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Old 07-20-2006, 07:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm having a miscarriage right now. I was only five or so weeks along but the loss is as real as it could have been had things progressed more before it ended. I am lucky to have my two little boys and my husband, but even though I am doing my best to keep things in perspective, this has been more emotional than I would have thought.
I wonder if my grief is obvious to all, or just to some. Today I was buying vegetables at the farmers market and a very sweet older woman handed me a bouquet of flowers from her garden. She insisted that I take them with me at no charge. It helped somehow. Those flowers in their vase over my kitchen sink remind me of how life springs out of nowhere. Soon we'll try again.
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I'm so sorry.

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Thanks, its amazing how helpful these boards are. My husband doesn't care to talk about grief much, and I have to put on the brave face for my children and work, so its nice to have this place.
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Those flowers in their vase over my kitchen sink remind me of how life springs out of nowhere. Soon we'll try again.
That is beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you will find peace again soon, and I know you will carry this little one in your heart forever.
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Im sorry for your loss
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i am so sorry... hope you heal quickly and feel better soon!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. A m/c is a very hard thing to go through and one that not many discuss on a day-to-day basis, which makes it so hard for those who have gone through it. I wanted to tell you that that there is a forum here specifically for loss during and just after pregnancy. The link is below. You may find a lot more resources thereto help you get through this terrible time.

http://mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=22
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I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have speedy healing. Hugs.
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I'm so sorry sweetie. Nothing feels like the pain of losing your own child. its the absolute worse thing in the world. The day we found out my daughter died in utero was no doubt the worst day of my life. I will be praying for you and I know God will bless your family with a new addition in due time

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I am so very sorry Mama. I too have been there. It hurts so bad. Healing to you.
Grieve however feels right and be gentle with yourself.




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Old 07-22-2006, 09:42 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Thanks everybody for your support. I woke up today feeling a little bit better, and I can feel my fertility restoring itself in preparation for the next few weeks. For you mamas who have had to go through the pain of a miscarriage, or multiple miscarriages, blessed be. If we were not created with that special strength that is unique to womankind, I don't think we could go on after losing our little babies. As for the mothers on this board and everywhere who have lost a living, breathing child, my heart goes out to you, and you amaze me.
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I am so sorry to hear.

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Those flowers in their vase over my kitchen sink remind me of how life springs out of nowhere. Soon we'll try again.
Are beautiful.

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Old 07-23-2006, 06:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Thanks, itsy. Its been a very spiritual ordeal, this whole loss of child. I keep telling myself to sit down and write, you know, use this emotion for something but I haven't yet been able to. Soon, perhaps.
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*hug*
I can't imagine how much pain you must be in.
I hope you heal quickly and completely.
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Lisa, mom to M : 6/02, R : 6/04, m/c 6/8/05, L 6/06, and E 8/07
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Hugs to you mama. Take care of yourself.
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I hope your feeling a little better. It brought back a lot of memories, take the time you need to mourn your precious baby.

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I'm so sorry you lost your little angel and your special dreams for him or her . . . be sure to take some time just for yourself this weekend.

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I am so sorry for you loss. Grief over a miscarriage is very real and it hurts. I am sorry for your loss of all that could have been.
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The loss of a baby is always awful. I too have lost a baby at 20 weeks pregnancy. I am amazed at how quickly God gave me a peace about everything. I was pregnant 3 months later and now have a lovely 10 month old baby boy. I thought I could never put myself through that sort of fear of loss but God gave me the strength. I named the child Mesha and we still speak of him and I hope to hold him some day in Heaven. There is always hope. I hope you too will find a way to hold your head up high and push through the forest to find the clear blue sky of hope and peace.
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First of all let me say how truly sorry I am for your loss. A little over a year ago I had a miscarriage myself, I was 8 weeks along. While it was still early on the pain was so deep, I couldn't stop crying for weeks. I have two little boys and they couldn't understand why I was so sad. But things happen for a reason, I truly believe that and knowing that is what helped me get through my loss. I know it is awful to say but I was relieved that it happened early on than later in my pregnancy, before I told my other children and bonded more with the baby growing inside me. As of 7 weeks ago I gave birth to our newest addition, our 3rd son. Give your grief some time, God knows what he is doing.

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I'm so sorry Mama

I went through two miscarriages in between my boys... both at about 8 weeks. The grief surprised me.... it was so intense. Definitely find a way to mourn your baby... hold a ceremony .... plant a tree... write a letter to her/him... make a wish on a star... do something.

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