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#1 of 89 Old 12-31-2007, 12:48 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My beloved husband, Mahmoud, September 29,1979 - December 29, 2007. Thank you for all of your condolences.
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I couldn't read your post without replying and s and sympathy to you and your family.

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I'm so sorry mama.

I don't have any experience of this but wanted to send you There are organisations out there, Friends and Families of Suicides is the only name I am familiar with.

I hope you find the support you need in order to grieve and heal.
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Oh, I'm so sorry mama.
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I am so sorry! Thinking of your family at this time.
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I'm very sorry for your loss.

Take the time to heal from your marriage before you move on with someone else. Make a list of all the qualities you would like in a new partner and then work on growing that way yourself. ~mandib50
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I'm so sorry

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I am so sorry for your loss. You are going through such a hard time right now.
I lost my brother two years ago on xmas to suicide. It was the hardest thing in my life and still is.
You will go through so many emotions, you must allow them. Things will be thought and said that you can't believe. Find support among your family and friends and allow yourself and those also mourning to do so in their own way.
Things won't get easier for a long time, but someday they will.

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I'm so sorry.
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i am so sorry.

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I'm terribly sorry for your loss

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I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. I don't have any advice but you are in my thoughts.
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No advice just a

You probably have not begun to get out from the shock of it all. But when the feelings do come, get them all out and let those who care help.
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I'm so sorry!
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I've lost three people to suicide in my life, each one equally heartbreaking and difficult to understand. My teacher, whom I was very close to and whose son I dated, hung herself in her bedroom. It was completely unexpected and shattered me. A few years later, that same son I dated and remained friends with shot himself. Finally, a friend of our family, who my brothers and sister and I considered our grandpa, shot himself a year after his wife, our granny, died of cancer. He said he was too lonely and just wanted to be with her again. Most recently, this year, my husband's aunt tried to end an addiction to painkillers by ODing. Luckily we found her in time and after some therapy and a stint in rehab, she's much better.

I know how it feels. I remember the questions, the whys, the how could theys, all of it. And although the pain lessens with time, the questions never do go away.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry for your son's loss. Hold onto him, let the feelings come and allow yourself to grieve. Anger is a normal reaction to a suicide that too many people feel guilty about and try to suppress. Working through it one day at a time, and dealing with that day's emotions is a must. I know for me, just talking to someone who understood, a friend, therapist, whatever, allowed me to get out a lot of that raw pain and anger that I felt so that I could allow myself to grieve and remember the people I loved in a better way.

to you, mama. Hang in there.
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my deepest condolences.

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I'm so sorry.
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I can't speak to losing a spouse to suicide but a dear family friend committed suicide 3 years ago and I am still grappling with the whys..

I did find an organization online that had a lot of information that I found useful but for some reason the name escapes me.. I will see if I can find it and post again.

Take care of yourself and your precious child.

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I'm so sorry. This is my biggest fear.
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i'm so, so sorry! i'm just at a loss for words. please know that i'll keep you and your little one in my thoughts.
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I'm so so sorry, mama.

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Oh, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief that you and your son are dealing with at the moment. I lost a nephew to suicide and I can't begin to tell you how it affected the lives of every member of my family, but I will say that my sister received support from volunteers who had shared similar tragedies. I will be thinking of you and your family.

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I am so very sorry for your loss
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I'm so sorry

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I'm so sorry. I have no advice for you, I hope you have good support around you Mama.
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I am so so very sorry for your loss!
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Suicide is a desperate measure.... we all know that. First of all, please know that your partner did not think of what he was doing to you, only of ending his pain. People who commit suicide really are not in their right minds... with maybe the exception of terminally ill people choosing to end on their time line. Please know that it does not mean he loved you or your child any less. It simply means that he was in so much pain, he did not believe he could continue.

How are you? Are you financially able to get through now? Can you still parent your child? Do you need someone to help you? If so, please do what your partner did not, ask for help.

I am sorry this has happened to you... please do not spend the rest of your life (light) walking on egg shells wondering if something you said, or did not say caused this. In reality, there was nothing you could have done to stop him.

Hugs.... take care of you right now.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

You will get through this. Start with a day at a time and if that is too much, an hour at a time, and if it's still too much just make it through the next minute.

My ex-fiance took his life more than 10 years ago. We were not together at the time, and we didn't have a child, which definitely adds much more complexity of emotions. It hurts. Still. And there really are no answers. There was nothing you could have done or said. Let yourself feel everything and grieve. Reach out, especially if you need help caring for your son.

Come here, find a group in real life, whatever it takes to make it through, to help you process, vent, grieve, scream,

many, many
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I am so sorry for your loss. Many positive thoughts being sent in your direction.

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