I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Your story is heartbreaking and your blog brought me to tears. I pray you find the strength you need to hold your family together and raise your other children. This is every mothers worst nightmare and I am so saddened by your loss :(
I just wanted to send you my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. You sound so strong, while you may not feel it now, I can sense it in your post and blog. I wish you peace and healing in 2013 and beyond.
I can't imagine losing a child like this, and I can't imagine being the one responsible for a child being lost this way. Such a tragedy for everyone. It just makes no sense.
Hang in there, momma.
I saw your title on the main page and my heart fell for you. I'm sorry for the agony that you are enduring. Thinking supportive thoughts for you.
I am so very very sorry for your loss.
My son is 2.5....my only child...and if he was to be taken from me...I could no longer live.....
You are such a very strong women.
I read your whole blog.....it made tears roll down my face.
I would hate the whole world if I were in your shoes.
But you stay positive & strong....you are an amazing women.
My heart and soul are with you and yours,
The richness of life cannot be sold nor bought. --me
I saw your story on facebook and saw that it was his birthday recently. I am so sorry for your loss and the pain that you and your family are going through. you've been in my thoughts and I wish it had never happened.
SAHM, military wife, momma to DSD 2004, 2007, DS 2008, DD 2011
Sami , wife to , mama to Tate 10/14/05, Kaleb 12/17/07, Bram 3/13/10-11/17/12, Alden 2/1/12, October 2014
Thanks for checking in. I'm glad to hear you're making it. I think of you and your family often.
Holly and David
Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)
I am sitting here at the computer, reading your blog, bawling my eyes out. This world is so unfair. A parent should never lose a child, ever. It is so wrong, and I hate it. I hate the pain you are going through, and I hate the fear I have every single day of losing my own children. I've had those nightmares like the ones you've described, and awoke crying and afraid. There is no future to daydream about, because in an instant your life can change. I accept your challenge, to be bold, to love, and to be fearless--in honor of Bram. All we have for certain is the present, and there is no reason to let one moment slip by without showing your loved ones how important they are.
I'm sorry you, your son, and your family have to suffer this way.
"Those who are able to see beyond the shadows and lies of their culture will never be understood, let alone believed, by the masses."
~Captain Hammer (j/k, it was Plato)
I was just reading your blog and I can't believe the comments you've gotten. What in the hell is wrong with people? He was a child, standing there, a spilt second, anything could go wrong or nothing at all. For goodness sake, I'm outraged for you.
I'm so sorry, people just don't understand, there are no guarantees in life, you literally NEVER know what might happen. It's not about doing everything right.
i am so so sorry for your loss it is a really hard thing to thru i hope you can find some peace as time goes by
There are no words. You are a stranger to me, yet your grief is palpable. The experience is horrific and beyond a nightmare. You are a stranger to me, yet if I could, I would hold you while you grieved. I am so sorry.
I recently experienced a loss in my life and was sent the following blessing. I want to share it with you.
May you know that absence is full
of tender presence and that nothing
is ever lost or forgotten.
May the absence in your life be full of eternal echo.
May you sense around you the
secret Elsewhere which holds
the presences that have left your life.
May you be generous in your embrace of life.
May the sore well of grief turn into
a well of seamless presence.
May your compassion reach out to
the ones we never hear from
and may you have the courage to spread out for
the excluded ones.
May you become the gracious
and passionate subject of
your own life.
May you not disrespect your
mystery through brittle
words or false belonging.
May you be embraced by
all that is both sacred and good
where dawn and twilight are one, and may your belonging inhabit its deepest dreams within the
shelter of the Great Belonging.
-John O'Donohue (from Eternal Echoes)
The sea monkey has my money.
Oh. I just finished reading over your blog after stumbling across this post. I...am so sorry. My heart is aching after reading what I read. I wish you lived close by, were my neighbor, my friend. I would just sit with you if you needed it. When I read what you wrote about victim blaming and the comments some posted...it makes me hate people. I don't want to hate people. But I don't understand how people say the things they say sometimes. It makes me think bad things like how I want to punch those people in the face. Maybe that's terrible to say. But WTF. Why would people mess with a grieving mother? Like...W.....T.....F!
I'm sorry. So sorry.
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