A note about this...
I had an abortion 5 years ago. I was a member of the PASS site http://www.afterabortion.com
and it was the most wonderful site that I could have come across at such a time. Everything is kept very private, and there are recovery programs, chat rooms, and plenty of resources to help guide those women and men who may need it. I highly recommend it, as losing a baby to abortion is a very stressful, emotionally taxing, heartbreaking experience.
One thing I encountered is that people tend to look at those who have had an abortion as if it is their fault. While it may be, and sometimes is, their decision, I assure you that the pain, depression, and grief is no less real than losing a family member any other way. Many are plagued with regret, "what if", loss, and self-loathing. I was suicidal for a long time after my abortion, and had absolutely NO one to talk to. This site was literally my saving grace. Whereas there are many groups out there which will offer guidance and counseling, even through doctor's referrals, after a miscarriage or stillbirth, you'd be hard pressed to find an abortion clinic which offers the same resources. I in NO way mean to imply that my pain was any greater than anyone else's. Please don't take it that way. I only mean to say that we all grieve alone, and any support we can find is very, very welcome support. I still log on now and then, and though now I'm on the recovery boards, it helps me to be able to try to help others who are suffering. That sounds selfish, but it's a very long process.
That, in fact, is why I have been searching this board and have resurrected this very old thread... I'm 16 weeks this week, the same as I was in 2001. I'm feeling a lot of the same grief and having to go through a lot of the same mourning as I did five years ago... Abortion does not seem to be a common topic on this board, but I've come far enough to talk about it in this setting, and hopefully I can find some kind of closure soon.
Also, there is a very good "pregnant after abortion" forum on the site.