Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Somewhere in Oregon, usually...PDX?
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Ann-Marita. I deleted my usual signature due to, oh, wait, if I say why, that might give too much away.
What is the best way to be supported by a partner when you are fresh into grieving and loss? What did or do you wish a spouse (close friend, etc) would have done to support and comfort you? I think that I understand the basics... the mechanics of being a good partner and what a grief process is... but it comes from an intellectual/academic understanding - which falls short in matter of the heart and soul.
Those that have lost, share with me how you were or would have liked to have been supported.
|And if there's one other thing I've learned from my father's death, it's that, no matter how clever, sophisticated, sensitive, grown-up and prepared you are, you cannot second-guess the mourning process. It is a process without reason. Every day is different and fails, utterly, to measure up to expectation. Indeed, the only thing that is certain about grief is that it will certainly get you. If you accept it, it will engulf you; if you step out of its way, it will follow you; if you negotiate with it, it will outflank you. Grief has its own terms and they are never the same as yours. That's the point of it.|