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#1 of 107 Old 10-30-2008, 11:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I don't know what to say beyond that. I am so completely beside myself with grief. I don't know what could have been so bad in his life that he felt he had no choice. He was only 36. He was a Navy Master at Arms, he had twin 3 year olds, my kids were crazy about him. It doesn't make any sense.
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I'm so sorry.

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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Coping with the death of a loved one is hard but when it's so unexpected it's even harder. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find support and healing in the weeks to come.

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Oh my gosh, I am so sorry!
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I am so very sorry.
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So sorry to hear of your loss
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I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your brother. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts. May your brother rest in peace.

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I am so sorry.

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I'm so terribly sorry. Praying for you during this time.
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I'm so sorry.

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I'm so sorry! We will keep your family in our thoughts!
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am sorry. May the Lord comfort you and your family.
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What a tragedy. I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am so, so sorry. Peace be with your family.
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I am so sorry, DreamsinDigital.
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I'm sorry for your loss. Take care.

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how heartbreaking, I am so sorry I wish there was something I could do to take that hurt away for you. My aunt committed suicide and left her dd behind, noone understood why it was very heartbreaking for teh family. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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I'm so very sorry...

I lost my dd to suicide almost 6 years ago. If you want to talk, I'm here for you. I have some resources that might be helpful as well. Let me know if you'd be interested.

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#29 of 107 Old 10-31-2008, 02:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I would definitely appreciate any resources you might have. This is so hard to process. I know you understand.

The shock is starting to wear off and it just hurts. I have so many unanswered questions. I know I'll never know why but one can't help but ask What could be so wrong that life is not worth living?
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I'm so sorry!

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