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#61 of 157 Old 07-03-2007, 12:06 AM
 
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You're a strong mama to recognize that your son needs you. In your position (knowing what little I do), I would make the same choice, hands down. Please find counseling for yourself afterwards so that you can work through the grief properly (counseling being professional, a good friend, whomever - just someone to talk to).

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Much love to you, mama.

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Thinking of you...
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I am so sorry that you have to make such a hard decision.

I don't fully understand all the medical risks but I wish you had more options. If you lived here you could live with us rent free and your DS could have someone to watch him and playmates to play with.

I have been thinking about you ever since I first read your post and I wish there was something I could do from the other side of the country. But I guess all I can do is send you a and let you know that I am thinking about you.
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Maybe you could have a burial (with or without remains) with a small ceremony and gathering? This can really help.

You are doing the loving thing in this situation, in my opinion.

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Sometimes moms have to make very difficult choices. You made the choice that is right for you and your family, and I support you in that.
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my heart goes out to you and I pray that you find peace.
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oh muckemom you have been through more than i can possibly imagine most of us going through in a lifetime, i am so sorry life has thrown yet another thing at you. i sincerely hope that your life finds some sort of equilibrium soon and you do not have to endure anymore - i admire you immensely for coping as well as you are

all my hugs and thoughts are with you right now
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Oh Mama I am so sorry you had to make this decision. It's okay to talk about it if you need to.

Much healing to you.
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And I am torn to pieces over it.


Basically I am just trying to take ownership for the fact that I am choosing this, yes, I have good reasons - but it still sucks and it hurts.
I had a termination too and it doesn't matter how many good reasons you have, it still hurts and you will still mourn. It is extremely painful. I am so sorry. Please find the support you need.

There are several support sites that will pop up if you google it. Afterabortion.com was one that I found to be the most non-judgemental.
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I'm so sorry you're in this position.

It's not at all "silly" to be greiving a 3 week old embryo. It's a very real loss- different than losing a child who's already been born, or losing a parent or sibling, but still a very real loss.

The fact that it's a loss doesn't make the decision to terminate any less valid. You're in a no-win situation right now- the choices are "bad" and "worse." You don't want to risk losing custody of your toddler, and you don't want to endanger your own health- once again, your 2yo needs you right now.

I hope I never need to make a similar decision. The whole situation sounds heartbreaking.

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More hugs and support.
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oh muckemom you have been through more than i can possibly imagine most of us going through in a lifetime, i am so sorry life has thrown yet another thing at you. i sincerely hope that your life finds some sort of equilibrium soon and you do not have to endure anymore - i admire you immensely for coping as well as you are

all my hugs and thoughts are with you right now

Thank you. If I look at all the good things though, it makes everything that I have gone through worth while.

And I know it'll stop soon.

*Plus this one is my own doing* :
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I just want to offer some love and support. I'll be thinking about you.
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You are allowed to grieve this real loss. Make sure you take care of yourself while you are recuperating physically and mentally. Lots of love from me.
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I'm so sorry for your pain, mama.
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Much love to you.
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My thoughts are with you. You have to do what is right for you and for your family.
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sending you a p.m (it's good don't worry)

you know I support you!

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Like most women terminating a pregnancy, it sounds like you've thought it through. I wish you peace as you go through the grieving process. Take care of yourself...


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I had an abortion 8 years ago. It is something I do regret, very much so. (Not saying this to be derogatory in any way, just stating my personal feelings, since I have btdt) I am sorry you are in this situation, and I will not judge your choice, and I hope you find peace in your decision. I would really recommend having someone to go with you, though, just for the emotional support.
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I hope you have gentle & fast recovery....sending you ((((LOVE)))) during this difficult time....s

True Love is here....to stay!
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Well tomorrow at 10 is it.

Wish me luck.
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Luck.
And loads of kind thoughts going your way.
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Well tomorrow at 10 is it.

Wish me luck.
I'll be thinking about you at 1 P.M. (I'm EST) and sending healing, peaceful thoughts your way. I'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. Do you still have my AIM screen name?

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