Momma to DD (12/04) and DS (11/09) .
I survived 16 mos! Ask me about breastfeeding a baby with posterior tongue tie, high palate, and weak oral motor skills- whew!
Thank you all for your thoughts and good wishes. We had a wake for him on Sunday which was nice. Sad, but nice to see distant family members and old friends.
I pray for peace for you and your family.
Jen Mama of 2 precious boys (9) (6) and still in with my Matt after 12 years together.
Domestic Violence Children's Advocate and Counselor
but he is v. much alive in my dd's life. more than photographs i share his memory with her quite often - esp. when i am having a hard day. she can tell you some of his story herself. in fact one show and tell she took his picture and shared with the class and had one of the parent volunteers in tears. somedays it just tears me up that he isnt there - just for a hug. that's all i ask for. man i tear up writing this.
As PPs have mentioned, there are a lot of painful emotions and confusion to work though after a loss to suicide, and studies show that many people wait for years and years before working through the pain. I can't guarantee that every community has postvention services, since suicide is such a taboo subject in out culture, but I encourage everyone to check it out if you think it could be helpful to you.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
Single mom to ds(8), dd(6) and ds(5)