Our house is in a rural subdivision with good-sized lots (ours is a half acre). The back yard is fully fenced with a privacy fence. There is a gate but it is threaded shut with a chain (hard to explain) and heavy & there's no way DD could open it. I'm debating about whether I feel comfortable letting her play out in the yard by herself. With the way the house and windows are situated there is only a small part of the yard that I can view from the kitchen/ living room area. I'm not worried about DD getting into things she shouldn't or getting hurt, but about the remote chance of someone potentially snatching her from the yard. I suppose I could just put a padlock on the gate, though.
Anyhow, would you let a 3 year old play alone in the type of back yard I described?
It would depend on the maturity of the child, but probably yes. However, I'd check on the child regularly (every 5-10 minutes or so) to make sure the child wasn't getting into any kind of trouble. My oldest was trying to climb trees and fences at that age. The chances of abduction are incredibly small. I'd be more worried about my mischievous child.
Yes, I do. I just check out there every few minutes, and if he's engrossed in something (like the sandbox) that looks like he's not going to invent any surprising and dangerous activities, I'll check only every 10 minutes or so.
Stacy-- Wife to my DH, mom to three: noodle girl:, Lego boy , little guy :
Yes, I do. But I also have floor to ceiling windows in my living room facing the yard, so I can see every inch of it when the kids are out there. It's small, has a 6' fence, and is mostly dirt and a garden, so there's not much they can get into (in theroy anyway...).
No not if they were totally alone. With a sibling maybe.
I just would want to be able to hear what was going on and two are noisier than 1. I also wouldn't be able to get anything done inside because I'd be by a window making sure they were ok constantly so I wouldn't see the point of sending them out alone since I wouldn't be able to really do my own thing anyway.
Yes. My son plays in our fenced yard all the time and has been doing it foe a while (he's 4 now). My dogs are usually out in the yard with him and he has a blast playing out there! Since he's an only, any time he's willing to play by himself is great for me! Of course, I play with him out there, too, but the back yard is one place he can amuse himself for a while alone. Yeah!
Yes, that's something I'm comfortable with at my house. (Depends on the yard, kids, of course.) My DS (4.5) and DD1 (2.5) play out in the backyard by themselves, and did last summer too. Granted I was checking on them every few minutes, and was either in the kitchen, laundry room, or bedroom cleaning where I could look out and see them. It's not like I chucked them in the back yard and went to take a nap.
In a heartbeat. I'd check on her every 5 minutes, but I'd still let her. The remote possibility of someone snatching a child is just that, remote. I'd rather my children be outside, playing well, and enjoying the fresh air.
Lynn, academic, wife, WOHM to T (4/01) and M (5/04)
I do too. Some of it is just necessity. When I am trying to soothe the baby to sleep having a 2 1/2 year old running amok doesn't help and I'd rather he go play outside than sit him in front of the TV.
I let my 2 and 3 year old boys play in the yard while I'm in the house, but I leave the windows open so that I can hear them. If it gets too quiet, I usually go check right away. There are 2 gates to get to our property and the one to our yard is secure and I can hear it from inside the house if it opens.
Marina, married to one really great guy : and mama to three magical boys- Matteo 8/05, Nico 11/06 and Luca Bean 11/08
If my only concern were kidnapping, then absolutely. But I would worry about a 3 year old getting hurt if he were unsupervised on that much land. I'd at least have a window open so I could hear him. Even responsible little kids will occasionally do random dangerous things.