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#1 of 4 Old 05-08-2012, 10:50 AM - Thread Starter
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I got a call this morning from the supervisor of my sons preschool, were I was working part time this past year, that one of his teachers took her life on Sunday night. I am shocked and saddened and confused. She was a wonderful teacher and I really enjoyed working with her, she always seemed happy but was a pretty private person. No one at the school has any idea of what she must have been going through. She was married and had a 14 year old son. I can not understand why she did this although I do understand she must have been in terrible pain to feel this was her only option bawling.gif We were a small and close group of teachers and I am feeling her loss immensely.


I haven't told my DS yet as I am waiting for the supervisor to tell the parents at the school. I am dreading telling him as he really liked his teacher and the last picture I have in my head of her is her smiling on Friday afternoon and DS saying good bye to her and to have a good weekend.


This is the first person I have lost to suicide, I myself have dealt with mental health issues most of my life and have been close to suicidal when I was a teenager but the thought of the pain I would cause to others always stopped me from following through. It's just so terrible and sad and I needed to talk to someone about it. Thanks for reading.

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I have not great advice but couldn't read without letting you know I totally hear you. I lost my friend shortly after high school to suicide. It is horrible and leaves many questions. It does get better with time but is always a tender subject. 


I will pray for strength and peace for everyone involved. candle.gif

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My heart is heavy knowing she was in so much pain and for her son being without a mother.  I'm sure all of her students will grieve and miss her too hug.gif

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I'm so sorry.


I was also going to recommend finding some books or advice on how to help your son deal with this. I'm glad someone had a concrete recommendation as I don't. I wish you and your son the best in getting through this.

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