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#1 of 5 Old 01-02-2008, 02:00 AM - Thread Starter
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One of my dearest friends lost her husband to suicide this past weekend. There were none of the typical "signs" and everyone who knew him is pretty much in shock. At any rate, she has two children under five and would like to find some sort of therapy for everyone. She is especially interested in beginning to attend some sort of grief support group. She lives in St. Paul, Minnesota. Does anyone know of any that are specific to parents or to widows/ers due to suicide? Please feel free to PM me.

Also, so many people want to help her (with the things we can help her with, unfortunately the most difficult battles will probably be the solo ones) with food etc. For those of you who were parents to small children when you lost your spouse, what was most helpful? We are thinking of getting a google calendar together and setting up meals, housecleaning, childcare etc. through that.

Any suggestions of how to act, what to say (or what not to say or how not to act) or anything else about how we can offer her the most support would be most appreciated.

Thank you so much. My deepest condolences for the collective losses the posters in this forum have experienced.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

I would post in FYT (finding your tribe) under the MN group.
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As in my own post, I lost my own husband in the same manner and at the same time. I've found that the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (afsp.org) maintains a national list of support groups for survivors of suicide losses. You might also find some relevant advice in my own thread ("Suicide") ... there were a few replies with resource suggestions.

My heart goes out to your friend and her family at this difficult time.
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#4 of 5 Old 01-12-2008, 09:34 PM
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After experiencing an unexpected death, I took part in group counseling with a counselor from the Center for Grief, Loss and Transition in St. Paul. The counselor was very helpful.

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what would be helpful;

homemade food, gift cards, babysitting. someone who still cares a year from now or even two or three. time goes by and the help/offers fade quicky.

the thing that stands out the most to me is a friend who told me I could call her at 3am if I needed to talk. also friends who sent cards weeks and months later. MUCH appreciated!

also tell your friend to visit www.beyondindigo.com it has helped me alot.

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