I am so sorry! Please find some support IRL... I cant imagine how you are feeling... hugs!
There are no words to convey what I am feeling after reading your post- my heart breaks for you- I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.
I am so very sorry, Mama. Have you been able to see a grief counselor?
I am so very sorry.
Oh my god mama I am so so sorry. I can't even imagine how you feel.
I cannot imagine how you are feeling. I am so so sorry for your loss. Losing a child has got to be the single worst thing that could happen to a person. Do you know if there are any support groups close to you for people who have lost a young child? I think it might be very good for you to talk to other people who have been in your shoes- who have had their worlds come crashing down and survived. I will keep you in my prayers.
so very sorry, mama.
I am so sorry for your loss. :(
Oh, mama, you are living every parent's nightmare. We all do our best to keep our children safe, but none of us is perfect. Most of the time our children are lucky and manage to survive despite the times we parents turn our backs, misjudge something, overlook a risk. And then occasionally situations like yours happen.
It will take many years, but it will get easier for you. Take it one day, one hour, one breath at a time, if needed. Hang in there. Find support and counseling. We are all sending you hugs!
My heart goes out to you, AveryLostMommy. Best wishes and healing thoughts to help you through this dark time.
Oh Mama! My heart breaks for you and for your family. Your baby knows you love her, and knows that you would have helped her if you had known.
I am so sorry to hear your story, and wish I could take some of your pain away.
I wish you peace,
I am so sad for you, and so very sorry for your loss. Reading you story just makes me cry.
i am so sorry
i am so sorry, too. i believe there is a national group called Compassionate Friends that helps support anyone who has lost a child. be gentle with yourself.
Oh my God, I am so very very very sorry for your loss and it just breaks my heart to read your post. :( :( :(
One of my twins is dependent on oxygen to survive, and I almost lost him one night when his oxygen ran out without us knowing. When I checked on him, he was blue/grey, but with CPR and rescue breathing, he regained consciousness...but I was so close. We were so close. I know that horrible HORRIBLE HORRIBLE feeling. Oh my God, I'm just so very sorry for you. :(
Please reach out. I know how easy it feels to just let your grief consume you and sink into it...but your sons need you and your husband needs you and it WILL get better.
I will keep you in my prayers. I can't tell you how my heart breaks for what you are living through right now. :(
I am so sorry to hear of your loss it's such a sad thing a parent has to go through . Many thoughts and prayers to your family to send you some comfort during your grieving .
There are some support groups for loss of children maybe you can see if you can find one and are you able to get added help for your boys since it's hard to move on to just continue after such a unexpected loss.
Due to your loss share with parents about getting things to childproof those blind cords it may help you by helping other parents realize what danger blind cords can actually be by sharing your story .
You will be helping protect other family kids by passing that around .
I read your post hours ago and bawled me eyes out. My heart and soul ache for your family right now. I don't think there is anything that anyone can say to take your pain away, but we all wish that we could! I agree with pp that said you beautiful little girl knows that you love her and that you would have done anything in your power to keep her safe. This is just such a tragic accident that is so fresh right now. I know that time will help heal, but please be talking to your husband, your family, your friends, a support group, even a professional, about how you're feeling. You need support to help you get through this. You are so young----you don't deserve to live the rest of your life feeling like this.
Please know that you are in my prayers.....Sending so much love your way tonight.
Oh my. I have no words of wisdom or even words of comfort.....nothing I can say will make it better, (I wish I could) No mom should outlive her child. I hope you have a lot of support. What a tragedy. HUGS.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I know how much you must love your little girl. Please do whatever you need to to get through each day and find some extra support for yourself and your family. Our prayers are with you.
I want to reiterate what a pp'er said, so many of us are just lucky that bad things don't turn worse. This summer a young child drowned in a public pool, with lots of people around - it took so little time.
Your daughter enjoyed your immense love her whole life.
I'm so so so sorry for you and your family, and my thoughts are with all of you.
As a counsellor, I can tell you something that will actually help with the trauma - EMDR. It is a trauma therapy. A good EMDR therapist can help you deal with the upsetting images and feelings without making you forget...it will just be less upsetting and easier to deal with. It is not that it will solve your grief but it really will make a huge difference, often you see vast improvement in the first few sessions (even the first for some people). You cannot go through what you did and not have trauma - untreated you can expect it to stay with you. EMDR may also help you remember the good things about your daughter when she was alive rather than the images of her after the accident. It will also help you deal with any negative messages you have about yourself in the situation.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. You should be able to find someone through the EMDRIA website (just google it). Other ideas would be finding someone who does Self Regulation Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, or SensoriMotor Psychotherapy. I would advise this after dealing with it via EMDR though. Avoid traditional therapists doing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or other talk-based therapies as they can be re-traumatizing and also much longer term therapy. Therapy used to be all about talk but there are now approaches that do much more than cognitively resolving issues.
This is the type of situation in which you should seek help. Certainly also look for peer groups, etc. However an EMDR therapist can really make a huge change in your level of functioning - which of course will help so much with your sons. It will also help you feel less disturbed by the whole thing...which I'm sure is figuring huge right now.
Blessings, Momma. Let me know if you have questions.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your family. :hug
There are no words . Losing a child is the most profound loss a person can face. I am so so sorry.
I have a friend who's 18 month old daughter died after being accidentally caught in a blind cord. Only in her case it was at daycare. My friend and her husband started a non-profit to help change laws and inform people about this danger. I know everything is still raw but if you'd like a link to their website please PM me.
I am so so sorry. I am in tears and my heart is breaking for you. This is the deepest loss a person can experience in this life, and you are going through your darkest hour right now. I echo the sentiment to seek support. I also think Somatic Experiencing (as mentioned in a PP) could help, as it deals with surviving trauma and helping to regulate your body's response. I would also want to be connecting with other parents who've lost a child. They are the only people who can even begin to understand what you are going through right now. Please reach out for help.This was not your fault. Your angel baby knows you love her and will always be with you in spirit, your souls are intertwined. I don't know what your spiritual leanings are, but I found the book No Death, No Fear by Thich Nahn Hahn to be a good resource when I was grieving. The teachings of Eckhart Tolle also address the spiritual aspects of facing great loss.