I thought I would come out of lurkdom for this one. This was the same for my daughter. She turned 5 last year in Feb, and we had been talking about it for about a year. About 7 months after her 5th birthday, I finally decided that it was her decision. So, we did it. First of all, it was SO horrible for her, and me. There were 2 people to pierce. They were doing both ears at once. That was good. But, the lady on the left messed up.( I was livid!) So right earing was in but left was not. So dd was screaming and crying, and everyone was looking at me like I was the worst mother in the world. Like I was making her do it. I was just so concerned with her pain. I was trying to comfort her. I wanted to just take the right one out and forget it about it. She said no way. Even through the screaming and crying she wanted them to do the left. So they did, and she was fine like 5 minutes later. She has been fine with all of the turning and cleaning. Has had no infections or anything. The only problem so far? She refuses to let me change them. She has been given some beautiful earrings as gifts, and she refuses. She refuses because the back of the studs are so hard to get off. I tried one time and I was unsuccessful. She didn't like it, so now she is afraid. I guess we will just wait until she is ready.
Honestly, if I had to make the decision again, I would have said no way!