He will be 3 next month and in the past few months has really not wanted to share. Ex. wanted to bring the frisbee to the park (we were meeting friends) but he announced he would not share. I told him if he did not want to share it, then it had to stay in the car. He happily agreed to leave it in the car. No more issues about this.
We were running errands one day and bought a cookie. He did not want to share with me. I explained all sorts of reasons why he should share the cookie... it took him a *very* long time to decide he would let me have a bite.
I do not want to MAKE him share -- I think that could backfire. But I don't want him to remain steadfast in not sharing... Is this really an issue? or am I worrying over a phase that will not last if I don't make a big deal of it?
I expect my children to share food with me and with each other. I simply (even at 3) reminded her that if mommy hadn't shared her money she wouldn't have the food. Cookies on the other hand, usually every one gets on (get real its a cookie, who wants to share that) or I say befoe I buy it. We will share this. Doesn't want to share? I buy the cookie fr myself. If there willbe sharing I usually split the food before hand to avoid te equal bites thing.
So I guess a little forethought goes a long way to helping kids get into the habit of sharing andpointing out when other people share is helpful too (remember how josee shared her toys with you. that was fun wasn't it. When josee comes over today I would like for you to share. Can you promise to share?). While I don't force my child to share (usually), if they insist on being selfish thier may be consequences such as leaving a friends house or sending a friend home, or not getting a cookie, or having a toy put away.
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