I'm glad your getting your dd counseling. Even if you didn't tell her the whole truth now (not saying
that you shouldn't) I'm sure she has a lot of thoughts that she could use help sorting out.
My neighbor's husband was killed a really odd work accident about 3 years ago. Her son (who is now
9/10 yo) knows exactly what happened to his father, and how he passed. Then about a year ago he
fell from a pretty high fall. My Father, dd and myself along with his Mom witnessed him fall and we
quickly got him into the car to go to the hospital. He got very tense, and when we left he told his
mother that he was not going to the hospital. They talked and it came out that he didn't want to the
hospital out of fear because his Dad went to the hospital, and never came home.
I'm sharing my story because even if a child isn't told "the doctor messed up" they can still harbor
scared feelings of hospitals/doctors due to that being the last, or one of the last places that their
parent was before death. Since in a sense if you asked my dd what they do at hospitals I imagine
she might say "to make sick people well". Then when they learn that they don't always make people
well, it can be quite scary for them.
s to your family.