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#61 of 147 Old 10-27-2008, 03:53 PM
 
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I pray you find comfort.
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Oh gosh... I wish I had some words of comfort for you. I'm so, so sorry.

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I can't fathom the grief you must be feeling. Thank you for posting and reminding me to be grateful for what I have. My you find peace.
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i know we don't talk directly but i read your story and you and Lucas are in my heart. Cry whenever and wherever you need or want to. there are no rules, no right or wrong way. please be gentle with yourself.
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To my husband I am wife, to my kids I am mother, but for myself I am just me.
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I am so sorry. Unfortunately, I know exactly how you feel. My beautiful 4 year old DD passed away from brain cancer 3 months ago. I am so angry and I keep wondering why it happened. I was her mommy, I was supposed to protect her. Why couldn't I protect her? I don't go out. I can't. I cry every time I see little girls and their mommies.

I know there is nothing I can say to help you because there is nothing anyone can say to help me. But I want you to know that although it feels like you are completely alone, there are others of us out here who are going through the same things.
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i looked at his pictures. beautiful child mama.
you're in my thoughts always.
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I think of you guys almost every single day. I wish there was something I could say or do to ease some of your pain. It's not fair what happened to your sweet baby.
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Thinking of you and holding you in my heart.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It sucks. We have to just take it one day at a time or one moment at a time. It's all we can do. Cling to the good memories and keep them alive. I'm almost to the 6 month mark (negligent midwife failed to realize my daughter had under developed lungs and she died in her daddy's arms after being told she was ok). Reach out to others who understand. As for everything else, I don't know. It's hard putting on a brave front for others.

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I'm so sorry. I couldn't read without posting.

Take care of yourself.

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This is my first time venturing into this area and I couldn't just read and not post to you.
First, I know the pain of losing a child. My loss came differently than yours but still.. We both lost a child unfortunately.

It's hard. I know it is..
I would never wish this upon any person. It takes great strength to get through this.



I read through some replies and this right here really is true..
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Please take care of yourself. It is horrible and the most difficult thing a parent could ever go through. Time doesn't take away the feelings, but according to my mom you learn to manage and to sort of make the feelings part of your day to day existance. And, they won't be as raw feeling in the future. You'll be able to manage and will be able to enjoy living again.

I'm so sorry for your loss.. You aren't alone.
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kt, I still think of you and Lucas often. Please take care of yourself.
Yes, me too. I'm so sorry, I think about you all the time.

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Still thinking of you

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kt - I'm still thinking of you and hoping you are having some good days along with the bad ones
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I'm still thinking of you too and wanted to offer another hug, wish I could give you one in person. I'm sure this is a tough time of year for you.

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#79 of 147 Old 12-12-2008, 02:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm still thinking of you too and wanted to offer another hug, wish I could give you one in person. I'm sure this is a tough time of year for you.
Thanks, all of you. You're right, cuddlebaby - this time of year, omg. I don't expect things to magically get all better after the holidays have come and gone, but it's just so hard watching all the family-oriented, happy-kid oriented activity going on everywhere. So triggering.

I'm so thankful for all the support you mamas have poured out onto me since Lucas passed. I can't believe how helpful it's been to be able to come here and pour it all out every so often.
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Thanks, all of you. You're right, cuddlebaby - this time of year, omg. I don't expect things to magically get all better after the holidays have come and gone, but it's just so hard watching all the family-oriented, happy-kid oriented activity going on everywhere. So triggering.

I'm so thankful for all the support you mamas have poured out onto me since Lucas passed. I can't believe how helpful it's been to be able to come here and pour it all out every so often.
I am so sorry.

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I'm so sorry.

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*Hugs* Still thinking of you.

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still thinking of your beautiful Lucas and you and your DH.

Mama to 2 sweet gorgeous children, a 4-year-old DS and a 1-year-old DD.
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I have read your post several times and back to say again I am thinking of you.

HUG

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You are not a failure! You are going through a loss and greiving. It will get better. Have you tried focusing on the wonderful times that you had with him? He is still your baby and he would not want you to hurt like this. Have you tried seeing a therapist. It might help. Your son will always be with you in your heart and soul! He loves you!
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just adding a as well as my prayers and thoughts
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s: I don't get to mdc very often these days, but I still think about you and your sweet little guy often.
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I don't come here anymore. MDC has become overgrown with ads & useless extra forums.
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holding you & Lucas in my heart
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Thinking of you and Lucas.
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