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Old 12-27-2007, 12:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
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She was 35 weeks pregnant. They are inducing her today.

Formerly single Mama to the zaniest boy on the block, born on my birthday on 3/28/07. Soon to be Mama to a new little and can't wait to bfinfant.gif and femalesling.GIF and familybed1.gif again! 
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Old 12-27-2007, 01:03 PM
 
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I'm so sorry, that's just awful! I hope you can be there for her, she will need you
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How terrible

Wishing your friend healing & strength.


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Her and her family must be heartbroken. Losing a baby is just horrible.

Just like the PP said, be there for her. And it may sound like a small thing but ask her what her baby's name is. So many people will just pretend that she was never pregnant and that really hurts.

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Wishing your friend (and her family) healing and peace.
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I'm so sorry for her loss.

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Unfortunately, Amy and I know all to well how that feels.

I didn't suffer the loss of a full term baby like Amy but when I lost my twins at 4 1/2 months, I just wanted them to be relevant to the world. So many people went on about their daily lives, but mine stopped and really has never got past that moment.

I had an early loss prior to (4-5 weeks) but that was the first time that I had held the little bodies of my twin baby girls in my hands.

Let her know that her baby has relevance in this world...not only to her but to her friends and family. Send some flowers and a sympathy card or purchase her a little commemorative gift, just something to let her know that her baby is real to this world too....
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I'm so sorry for her loss.

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I talked to her mom today (she is only 19, and living at home). She went in for a routine checkup on Wednesday, and they couldn't find the heartbeat. The OB sent her to the hospital for an U/S, and they found that the baby had died and had an enlarged heart. They are doing an autopsy, but think that either the baby had a genetic defect or a virus that the mama didn't know about.

She is heart broken. Her mom said that her labor was relatively easy, and that her son was born just after midnight yesterday morning. They named him Isaiah, and that he was perfect in every way. They are cremating him and are going to have a private family service in a few weeks. I am not sure if I will go or not, but they think of me as family, so I may go. Just not sure, as I would have my 9 month old with me, and that might be awkward.

Her mom asked me if I wanted all of the baby things that I have given them back, and I said I would be happy to pick up anything they didn't want and bring it to a local organization for young single mamas. She thought that would be a good place to bring everything, and appreciated the offer.

I just can't imagine having to labor and birth a baby that you know has already passed. I can't imagine coming home from the hospital and having to leave your baby there, knowing he is never coming home and knowing that you will never see him again. I also can't imagine the feeling of milk coming in for a baby that isn't there to receive it. I am just crying for her.

I hope she can find some peace some day and that noone I know ever suffers anything like this in my lifetime again.

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I am so sorry for your friend's loss.

He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.  ~Albert Einstein
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Words can not express my sorrow for your friend. I did nto lose my daughter full term, but I birthed her at 4 months.

Prayers hugs peace and love to you all. She will NEED you to lean on and guide her through this unexplainable grief. Listen to her, let her talk, let her have peace. Love

Please take care.

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I'm sorry for your friend's loss...
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I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.
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I am so sorry for your friends loss.

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