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#1 of 25 Old 12-31-2007, 05:36 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My mom passed away yesterday afternoon.

3 years ago, she was diagnosed with very advanced breast cancer, which became metastatic. She spent a couple of years doing hormone treatments, and eventually chemotherapy.

Christmas Day, she was taken to hospital via ambulance with severe abdominal pain. Turned out that the cause was a perforated ulcer.

Surgery was simple, but unfortunately, the recovery was too much for her body to deal with. She developed Respiratory Distress Syndrome on Saturday - in lungs riddled with cancerous tumors and 4 decades of smoking.

On Sunday, her husband, brothers and myself gathered around her in her last hours, held her hands and talked to her. She was heavily sedated, there was no sign that she knew we were there except that she held on to life until we had all come to her.

She passed about an hour after we all came together.

My mom was my best friend in so many ways. Sure, we had our rocky times - some for years at a time - but we'd really come together in the last few years.

It's only been one day, and I miss her so much already.

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#2 of 25 Old 12-31-2007, 05:47 PM
 
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I lost my mom to cancer two years ago. You may be alone in the sense that your mom has passed, but you are not alone in the sense that many of us here know your pain. I'm sorry for your loss.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry for you loss.

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So sorry for your loss. I lost my own Mama 3.5 years ago to lung cancer, so I have an idea of how you may be feeling, for the first few weeks I was literally lost. I still am but its not so bad. Be gentle with yourself.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so very very sorry.
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I am so very sorry for your loss!
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I am so sorry for the loss of your mama.

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I'm so sorry, LizaBear.
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I am so very sorry and can only imagine the roller coaster of emotions you're experiencing right now. Please be gentle with yourself.
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Mom's funeral was yesterday.

I am so far beyond tired now - not physically tired, but just drained I guess.

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i am so so sorry.


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I'm so sorry for your loss...
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I'm so sorry. :

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I too lost my mom to breast cancer that had metastasized, only it was 15 years ago. You will be in my thoughts.

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I am so sorry for the loss of your dear mother. Be gentle with yourself.
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Lizabear I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. I lost my Mom in September of 2006. There is no timeline to heal, and it's still really hard for me sometimes. We have a thread here at MDC "Mom's Without Mother's" if you need anything please come and join us.

-Janna, independent mother of dd, Ms. Mattie Sky born on my 25th birthday, 06*23*2000. My Mama Feb.21,1938-Sept.10,2006
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So sorry, momma.
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I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts your way.

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My thoughts and prayers are with you. So sorry mama.

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(((hugs))) to you. So very sorry - will keep you in my thoughts.
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I am so sorry
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I am so sorry for your loss!!
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