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My 2 sisters and a friend were walking near (not on) a road when a man on drugs "fell asleep" and ripped her away from me. This happened on july 17th and i still cant see straight. I am so traumatized and horrified. we are an unbelievably close family and i miss her so much i cant stand it.
Her name is Sophie May
I have 4 children that i am struggling to care for, it is constant.
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OMG that is horrifying. I am so so sorry
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I am so so sorry. What a horrible thing to experience and what a huge loss. My sisters are second only to my children as the people I adore most in my life. I can't imagine what you must be feeling having lost one of them. Big, big hugs to you.

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I am so sorry, too. It sounds really horribly traumatizing. If it's available to you I'd consider some therapy for yourself. You may be suffering from PTSD from such a tragic event on top of your deep grief.

Truly sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry mama. Please consider therapy for yourself. PTSD on top of so much grief is too much for anyone.

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Thank you, I definitely am suffering from PTSD. I have had some pretty intensive therapy since the accident. It has been exhausting though, so I am easing off a bit. I am so overwhelmed with daily life, that it is very difficult for me to look beyond putting one foot in front of the other.
Plus we are going through the beginning of the court process, which is just so painful.
I am exhausted, even getting in the car or out of it in a parking lot or area that there is traffic is traumatizing. If i have my kids with me it is unbearable.
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I'm so sorry
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i am so sorry. No one should have to endure this type of pain.

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I am so very sorry. We are here for you if you need to talk or just vent. I can' imagine what you are feeling. PTSD in and of itself is hard enough on top of the deep grief. Is there someone who can give you a day or two of relief, just to relax and give yourself some time? Maybe even a mother's helper to get your over this grief exhaustion?

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I am so sorry. Please take care. Your sister will always be in your heart.

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I am so sorry for your loss.
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i lost my brother in march of this year. i know how hard it is. i still can't believe that he doesn't exist anymore, that i will never again see his face, that i can't reach out and touch him, that i can't call him.

i am so sorry you are going through this. there are only two people who mean more to me than him,(they are my kids) and i miss him so much.

i hope you start to move to a place of peace. i am sending you lots of love. i am so so sorry.
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I hope that you find peace and healing.

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Oh wow. s, how tragic. I am so so sorry for your loss. Hoping you can find some peace and healing.

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I am so sorry for your loss. How horrible.

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I am so very sorry. We are here for you if you need to talk or just vent. I can' imagine what you are feeling. PTSD in and of itself is hard enough on top of the deep grief. Is there someone who can give you a day or two of relief, just to relax and give yourself some time? Maybe even a mother's helper to get your over this grief exhaustion?
you are so right, that is just what i need. A day or two of relief. I just have to figure out how to get it. The people that "get it" are mostly my immediate family and they are devistated too. Seems like a huge effort to find someone to help me.
Right now, I feel so numb and am just going through the motions of daily life.

One thing that I can say is THANK HEAVENS FOR MY CHILDREN!!!! The 2 younger ones are young enough that they dont understand and are just little bubbles of joy floating around needing my constant care.
I have to go take care of them right now.....
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i lost my brother in march of this year. i know how hard it is. i still can't believe that he doesn't exist anymore, that i will never again see his face, that i can't reach out and touch him, that i can't call him.

i am so sorry you are going through this. there are only two people who mean more to me than him,(they are my kids) and i miss him so much.

i hope you start to move to a place of peace. i am sending you lots of love. i am so so sorry.

I could have written this. I lost my brother april of 08. Still doesnt feel real.

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