Thank you for sharing your story. You are an extremely courageous mother. I pray that you heal a little more each day. I pray that the sun shines on you and your family more than usual. I pray that you find peace and that you receive the All-Healing Power from the universe.
dear friend, i know how you feel, everything you said i feel, all i do is cry all day, pray to Jehovah God, my precious daughter was murdered 9/28/10 its been 17months and not a day goes by, not a second goes by that my stomach isnt wrenching, the people who killed her made it look like a suiced, they hung her from a door knob, she was found sitting on the ground with her feet indian style ive had 4 different people come to my house telling me how she really died, it is sickening, the cops are wrong, there is no justice but even if they got put away in jail my baby girl wouldnt come back. she had just turned 21, i have a 18 year old son who i adore, but i hate it when people say "you still have your son" yes and i thank god every day for him, but i had a daughter that no one can replace her, she was my life, my kids are my life, i dont know what to do, this life is hell for real, i dont believe god took her, god is a God of love, he desires nobody to die, it was satan that took our girls, my daughters name was Roxxane, what was your little babys name? I am so sorry you lost your baby, you didnt do anything wrong, i take comfort in the bible in rev 21; 3,4 it says and god will wipe every tear from every eye and death and pain will be no more, no more crying or dying. the former things will have passed away. I still cant myself to clean up her room but odlyenough i buy things for her room, jewlery, etc....things i know she would like, we will see oudaughters again this Jehovah has promised the ressurection, god cannot lie, take comfor t in that please, my name is cindy you can call me, 916-289-2093 i have free long distance so if you dont just call me for a sec and i will call you back, i dont want to live, but i have my wonderful son, he needs me, i am a single mom, i live in roseville ca, where do you live? i feel exactly like you, how am i suppose to live without her and everywhere i go i see moms with there daughters and i feel so jaded, i actually break out in tears in stores, people must think i am crazy, i dont care what people think, i had to bury my beautiful, wonderful precious daughter, all i want is to have her back and feel her warm body next to mine, i want to hold her, kiss her 3 times on her forhead, kiss her feet, and never let her go, what happened to us is the worst thing a parent can experience, you never think your child will die before you, no parent should have to bury their child, i will pray for you and ask Jehovah for his holy spirit to help you endure this horrific nightmare, i hope to hear from you i think we can help each other, Cindy
I just saw this thread and want to tell you how truly sorry I am. Please please don't blame yourself!! As others have said, you are a wonderful loving mommy. This was nothing more than a horrible tragedy. Your baby was so loved, it is so clear. You will see her again. Please let us know how you are doing.
I am so sorry sweetie. I hope that you can find some counseling and talk with someone about your grief. There are many support groups out there and you could talk to some other moms that have gone through what you are going through. I will put you in my prayers for peace and a way for you to cope and handle your grief while taking care of your boys.
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10
Hello. I found this thread doing a Google search on "How am I supposed to live without my daughter"? :( My daughter took her own life in May of 2010. She was 25. She shot herself. She was beautiful and brilliant and accomplished. I am a single mom with two teenagers still at home. I work fulltime. For the first year after my daughter died, I did not know moment to moment how I could continue. I was trying so hard just to survive and make it through the day and keep being a mom and keep going to work and keep trying to hold things together. When I would pass a cemetery, I would think how peaceful it looked. It is only within the last couple of months that I realized I had thought to myself that I didn't want to die. I am having more days now than not when I feel life is still worth living, but today, once again, I am so heartbroken, sitting at work, fighting tears. I have beautiful, wonderful living children -- I have a large family -- and I love every one of them and honestly, it is because of them that I am still here, but ... Before my daughter died, she'd been in rehab in another state. She'd been discharged and had a good job and a good living situation, even had just received a promotion and raise. Then I got the call from the Sheriff that she had gone missing. I am haunted by the knowledge her body lay there alone in the woods where she took her own life for several days. I went down with my other daughters to see her one more time and find out everything I could. The clothes she was wearing when she died are still underneath my bed. Some days I think I can learn to live with this;others I wonder. I want you to know, beautiful mama whose 18mo old died, beautiful mother whose daughter was murdered, that it comforts me to recognize in your words the pain I also feel. I don't know how we go on, beautiful women. I don't know how. I am sitting here at work on this beautiful day fighting to believe I can be whole again. I loved my baby girl so much. I birthed her naturally, I breastfed her and tandem-breast-fed her, I was overjoyed with her, always. We are a broken hearted sisterhood, those of us who have known this loss. My love and prayers for all of you, for all of us.
Aw I'm so glad you've come back to update us. I still think of you sometimes and send you love. It warms my heart to know you've been blessed with another baby girl...you're right: sent by Yulia. I'm sure she's looking over you and your babies now as an angel.
I wish for you that you can find some way, some safe space where you can fall apart a little and at least allow yourself to cry. Put your arms around yourself and give yourself a hug and take care of you. You do deserve that. You are so strong and brave to go on being a mama to your kids and having the courage to bring another one into the world after your loss. It's okay to let go and cry. I bet it would feel good. There's a Jewish proverb that says: Tears are for the soul what soap is for the body. In my experience it has been true. A real release and cleansing of sorts. Very healing. Yes, you are healing and you can continue to heal.....as much as the pain will never completely go away and you never will or should get "over" it. But some healing is natural and don't doubt it.
Sending you much love and support. So nice to hear from you again.
Mama since 2010
Multicultural living in Europe
So good to read this update from you, I think of you too. A new baby girl- that is wonderful. I agree, sent by Yulia.
Be kind to yourself mama. *Hugs*
Mother to DD born Jan 2008 and DS born Nov 2011.
So happy to hear from you and that you're moving on with life. We are hoping that after our daughter died last July of cancer that we will somehow be blessed with another child by whatever means He sees fit. Your story is very sad, but very inspiring! xo