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Old 08-31-2003, 02:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hello. I have been a member of the mdc community for a while...but have never posted here. My perfect little girl died suddenly on Saturday, August 23. My breasts are still so full, and hurt so bad. My heart hurts and is broken. My arms are so empty.
I laid her down for a nap after an hour of nursing. My fil went to check on her, and 10 minutes later, my mil found her dead on the floor. We don't understand how or why this happened. She was 8 months old. If she fell off the bed, she can crawl, she would have cried and crawled...she was a speedy crawler! I miss her so intensley.
My husband and I live in Kansas, but most of our family is in Utah, so we buried her here. We will be going home next Saturday..we are both so scared about that. Right now we are distracted...not many memories of Emma here, and we have so much family to distract us. But, at home...she is everywhere.
I don't know what else to say...I am sure that as we continue to heal, I will need to ask questions, and know that I am not the first mom to feel this way, and not alone in my grief.
Thank you for listening

Kim, Mama to 4 and 1 more on the way!
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Old 08-31-2003, 02:21 PM
 
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I can't even find the words to say what my heart feels.
I can't say the words what I feel inside me.

my heart breaks for you and your family. hold your husband. Be held by your husband. Be loved.
Be loved by us here.

I wish I could hold you and let you scream and cry. I would need everyone in my life to do that for me.

I will hold a prayer for you and your family.

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I am so so so very sorry for your loss.
I don't even know what to say except that I am so so so sorry.
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Oh I am so profoundly sorry. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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My heart breaks for you, and I don't even know the words to write. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Please ask for any help you need. And this may sound weird, but if you need a complete stranger to yell and scream and swear and cry at, let me know and I will give you my phone number.

I am so sorry for your loss.
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Oh, I am am so terribly, terribly sorry. I have no words for how my heart is aching for you and your precious baby Emma.

Please know that all of us here will support you in whatever small ways we can in the days and weeks to come.


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OMG I am so sorry for your loss.

Please know she's w/God's love.

I am so so sorry.
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Thank you for coming here and sharing your story and dear precious daughter with us. I am so deeply sorry. Please know that as a community, we are here for you. For you to come and write about your feelings, to come and write about your daughter, to cry and to vent. Whatever you need, tomorrow or 6 months from now, we are here.

Much Love, Peace & Hugs~

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I can't even begin to know the depths of your pain and sadness. The loss of a child is a tragedy that should never happen. I'm at such a loss as to what to say, except that I will be praying for you, your family, and little Angel Emma.

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Your loss is so great. I'm so sorry for you and husband. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you great strength.

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My heart is with you. I can't even beging to imagine how hard this is right now.

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ksjhwkr:

I am so sorry for your loss, and the emptiness you feel now. I hope your journey through healing leads you to a place of comfort and love.

Know that you are in my thoughts.
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my heart aches for you. please know that you have many mamas praying for you and your husband.

as for the full breasts that is something i actually feel i can at least help you with.

you can wear cabbage leaves (chilled) inside your bra. sage is known to help decrease milk production, and may help a little. peppermint is also thought to decrease milk supply as well as antihistamines. i cant help you with your aching, broken heart, but i can at least try to help prevent you from getting mastitis.

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I am so overwhelmingly sorry about the loss of your sweet Emma. My heart aches for you. Please post again soon.

Hugs,
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I'm so sorry just doesn't say enough, but I am.
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OMG mama! I am so terribly sorry. I don't know what else to say.
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I am sorry for your loss.

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Kim~

I wish we could take away some of your hurt and pain from the loss of Emma. You are in my thoughts and prayers and also in those of the Lawrence AP group. Please let us know if there is anything at all we can do to help, we're not that far away. She was a beautiful little angel.
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May you find peace. I am so sorry.
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My heart aches so badly for you and your family.

I truly believe that your precious Emma is sitting with God in Heaven right now.

My deepest sympati to you.

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My deepest condolences for your loss...
You little daughter is an angel in heaven now, and she was so very lucky to have a mama who loved her so very deeply...

Please know that you are not alone in your despair. You are right to grieve and hurt, and you are right to come here for support. Talking about your feelings, grieving, and remembering your baby will help heal your pain.
You are in my thoughts, and my prayers. You are a courageous woman.
We love you. Stay strong.

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i am so deeply sorry for your tremendous loss.
my heart goes out for you and your family.
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I am so sorry.

My heart aches for you, your husband and family.

I know that all of us here at MDC will be here for you whenever you need us.

Please take care of yourself. rest, grieve, scream and shout, for however long it takes.

May God shine his perpetual light on you and yours.

Warmly, Lisa
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I am so sorry. My heart is with you and your husband; I will be thinking of you both a lot. I am so sorry.
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I am so very sorry.
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oh mama... I am so sorry. I can't even begin to know the pain you're enduring. I can only pray that God will give you strength and comfort.

Take care hon and know that my prayers are with you.
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I am so very sorry. I am in Utah. PM me if there is anything I can do for you while you are here.
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I am so sorry, I can't imagine anything harder to live through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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My deepest condolences. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. You and your family will be in my prayers.

I live in Wichita. You didn't mention where you lived in Kansas, but please PM me if there is anything I can do to ease the burden, or if you just need a shoulder to cry on or someone to yell at.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Emma sounds like a little angel and your arms must ache to hold her and comfort her and love her right now. I know that nothing I can say will take away your pain, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.
When you get home, consider looking for a support group for parents who have lost an infant. I lost my daughter a month ago and my husband are involved in 2 grief support groups, one through our church and one specific to parents who have lost a child from conception through late infancy. Feel free to pm me if you want to talk or cry or get angry or mourn. My heart is breaking for you.
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