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#61 of 107 Old 11-04-2008, 02:24 AM
 
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Oh wow...I'm so sorry. There just aren't words.


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oh, no. i am so very very sorry for your loss, mama. my prayers are with you tonight.

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I'm so sorry, Momma.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother.

I am a 40 year old unschooling, belly dancing, artist-mama of one almost 8 year old. I just had brain surgery and blogging.jpg about it a bit because it's just so surreal.
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DH and I have also been affected by the suicide of two dear friends this year.

I can only imagine your pain.
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what awful news. I'm so sorry to hear. I wish there was something else I could say. We're all here for you, whatever you need.
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I am so very sorry
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I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you find peace.

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I am so, so sorry. Wishing you peace and strength.
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If anyone would like to see his Respectance page, it's still pretty barren but we plan on adding to it as we have time.

Alex

Thank you all for your thoughts and good wishes. We had a wake for him on Sunday which was nice. Sad, but nice to see distant family members and old friends.
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I am so sorry for the unexpected loss of your brother. Your family will be in my thoughts.
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I'm so sorry. It won't ever make sense. My dear best friend committed suicide 7 years ago this Nov. 8th and I still drive myself crazy trying to make sense of it. I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of the pain. Don't be surprised if you find yourself having anger that has nowhere to go. I found myself lashing out at loved ones because I just had such anger inside me along with the sadness.

I pray for peace for you and your family.


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DID - my brother committed suicide 19 years ago. he was my best friend ever and only sibling. he was the favourite uncle to all my nieces and nephews. it hurts even now.

but he is v. much alive in my dd's life. more than photographs i share his memory with her quite often - esp. when i am having a hard day. she can tell you some of his story herself. in fact one show and tell she took his picture and shared with the class and had one of the parent volunteers in tears. somedays it just tears me up that he isnt there - just for a hug. that's all i ask for. man i tear up writing this.

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love to you and yours on the healing journey.
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So sorry.

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36, so tragic, and to young.
I am so sorry.
You are in our prayers as are his family. HUG

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..... My 60 year old father "attempted" this past June. When I saw your post I could not help but reply. My heart truly goes out to you and your entire family. As it is right now, my father continue to sends emails, periodically, to some of us, that are "threats". I just don't know what to do. But again, I pray that you're ALL finding a way to heal......

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I, too, am sorry for everyone's losses. I wanted to mention that suicide prevention organizations are working more to provide 'postvention' assistance to suicide survivors (those who have lost a loved one to suicide). The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is a good number to call if you know someone who is suicidal. They also may be able to direct you to suicide postvention services in your community.

As PPs have mentioned, there are a lot of painful emotions and confusion to work though after a loss to suicide, and studies show that many people wait for years and years before working through the pain. I can't guarantee that every community has postvention services, since suicide is such a taboo subject in out culture, but I encourage everyone to check it out if you think it could be helpful to you.
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My father and my brother both committed suicide within three months of one another when I was 16. I can empathize with where you are right now. About five years after they died I found the book Why Suicide and it helped me come to peace with their deaths. Although to be honest with you, it's been ten years and when I think about it I still hurt. It does get easier with time.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.

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I am so sorry, mama.

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I'm so very sorry.

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I am so sorry for your loss, mama

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I am so sorry.

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Im so so sorry. I lost a very dear friend to suicide in february. He was 36 too. It feels so wrong when someone you love decides to leave everything behind like that. I have had all the classic feelings, guilt, anger, regret and ofcourse grief and emptyness. My heart goes out to you

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I am so sorry.
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So sorry for your loss - I lost an aunt and cousin to suicide and it is such a shock. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

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Oh god - I am so sorry. I have also lost loved ones to suicide, and it is a hard thing to come to terms with.
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