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#31 of 108 Old 01-21-2005, 04:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
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He is still with us, each day he sleeps more & becomes less coherant. Please send him peace & love.

XOXO - Rachelle


((((Jerome John Hellman))))
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((((Rachelle))))

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I'm so sorry. s Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thanks Mamas. He was telling jokes today & being silly, but you could tell it was hard on him... hes so tired & weak. He winced in pain in his sleep but he keeps telling us all that he has no pain. Im very afraid he is suffering & hiding it from us.

Please send my Papa peace & love.

((((JEROME JOHN HELLMAN))))

I love you Papa!
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He is still with us, hes having a very hard time breathing & it tears me up inside to see him like this. He looks so frail & sad. Please wish him peace & love. Thanks Mamas.
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God Bless you and your papa. I am praying for peace for both of you.
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More love to you, Rachelle.

(((((Jerome John Hellman))))))

Peace and rest to you both.

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I am so glad that you have been able to spend so much time w/your dear Papa. Sending hugs to your entire family during this stressful time.

Much Love~

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Thank you all so much!

Well I am home for a few hours to shower & check my mail. My Gramps is still here but his hospice nurse said that most of his functions are shutting down now & she would be surprised if he made it through the night tonight. His breathing is very labored & we can not wake him so he is pretty much comatose. It is so hard to see him like this. I picked out his burial clothing, wrote his obituary & put together a slideshow of pictures for his viewing & funeral. It pretty much tore me up, I am emotionally exhausted. Please send peace & love to my Papa.
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Rachelle, you are one of my favorite people I have met online. I think of you often. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Thinking of You~

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My love... ..... my prayers..... : ...... my admiration .

Know that we're all here for you.
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My Papa passed away tonight at 5:05. I was sitting on the floor next to his bed holding his hand & he opened his eyes for the first time in 10 hours & squeezed my hand, he was trying to tell me that it was time. I ran & got the rest of my family, we all hugged & kissed him, talked to him & within 3 or 4 minutes he was gone. It was peaceful. I held his hand for 3 hours until the funeral home people arrived. Please pray for my family, the coming days are going to be horrible.
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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rachelle~

i am so glad that you got to spend all this time w/your dear, sweet papa. these past few weeks and all that was said and done are going to be such precious memories for you.

yes, the next week will be very draining, both physically and emotionally. we will all be holding you in our thoughts during this time.

in his memory~

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I am so sorry for your loss. s Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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I'm thinking of you.
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I am so sorry he had to go.


I have a Papa too, and both thier stories were very very similar.
I was crying all over again just reading your story, it was like I was there again.
I know he is with me now tho. And so is your Papa. mama.
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Thanks Mamas... you all make my heart smile.

XOXO
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Rachelle, I am sending you and your family so much love and peace. I'm so happy that you got to be with him at the end of his journey here.

Lots of love to you. You know I love you!
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Love you too. Thank you.

Here is his obituary that I wrote.

http://www.mem.com/display/biography.asp?ID=688698
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Today is his funeral & yesterday was his viewing. I feel so alone & afraid. I miss him so much. I stayed the entire time his viewing was open, the funeral workers were shocked at all the flowers & plants, there are tons, they ran out of stands for them & had to start putting them in the hallway! I told them that anyone that met my Grandfather loved him because he was kind, warm & giving...

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Rachelle,

I haven't been able to be online for a few days, and just found out your Papa had passed on. I'm sorry.



I'm thinking of you, and praying for lots of comfort to you. I'm glad you got to be with him, right till the end.

You're in my thoughts.
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Thank you Katana.

I am so afraid & I feel so alone.
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Yes, grief can be such a lonely feeling. But know that you are not alone in your grief. We are here to listen and support you.

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I'm here, too.

I'm sorry for your fear, and how alone you are feeling. I wish I could send you one of my cats, to hold for a while. She's really good at comforting.

Still thinking of you...
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Thank you Mamas & love to you all.

Katana... I wish I could hug your kitty.
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My Papa taught me how to drive, bought me my first car, bought me my
first bouquet of flowers, he took me all over the country in his semi-truck, he took me on huge vacations, he taught me that it was always better to give than to recieve, he did everything for me. He was my Father in addition to being my Grandfather.

We took some of the flowers from his funeral (there were over 30
plants & bouquets!) to his Dialysis center, the receptionist & his
favorite nurse came out & said they already missed him. He taught
them all about being happy & living your life to the fullest. He
made everybody laugh, infact my Mom got a card in the mail yesterday
from a friend of hers when she was 10 that she hasn't seen in 40
years saying that he still remembers my Papas laugh & he is sure
everyone in heaven is cracking up.

My Papa was so brave & noble, he made the decision to end dialysis &
never went back, he could not bear to burden us & he could not bear
the pain any longer. He called all of his friends & told them he
was 'cashing in his chips' & let them know he loved them & told them
goodbye. What an amazing man, I only hope I can be so giving, brave
& selfless in my life.

I wish I knew the words to explain how I feel... Lost, Angry, Scared, Alone & Cheated to name a few. I miss him so much. I have never went this long in my entire life without talking to him.
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Rachelle

I am so sorry you lost your papa- he sounded amazing.

My love to you.
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