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#1 of 16 Old 12-05-2007, 07:40 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I've been here a couple of times... but then left because my situation doesn't seem as horrible as some others here and I think I should just deal with it. But I can't. I had a mc this last weekend. Five weeks. That in itself I think I could deal with... but I'm also now 46 and have desperately wanting a sibling for my 3yo son. I tried to not get too hopeful, but I was catching myself thinking about baby carriers and what if it was a boy/girl, etc... I decided against seeing an RE - I don't like the Western treatments - or their views of a 46yo ttc. I have been doing acupuncture/Chinese herbs... but I'm so afraid this was my last chance. As of this Fall, I feel like I've suddenly aged. I used to look like I was in my late 30's - but now I feel like I've caught up. The skin on my face has changed - making me worry that my hormones are finished with what they were meant to do. My acupuncturist seems hopeful, but then she's the one collecting my $. I wish I could feel the same. I just want to get away from this heaviness.
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I'm sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry for your loss

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Thanks for your replies. I know many others here are dealing with much heavier losses... I just feel like I'm trying to swim through molasses. I can only imagine how these others must feel.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know if you are aware, but there is a Pregnancy and Loss forum here. There are many moms there who have been through what you have. It's a wonderful place with lots of love and support. Please consider looking around there to see if it might help you.
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A loss is a loss is a loss is a loss.

(((hugs)))

For everything you are mourning and grieving, I wish you gentle days ahead.
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A loss is a loss is a loss is a loss.
Exactly

to you.
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Thanks everyone. And thank you Coleslaw, for mentioning the other forum - I didn't realize it was here, but I will be sure to check it out.
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Please, don't feel that your loss doesn't "qualify" you to grieve... it hurts to lose a pregnancy, to lose the idea and the hope of that baby. I second the suggestion to check out the PALS forum, it's been a wonderful source of solace for me, personally.


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I've lost too many babies over the years, and just dealing with the physical changes of the end of a pregnancy is hard in and of itself. Adding in your worries about the future is just another burden.

Just take it one day at a time.

Helen mum to five and mistress of mess and mayhem, making merry and mischief til the sun goes down.
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Miscarriages are hard too - your pain may seem invisible, leaving you feeling alone, when you aren't. Many of us have been there. I hope things work out for you.

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You lost a child, sweetie. You have every right to mourn, and every right to feel the support and sympathy of others.

Don't lose hope. I used acupuncture to conceive our third child (after a year of trying...not much, I know, but I could feel the differnce the acupuncture made).

Have you read this? I think the little boy's explanation of "all the other babies giving the spirit baby a cut in line" is about the sweetest thing ever.

s to you, mama.

RedOak ~ Momma to DS (8) , DS (4) , DD (3) , & DD 9/10 ~
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I'm sorry for your loss . Do not feel like you don't deserve to be here, as your loss is just as great as everyone else's. I had an early miscarriage a few years back now and that was just as sad, if not sadder than when my grandmother passed away in the middle of this year.

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I'm sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry Mama. It's so very hard.

Much love and peace to you.

natural birthin', baby catchin', cloth addicted, intactalactavist mama of 12/00, 6/03, 10/07, 8/10 & our angelcubs three
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