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#61 of 100 Old 05-23-2008, 12:06 AM
 
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I am so so sorry. I don't even know what to say.

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I am so very very sorry for your loss!! I can't even imagine your pain.
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so sorry, mama

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I am so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Oh, I'm so incredibly sorry.

Carla Fine's book for suicide survivors is one of the best I've read, if you need some resources.
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I coudln't read this and not post. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Just reading your post was heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

"If you only knew how many things I want to say and don't, you'd give me some credit."
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I am so sorry
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i am so sorry for your painful loss

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Tomorrow Starts Without Me
by David M Romano

When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
all filled with tears for me,

I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
and each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.

But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
and said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.

I had so much to live for,
So much left yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
and all the fun we had

If I could re-live yesterday
Just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne.

He said, "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you."
Today your life on earth is past,
But here life starts anew

I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way
There's no longing for the past.

You have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times
You did some things
You knew you shouldn't do.

But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand
And share my life with me?

So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
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I'm so sorry.
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I am so sorry for your loss
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I am so sorry for your loss
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Mama, I am so so sorry for your loss. Sending ((((HUGS)))) and prayers your way.
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I am so sad for you. May you find peace.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry. I have also lost loved ones to suicide. There is a whole other element there to process, and it's so hard.
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I am so so so very sorry. My best friend committed suicide while I was in training in the army, and I couldnt say goodbye, and it still breaks my heart. I am so sorry.

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I'm so very sorry.

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I am so sorry . HUgs to you mama and healing thoughts are being sent your way.

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Oh, goodness! I am so, so sorry that you have to go through this grief and pain with no explanations and closure. Your pain must be heart-breaking.

 Grateful midwife and peaceful mama to three blissfully birthed, amazing children: dd (10)dd (7) and  ds (5).
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Oh my. I can't even imagine your pain. I am so, so sorry.
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I'm so so sorry. Couldn't read and not respond.

I was almost lost to suicide 2 years ago. I'm so sad for your loss, and for the pain your husband must have been feeling. It doesn't seem fair that some of us should survive and some shouldn't

"Tis the gift to be simple, 'tis the gift to be free, 'tis the gift to come down where you ought to be."
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to anyone who is bereaved is A Time to Grieve by Carol Staudacher.

it's a book of meditations. You can read it a page or two at a time. You don't have to read the whole thing, which is why it's good even for people who are overwhelmed by their grief.

I am so sorry for your loss. Suicide is very hard for loved ones to come to terms with. It is not your fault, but I know it will be a long time before you believe that in your heart.
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Oh, my gosh, I am so incredibly sorry.
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I am so very sorry. We are here for you, mama.
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