, we were making plans to see them again this year. I'm mourning the loss of someone I never met. Is this weird?

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who are you talking about? I might be right there with you.

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Absolutely not. This kind of connection is exactly why people make their art their lives. (Well, other than the few pimply teen-aged boys who want to form a rock band to get girls...) You don't know him personally, but you can still mourn the loss of his music. It gave you memories, a connection to something outside of you (big for a teenager), and now you know the source of all that is gone. It is very sad. And it's the very reason why I don't understand why people want to know all the dirty details of celebrities.... But that's a different thread. I'm sorry for your loss.
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I cried and cried and cried the night Harry Chapin died, and I hardly knew him. Mostly I knew him from listening to his albums over and over again, although I did meet him in person a handful of times at local concerts.

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who are you talking about? I might be right there with you.
Peter Steele of Type O Negative.

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Ok, never heard of him or them but I can relate. Every time someone I watched growing up from movies or music dies, I feel like part of my past has been washed away.
I have a few artists that are near and dear to me. If they died, I would be devastated. They are part of my soundtrack of my life.

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I am so sorry. It's so sad, even if you never met him. I still remember the day Jerry Garcia died. I was on my lunch break and heard it on the radio. My boss actually sent me home from work, I was crying so hard.
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I am right there with you, I was shocked too.

At first I didn't believe it, they said he died in 2005 too, but it was just a hype thing, but I found out that he did indeed die.. very sad, very young.

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I don't think it's weird at all. I was never a Type O fan, but many of my friends were. I still remember where I was and how I felt when I learned that Stevie Ray Vaughn, Jeff Buckley, and Dimebag Darrell died, so I can definitely empathize.

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I don't think it's weird at all. I was never a Type O fan, but many of my friends were. I still remember where I was and how I felt when I learned that Stevie Ray Vaughn, Jeff Buckley, and Dimebag Darrell died, so I can definitely empathize.
RIGHT! I was horribly sad when I found out about Dime Bag Darrell, awesome musician and awesome person. I was just stuck on pause for a few days.

oddly enough I was really sad when Left eye from TLC died too, I never really got into their music at all though, but I was in tears when I found out about that. I guess its because they were all so young. It was just tragic

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Thanks everyone for making me feel less strange about it. Dh came home from work last night and admitted to having a good cry on his way home. While we like many of the same bands, Type O Negative was one that we could always agree on, no matter what.

What makes his death even more tragic was that he was enjoying a period of sobriety. It seems so tragic that after struggling with drug and alcohol addiction for years that he would pass after (finally) kicking his demons. I'm really wanting to get the TON logo tattooed in memory of what this band has meant to me over the years.

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I say go for it!

I have a bunch of tats, and most of them represent someone I have lost.

I loved my dog so much that when I had to put him down, I tattooed his dog tag with wings on each side on my neck. I still miss him.

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