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#121 of 157 Old 07-15-2007, 08:30 PM
 
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What a rough road. Don't deny yourself the opportunity to truly grieve. I can't imagine being in your situation.
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Much love and support to you.

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It takes time to heal and grieve.
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Sending light & strength to you ... and some extra for your DS ...






You're doing fine.

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i would put in those two little hugging icons if I knew how to.......
Just read this thread and hope you are healing. Lots of hugs and support here.
Love Kylee xxx
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deep breath

this is the hardest decision a woman is ever faced with. know you aren't alone.

proverbs 29:7 the righteous care about justice for the poor, but the wicked have no such concern.

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just squeeze your son tight and love him fierce, remember he's why you made that decision. i hope you can feel peace soon mama.

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Just wanted to add my support. I'm sorry you are faced with this choice. Take the time to grieve, and be gentle with yourself.
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Sorry to be hopping on late... Just want to send you heart and health healing vibes!!

Big hugs to you!!!

Loving Dh, Mama x 4, Surrogate mother to 5. A born 2003, M and R girl/girl twins 2006, S and C boy/girl twins born 2010. Processing/healing.
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It' s an incredibly difficult thing to have to go through. Find a clinic that will be supportive even after the fact. Abortion advocates are often afraid to acknowledge the grief and loss aspect out of fear that it will damage their argument. This is not an attack, simply an observatio,. something that I feel deserves to be addressed in an effort to support women better. Try to remember that if you were to take care of your son the way that you feel is right, then you would naturally lose the pregnancy anyway. Contact me if you need someone to talk to. Please don't isolate yourself.
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#139 of 157 Old 07-22-2007, 01:27 AM - Thread Starter
 
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OKay... do how random is it that a whole week AFTER the procedure I get sad?


GOD I am so random sometimes its pisses me the hell off. :
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Just read this whole thread & wanted to offer My heart goes out to you. Be gentle with yourself & allow yourself time to process & grieve.

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OKay... do how random is it that a whole week AFTER the procedure I get sad?


GOD I am so random sometimes its pisses me the hell off. :
well for starters your still dealing w/the hormones and emotional roller coaster your body goes through while pregnant.. secondly..somethings we can deny our feelings and distance ourselves in the moment to get through it. then later on..we let down our guard and swim in the emotions from a safe distance...its ok Mama.. your can cry, grieve be angry upset and sad.. let it out.. but know your not alone. life does not give us more then we can handle... but sometimes the tests are a bitch.. if you need to vent to an anonymous stranger.. PM me..I will gladly talk with you.
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I just had to jump in and share my experience with pregnancy termination... I found myself pregnant just after my dh died and my kids were just turning 5 & 3. I made peace with the Spirit that came to me. I thanked her for coming and for offering her gifts. I explained why she couldn't stay and that I loved her still. I also knew in my heart that I would see her again. I asked that she go to her *new* parents and be sure to give me a sign she had arrived safely. The day she left my body, I got a call from a very excited friend telling me they were expecting -- on my due date. I've met their son and made peace with my baby's spirit. I'm so glad to see her grow up as my friend's son and to know how much he is loved and appreciated.
You've given a big gift to someone else. You've received many gifts -- even through this tortuous process. I hope today you can lift your face to the sun and know All is Right with the World.

~diana

~diana google me: hahamommy. Unschooling Supermama to Hayden :Super Cool Girlfriend to Scotty . Former wife to Mitch & former mama to Hannahbear
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wow hahamommy, what an amazing story!

To the OP - my heart is with you. Be gentle with yourself and know that you are loved and supported here.
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I just had to jump in and share my experience with pregnancy termination... I found myself pregnant just after my dh died and my kids were just turning 5 & 3. I made peace with the Spirit that came to me. I thanked her for coming and for offering her gifts. I explained why she couldn't stay and that I loved her still. I also knew in my heart that I would see her again. I asked that she go to her *new* parents and be sure to give me a sign she had arrived safely. The day she left my body, I got a call from a very excited friend telling me they were expecting -- on my due date. I've met their son and made peace with my baby's spirit. I'm so glad to see her grow up as my friend's son and to know how much he is loved and appreciated.
You've given a big gift to someone else. You've received many gifts -- even through this tortuous process. I hope today you can lift your face to the sun and know All is Right with the World.

~diana
I just had to say that this is a beautiful post. :
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You are not alone........

Kids. I got two of 'em.
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I need to have this thread deleted.

I just can't deal with the negativity (not ON the actual thread, all of you have been very sweet) but the other messages I am getting from people.

Can't deal right now, I need a safe place and this is not it.


Big ((((hugs))))) to all of you that posted on the thread though, thank you.
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I am so sorry people are being negative to you. Shame on those who are. I am still keeping you in my thoughts, for the hard choice you had to make. Hug your little one for me. You are a strong momma.
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you ought to report those who send you negative posts to mods - i am sure they would be able to do something. that is the last thing you need to deal with right now.

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I am writing this post to make it VERY clear that MDC does not tolerate negativity towards those who choose to terminate their pregnancies in threads and via the Private Messaging system. This is one of our non-debatable rules here and this post serves as a reminder to keep this rule in mind when posting. If you do not wish to offer loving support, stay away from the thread.

Blessings,
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