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#1 of 92 Old 03-21-2009, 12:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Our house is in a rural subdivision with good-sized lots (ours is a half acre). The back yard is fully fenced with a privacy fence. There is a gate but it is threaded shut with a chain (hard to explain) and heavy & there's no way DD could open it. I'm debating about whether I feel comfortable letting her play out in the yard by herself. With the way the house and windows are situated there is only a small part of the yard that I can view from the kitchen/ living room area. I'm not worried about DD getting into things she shouldn't or getting hurt, but about the remote chance of someone potentially snatching her from the yard. I suppose I could just put a padlock on the gate, though.

Anyhow, would you let a 3 year old play alone in the type of back yard I described?
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Yes, I do. I just check frequently out the window to make sure everything's ok. I have no qualms about let him play outside in a fenced in backyard.

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Yes, I would. My son is 5, and he's been playing outside alone in our yard since he was about 3. I can see our whole yard from our back window, and I check frequently.
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It would depend on the maturity of the child, but probably yes. However, I'd check on the child regularly (every 5-10 minutes or so) to make sure the child wasn't getting into any kind of trouble. My oldest was trying to climb trees and fences at that age. The chances of abduction are incredibly small. I'd be more worried about my mischievous child.

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Yes. I also allow my 2 year to accompany my 3 year old in the back yard.

I keep my windows open and check out frequently. It's so nice to do my housework and be alone with my thoughts for a bit while they happily swing/slide/sandbox/etc.

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Yes, I would. The chances of someone jumping over a locked fence to grab your child and then jumping back over, child in tow are so miniscule, it isn't even worth thinking about.

Let the child play and just check on her
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Yes, I do. I just check out there every few minutes, and if he's engrossed in something (like the sandbox) that looks like he's not going to invent any surprising and dangerous activities, I'll check only every 10 minutes or so.

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Yes, I do. But I also have floor to ceiling windows in my living room facing the yard, so I can see every inch of it when the kids are out there. It's small, has a 6' fence, and is mostly dirt and a garden, so there's not much they can get into (in theroy anyway...).
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I have and I would again.
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Yes, I just started letting my son play in the backyard by himself when his sisters are at school and I'm inside. He turns 3 in a few days.

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No not if they were totally alone. With a sibling maybe.

I just would want to be able to hear what was going on and two are noisier than 1. I also wouldn't be able to get anything done inside because I'd be by a window making sure they were ok constantly so I wouldn't see the point of sending them out alone since I wouldn't be able to really do my own thing anyway.
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Yes. My son plays in our fenced yard all the time and has been doing it foe a while (he's 4 now). My dogs are usually out in the yard with him and he has a blast playing out there! Since he's an only, any time he's willing to play by himself is great for me! Of course, I play with him out there, too, but the back yard is one place he can amuse himself for a while alone. Yeah!
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Probably not a 3 year old. My 5 and 6 year olds play in our fenced in yard alone, but even then I'm checking on them every 5-10 minutes.

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Yes, that's something I'm comfortable with at my house. (Depends on the yard, kids, of course.) My DS (4.5) and DD1 (2.5) play out in the backyard by themselves, and did last summer too. Granted I was checking on them every few minutes, and was either in the kitchen, laundry room, or bedroom cleaning where I could look out and see them. It's not like I chucked them in the back yard and went to take a nap.

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yes, I would.

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In a heartbeat. I'd check on her every 5 minutes, but I'd still let her. The remote possibility of someone snatching a child is just that, remote. I'd rather my children be outside, playing well, and enjoying the fresh air.

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Yes. I would look out the window regularly, just to make sure she was ok, but I would let her play.
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Heck yeah!
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too young for me. i just couldnt live w myself if anything happened
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I do too. Some of it is just necessity. When I am trying to soothe the baby to sleep having a 2 1/2 year old running amok doesn't help and I'd rather he go play outside than sit him in front of the TV.
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I let my 2 and 3 year old boys play in the yard while I'm in the house, but I leave the windows open so that I can hear them. If it gets too quiet, I usually go check right away. There are 2 gates to get to our property and the one to our yard is secure and I can hear it from inside the house if it opens.

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Not if I couldn't see him.

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It depends on the child but I probably would. My son would wander around outside my apartment when he was around 3/4 years old. He was very mature for his age.

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Yes.

I'm so jealous. I'd do almost anything to have a yard.
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Isn't that one of the points of having a fully fenced back yard? So yes of course!
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I do all the time. I check on her often and have the windows and door open. If ds (14months) is out there with her I only go in the kitchen and leave the door open and he stays on the patio.
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If my only concern were kidnapping, then absolutely. But I would worry about a 3 year old getting hurt if he were unsupervised on that much land. I'd at least have a window open so I could hear him. Even responsible little kids will occasionally do random dangerous things.

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Absolutely!

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