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#1 of 115 Old 07-28-2007, 03:52 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Some of you may know he's been in the hospital, throat cancer. I never even got to tell him I was pregnant. And even fewer of you know my "history" with my inlaws. It's bad. Really bad. So how do I find out? That -uggh- calls me and leaves a message, "I heard your dad died!" I can't even reach my family. If there's any justice in this world I hope that b*^ch dies horribly. Like she hasn't done enough damage. :

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I'm sorry for your loss. And I'm sure your dad *knows* you're pregnant already.

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I am so sorry for your loss.
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry Marie. so so sorry. :
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What an awful way to hear.

I'm really sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss.



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So very sorry for your loss...
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I'm so sorry that you had to hear that way. And so sorry that He was ill and passed away.

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I'm so sorry.


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Wow. How insensitive of your IL to leave a message like that.

So sorry about your Dad.
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What a sad day, I'm sorry you had to find out that way.

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Sorry for your loss and how you found out about it.
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How sad.
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(((((HUGS))))) I'm so sorry for your loss!

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I'm so sorry for your loss

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so sorry to hear this. my thoughts are with you and your family.
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thats how i found out my gramps died...the morgue called to ask what we wanted to do with the body...such a crappy thing. i am so sorry that this was how you found out.
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Oh, Marie! I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I truly believe that your dad knows about your pregnancy. My grandfather died when I was five weeks pregnant with my daughter, the day before dh and I were planning to go visit him and tell him he was going to be a great-grandfather again. My daughter has an incredible guardian angel looking out for her, just as I'm sure your baby will, too.
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Blessings and prayers to you. My parents are both gone and I know what a lonely feeling it is.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Thanks all. I still can't reach my family. Just sitting here hoping ANY of them sign on so I can find out where everyone is. As far as I know only I know. My Gram (his mom) raised me and all I keep thinking is what if SHE calls her too? It will kill her, I HAVE to get ahold of her. They're all in upstate NY, I'm in southern GA...somehow I have to find a way to QUICKLY go get his things, make arrangements for burial. I guess he was home when he died. He rents a small apt. and the landlord was sitting with him. This morning he was showing pics of my kids to him. My dad didn't have my # written down so when he died the landlord went through everything, found my LAST name, and found my inlaws that way & told them. So, she just emails me! : Every single time I get pregnant someone dies, every time. Ya know, I can hate someone as much as she hates me & I could NEVER be so cold. Some people are really messed up. I hope she never hears news like this via casual email. And she CERTAINLY knew I was clueless! I can't understand that.


ETA~ She called AND emailed. Just to clarify, that might sound confusing.

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So sorry to hear of your loss and the way you had to find out.

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I hope you can get ahold of your family soonest.


"What will you do once you know?"
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mama. I'm sorry.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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