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On March 14, 2008, my wonderful, caring, loving husband committed suicide.

No note, no nothing. Just a shotgun.

I never even got to say good bye. I couldn't go in when I got home- the police wouldn't let me in my home. I understand why, but it's still so hard that I couldn't hold him and tell him I loved him one last time.

Two months ago and I still feel like I'm laying on my front lawn crying... I have no idea how I will ever get past this.

Christa- SO to a wonderful man, Bonus Momma to two great kids, and expecting a new babe in May 2012!

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I'm so sorry! I couldn't read and not respond
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I'm so very, very sorry.

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OMG, I am so sorry. I cannot fathom the pain...


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I wish I could give you more than a hug. I'm so sorry.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry.
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Oh mama! I'm so sorry! I wish I knew what else to say!
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I am so, so terribly sorry to hear this.
You have my deepest sympathies.

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I'm so so sorry.
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So sorry for your loss.

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Oh my! I am so very sorry.

Mama to Zoe (8/00), Morgan : (10/01), Brooke9/06), Casey 20wks (2/08), and Riley : (2/09): She's really here!!
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You're in my prayers. I lost a beloved cousin to suicide--not at all the same degree of loss, but I understand the confusion and pain and anger and grief. PM me if you want to talk.
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I'm so sorry.
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I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

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So very sorry. My deepest sympathies.

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Christa, i am so sorry to hear about your devastating loss.
when i was a teenager i lost my first love to suicide. not my husband, but someone i loved very deeply. if you ever want to talk PM me, i am here.

treehugger.gif )O( unschooling, witchy mum to Addy(7) and Niamh(4)
Living with an invisible chronic illness.
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huge hugs

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i am incredibly sorry for your loss.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.
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So very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Amanda , mama to my two boys: N (10/06) and : A (7/09)
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You have so much to work through right now I hope your reaching out and getting the support you need.

I lost my dad to suicide, it's a very strange loss to process. Please be gentle to yourself
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I'm so sorry.
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couldn't read and not offer my love.

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I am so sorry.
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You have so much to work through right now I hope your reaching out and getting the support you need.

I lost my dad to suicide, it's a very strange loss to process. Please be gentle to yourself

Thank you. Your very right- it is a strange loss. Not just sad- so angry too.

Thank you everyone for your kind words and hugs!

Christa- SO to a wonderful man, Bonus Momma to two great kids, and expecting a new babe in May 2012!

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I lost my first boyfriend through suicide. I am so, so sorry. PM me if you need to.
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So sorry for your loss.
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