A childhood friend of my DH's was killed in an accident recently, leaving his pregnant wife and stepson. DH is not sure if it is a good idea for us to attend the funeral with our 5 month old.
The friend was someone with whom DH grew up in intentional communities, so there was a family aspect to their relationship, too, though since they all grew up, there has not been tons of contact among the children from the community.
We met this man's wife for the first time recently at a community function. (The farm where my DH and her DH grew up had been sold.) I think she was about 5 months pregnant at the time, so is about 7 months pregnant now.
DH is concerned that it would be hard for her to see us -- a two parent family -- at the funeral when she is expecting her own little one soon and will now be a single parent. I think it is better to go than not go, but it's his family/friends so I think it's ultimately his call.
If we do not go, we will send a card, and either way, will probably try to bring her some sort of practical help (e.g. casseroles for the freezer.)
Any advice on this would be welcome. Thank you, mamas.
professor & maman de DS1 (6) & DS2 (1)