Thanks for all of your posts. My husband knew Kerry, but not all that well. So he is there for me, but not really sharing my grief. It helps to have other places to share her memory.
I did miss her funeral. The email came the day that we left for vacation. Kerry died last Tuesday, and the funeral was on Friday. I keep imagining Kerry's reaction, if we had left our vacation to go to her funeral. "Oh no, don't do that! It's just a funeral - enjoy your vacation!" I always saw her put others first.
We spent some time together just last month. I was supposed to teach for an Institute, but their enrollment dropped and they "unhired" me. My husband's conference was in Kerry's hometown that same week, so Kerry invited me to teach two classes for her students. I had a great time teaching her kids, then we went out for Thai food. Kerry paid me out of her pocket for the classes. She didn't tell me that, but I'm pretty sure she didn't charge her students anything extra.
Kerry was just very generous, and she was always smiling.
She was one of those special friends - we clicked from the moment we met. That doesn't happen often for me. We had a lot in common - we played the same instrument, went to school in the same area, played in some of the same orchestras in that area. We didn't see each other all that often - maybe once a month. But I was always so GLAD to see her! We would email some, but she was a lousy letter writer.
I kept waking up thinking about her last night. I'm going to give one of our friends a call this afternoon. We all travel to play in the orchestra, so we're spread out geographicallly. Our other good friend left for a seminar today.