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#1 of 140 Old 10-02-2007, 11:05 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi.

We lost our 5 year old son James last week Wednesday. We're still in shock, I think, because we seem to spend most of our time feeling pretty numb. It's been days since I've felt a strong emotion.

Have others here lost children around that age? I think any loss is horrible, I'm not looking to compare, I just would like to know if anyone out there has been in shoes like ours. No one I know in real life has lost a child.

I'm Elisabeth, by the way. We have two other sons--ds1, who is James' identical twin, and ds2 who is 19 months old. James and ds1 have a genetic condition called Tuberous Sclerosis Complex, and more or less it's what killed James. He had a horrible seizure that resulted in brain damage. We miss him terribly.

We're in the process now of planning his memorial, but we're also incredibly sick (literally), so it's not going very well. It's hard to find energy.

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I'm so sorry, mama. I have no words, just grief for you.

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My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.
I'm so sorry.

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We are here to support you.

I think it is so wonderful that you are reaching out to others, and hearing others' experiences. That is good.
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Oh, mama, I am so, so sorry.

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss mama. I will say a prayer for you tonight that you and your family will be comforted and receive peace in the days ahead.
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I am sorry for your loss.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I have a 5yo son and I can't even imagine what you must be going through right now. It must be hard for your sons to lose a brother.

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I am so, so very sorry, mama
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I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for your family.



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I am so, so sorry for your loss
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Oh Mama! I am so sorry for your terrible loss!
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Words cannot express how terribly sorry I am for you and your family's loss.
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i am so sorry for your loss
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I'm so, so sorry, Elisabeth.
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Oh mama, I cannot fathom your devastating pain.. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you can all find strength in each other's arms.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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Dear Elisabeth, I am so sorry for your loss. There is no loss as tragic as the loss of a child. Please be kind to yourself. Grief is not only emotional, it is also very physical. Exhaustion, depression, inability to focus or concentrate, difference in eating or sleeping habits, hallucinations and obsessing over your loved one are all normal symptoms of grief. It is hard right now but you are also probably in shock right now too. The mind is very kind and only allows you to feel what you are capable of bearing. Assert your rights as a grieving mother and allow others to help you, your other children and your family. We are here for you and you can always pm or call me (pm me for my number).
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I am just so sorry for your loss. Your boy was beautiful and I know it must feel like a part of your heart left along with him. I will be thinking of you and your family during this awful time.
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Much love and peace to you during this sad time. Wishing you strength...


Happily parenting our snuggly wild child since 2007 and her little brother since 2011!

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I have no words other than I'm sorry. s
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I am so sorry.
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I am so sorry.
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Elisabeth. I'm so so sorry for the loss of your sweet little guy James
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I'm very, very sorry for your loss.
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((((HUGS)))) there are no words... just good thoughts and prayers for you.

Kristin- Wife to J, Mommy to B (11), M-S (8), and little J (4) and J&J (7 months)
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