the worst call... grandpa died ---x-posted in my DDC - Mothering Forums

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Old 03-29-2008, 10:15 AM - Thread Starter
 
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well it is well before the butt crack of dawn, i am sitting in my dark living room, because i don't know what else to do. about 2 hours ago i woke to feed DD, then couldn't go back to sleep. Then at about 5, my mom calls and gives me the news i have been dreading my grandpa has died. The man who served as my father is gone.

Rewind to yesterday when both my mom and grandma call and tell me he is in the hospital again. He has been in and out for well over a year. Both offer to give me his phone number, i decline. I ask grandma when he is expected to come home, she says sunday, if the nurses don't kick him out sooner. or if he doesn't insist on coming home earlier (which he usually does). so i figure i will just talk to him later. he doesn't enjoy talking on the phone anyways. and i can't visit him with DD, she isn't allowed in.

I feel so bad because i didn't call. i was feeling yucky yesterday and just didn't want to do anything. I know he understands, but it is going to be very hard to deal with that for quite a while.

so here it is just past 6, i can't sleep, i can't pack a bag because DH and DD are still sleeping, i can't eat because of this stupid nausea. so here i am on MDC throwing a line out to the fishes. hoping that someone will relate.

i feel like i should embroider a hankie for him, is that really weird? maybe it is more for me, kind of a letting go, or maybe a holding on. anyways enough rambling, thanks for reading.
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Old 03-29-2008, 11:16 AM
 
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I am so very sorry for your loss
I know just how you feel about regrets. There is always something we could have done better - but we are all just humans. Thanks for your comment on my friend who comitted suicide. I also have lots and lots of regrets and there is nothing to do about it now - its too late. I am so sorry you are suffering a loss too

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When my aunt (also my godmother, and my closest relative) died, she was in the hospital and I didn't call. Everyone thought she'd get better.

You'll probaby always have regrets, but they'll fade. Over time you'll feel his presence or come to peace with his memory, and you'll realize that he wouldn't want you to feel regret or pain. He'll find a way to say goodbye, even if it's just in the way you remember him. It'll be okay.

I'm sorry for your loss. I think you should make that hanky for him... and while you're making it, maybe you can say to him all the things you wish you could have said had you known he'd pass. He'll hear you.

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