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Old 09-11-2006, 06:04 PM
 
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Oh momma, I'm so sorry.

I lost my brother to suicide back in April. My older daughter was almost 5 at the time, so it was a little easier to explain things to her. And it was an uncle, not her daddy. We explained that he had an illness in his brain and he died from it. You've gotten some good links. Be as honest as possible, without too many details, I guess. It's so hard.

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Old 09-12-2006, 12:32 AM
 
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I am very sorry to read about your loss. Do you have a support system? Feel free to PM me if you just want to talk. Hugs.

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Oh, mama, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your DC.

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I am so sorry mama.

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Erin, (((hug)))
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I'm saying a prayer for you and your daughter. I am so sorry for your loss. I really have no advice, I think that the PP have that covered. I just couldn't read your post and not respond...

May you find Peace, and Strength in your loss


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Old 09-12-2006, 11:32 AM
 
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Many, many to you Erin and to your little ones.
I'm wishing for you moments of peace. I am so very, very sorry. I cannot even imagine all that you must be feeling. You are in my thoughts and my prayers.




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Oh, mama. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry, Erin. What a tragedy. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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I have no words, only hugs. (((((Erin & family)))))
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Death of a loved is one of the most heartbreaking things a family can ever have to cope with and suicide makes it that much harder. I just can't imagine how you feel right now, and having to explain it to your children would be so difficult.

I don't really have any advice, but it might be a good idea to contact a child psychologist who specializes in grief in order to determine the best way to let your little girl know what happened. Death is hard to explain to a three year old, and explaining the death of her father would be much more difficult to do because he was such a huge part of her life.

My thoughts are with you and your family. Please take care of yourself.
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oh mama i am sooo sorry. my dd became interested in death when she was 3.

the first person she asked about was my bro who had committed suicide a long time ago. when she asked how he died i told her he was sick and so passed away.

i dont hide my emotions from her. i talk about him a lot. so in a way he is more living now with us always as also my dad than if he was alive. we joke about him i tell her stories about him how some of the things she does reminds me of him (at certain times she looks v. much like him and she is a clown just like him).

when her first questions appeared the first thing i went over is what would happen to her if i died. she doesnt want to live with her dad - my ex. there have been times when seh has said mom i really REALLY hope after you die that i can go and live with xxxxx (my friend who would take her. their son is my dd's bf). i was so happy to hear that as that meant she was secure. but she does tell me she doesnt want me to die so i tell her i dotn plan to die but plan to live to see her children and her gdchildren.

we sit out sometimes and look up in teh sky and say hi to my bro and dad. and she has a conversation with them.

how are you doing mama. still numb? please find time to take care of urself.

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Hello everyone,

I just wanted to say a heartfelt "Thank You" for all the supportive and caring notes. It really does feel as though I have a wonderful crowd of gals holding me up - I cannot express how powerful that is.

We are planning a service for Saturday and I think it will be lovely. I have a appointment with a therapist on Thursday and looking into play therapy for Francesca (3yr old).

All the information has been amazing and comforting to know that everything I am feeling and how Francesca's actions are normal.

Thanks again gals!

Erin, Francesca (3yr) & Veritas (9mo)
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I am sorry for you and your children's loss. I do not have any advice, but I hope that you and your children are ok.
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chesnut just checking in to see how you and your girls are doing
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I am so sorry for you loss. I really don't have any of my own advice to give, but I read the previous posts and they had some very good ideas. I just wanted to give you a big

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Oh my, what a horrible thing to have to go through. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs to you...
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Sending yo & your girls love & peace.

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Thank you for letting us know how you and your little one are doing. Please know that we are still thinking of you and your family.

Much Love~

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Mama, I am so very sorry

I am praying for you and your girls.
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You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Hello everyone,

I just wanted to say a heartfelt "Thank You" for all the supportive and caring notes. It really does feel as though I have a wonderful crowd of gals holding me up - I cannot express how powerful that is.

We are planning a service for Saturday and I think it will be lovely. I have a appointment with a therapist on Thursday and looking into play therapy for Francesca (3yr old).
I am so sorry you are going through this. I just wanted to say that play therapy is an excellent idea for your daughter, and I really hope you can find a play therapist for her. I've just started an internship working with children, many of them are dealing with grief and loss, and do play therapy. I have seen children communicate their feelings about their grief through play in ways that amaze me. If you have any questions, feel free to pm me. I'm not an expert by any means, but have some experience with it.

You and your family are in my thoughts.
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I couldn't read without giving a . What a horrible, tragic thing to have happen to your family. I am so sorry.
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Mama, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you are getting by and healing. I am praying for your family right now.

Jen

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to you mama.

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I can't read without posting. I'm so very sorry this happened! I don't know what else to say, but big hugs to you! :squeeze
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I am so sorry... and
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I'm a little late to post advice, as a month has gone by; but I wanted to let you know that I was heartbroken for you when I read your post. I hope you're doing well and staying strong for longer periods of time. I pray that every day gets easier for you and that you've been able to pick up at least some of the pieces.


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