Originally Posted by sewaneecook
DS is nearly 3 1/2 and showing absolutely no readiness signs for using the potty. I would be fine with this, except he tantrums with nearly every diaper change (especially poopy diapers where he wiggles so much that the poop sometimes ends up falling out of the diaper and a lengthy clean up is necessary afterward). We use cloth dipes, so I'm not having to spend extra money on diapers and I typically have a laid back attitude for children reaching milestones when they are ready. However, this is getting out of control and I don't know how to make it better.
Is there a way to encourage potty readiness? Or to make diaper changes less troublesome?
OK, I could have written this exact post. My son is also 3.5, and will go in the toilet if he is naked, but that's it. So he has to wear a diaper when we go out, and to bed. Anyway, we've reached the point where #1) I have to hold him down to change him, while he kicks as hard as he can, and yells "no! don't! stop!" which makes me feel horrible, or #2) I wait him out, and change him when he asks me to, which is not until he has such a bad rash that he walks funny and cries. Hello rock, hello hard place. Ugh. Anyway, these are some things that used to work with him, but have since lost their magic:
Making it a game. Both my boys like Toy Story, so I would sometimes pick him up by the front of his shirt, and say "the claw has chosen, you must go!" and put him on the couch. Then tell him to "press the button" to take his pants off, he presses the "button" (some arbitrary spot), and I do something silly, tell him it's the wrong button, he tries again. Repeat a few times, then take his pants off at some point when he pushes the 'right' button. This one also works well for putting on PJ's. Sometimes I'd take his pants off, and toss them over his face, then pretend I couldn't find him, and he would throw them off, peek-a-boo, I guess. He also likes when I make my fingers be ants/spiders and tickle him, so I may do that while he is lying down being changed. I didn't necessarily do all these in one change, but sometimes I did!
Pretend it's very important, and you're in a big rush (another game, I guess). "Oh my gosh, we have to change you! Hurry, let's go!" Run around the room a bit, gathering everything. Continue talking about how fast you have to change, be silly.
The one that worked the longest was getting one of those cheapo kitchen timers, and asking him when he would be ready to be changed (usually 3 minutes, for whatever reason). I would confirm with him, "ok, I'm going to set the timer for 3 minutes, and when it rings I will change you with no fighting, right?" He would agree, and that is what would happen.
Good luck! I'm having such a hard time with this PL thing, my 4 year old isn't even all the way there yet.