We have 4 kids and in the past we have spent anywhere from 0-$100, maybe more on gifts.
Most recently, in January, it was my son, Ivan's 16th birthday and we gave him $100 in cash. It was really too much for us, but I was feeling guilty because we never have money to buy him anything and at the time, I was able to pull together $100. Other years, he has gotten nothing
My 7 year old daughter's birthday is coming up. I had wanted to spend $100, but now that is just not possible at all. She wants baby alive, which I think I can get for 30-50.
But, I am just curious what all of you spend in birthday gifts. Does it depend on their age? What they want? How much $ you have?
We spent more on my daughter for her birthday last year than we did on my son. I expect it to flip flop through the years and that's okay!
If your DD wants a Baby Alive doll and you can get it at a low cost, I wouldn't give it another thought -- you're getting her what she wants! No need to feel obligated to "pad" with extra gifts just because you spent more on your DS.
Jenna ~ mommy to Sophia Elise (1/06), Oliver Matthew (7/07) and Avery Michael (3/10)
Wading slowly and nervously into this homeschooling thing.
I will say that my kids don't ask for much and I hardly buy them any sort of material things throughout the year other than clothes and shoes. Christmas and birthdays are pretty much it.
We have one child.
This year, I already have DS1's present, a RazorA scooter I had bought for $30 intended as DD's Christmas present until I found a Barbie *gasp* scooter for her. That's all I'm planning for him, as it's something he wants. For DD, she'll be getting a bike for her birthday and that will probably run us about $75. For DS2, I'm not too sure yet, but I am looking at a balance bike depending on if I can get one in store when I go down to visit friends and family States-side in the spring.
Mama to my 3 wild things.
In the past we've spent hundreds of dollars, and we've also spent less than $20. My DD just turned 8. She has more toys than she could play with, more clothes than she can wear, more music and games than she has time to listen to. We bought her a few pairs of earrings (less than $25), and that was it. She also had her very first sleepover bithday party, which wasn't expensive at all.
I'm an unintentional weasel feeder and I suck at proofreading.
I gave him 3 choices: a party with a "normal" present, a more expensive present, or an outing with one friend and a "normal" present. "Normal" for us is ~$30. I didn't really want to do a party - last year we spent about $100 on his b-day party and it was stressful for me (although he had fun). And that was just pizza and cake and ice-cream and party favors for a few kids at his grandma's house! Anyway, he chose "more expensive present". That comes down to two video games (used, for an old system at his grandma's house), and a Lego set he really likes the looks of. He will also get small presents from his sibs, be allowed to eat ice-cream for breakfast - and lunch , and stay up as late as he wants (he's a night-owl, both sibs are early birds, so this is a big treat for him!) And, we'll take cupcakes to our homeschooling group, since it meets ON his birthday. But that's not a party.
Oh, we also renew his magazine subscription (Click) this month because it was originally a birthday present. But we'd do that anyway and it doesn't really "count".
I'm feeling okay about this I think I'm actually going to spend less than I did last year and I think he'll be VERY excited.
Here as mama to W (2/04), R (5/06), D (7/09), and J (12/9/12!), co-parenting with my DH
I WOH part-time, am a doula & childbirth educator, home/unschool, and hope we are nearing the center of chaos
But we have a very strict "no junk" policy, and the stuff that is not junk often costs more.
We can afford it, and that's the thing, you have to go with your budget, you can't go hungry for a week because of a birthday present.
We have four kids, and they all have birthdays coming up within a 33 day period!!
luckily for them, we usually get our tax refund before their parties. Otherwise, sheesh!
I would say we spend, on average, $100 on gifts for each kid - but I don't have a set amount, and thinking about it, last year DD's presents were much more than that (clothes, ipod, wii games, etc. - these things cost more) where as the 2 and 4 yr old's gifts were like balls and firetrucks, and such.
This year, they all four want new bikes, and they will cost more than $100 each, but I've been planning for it, and they likely will get a few, cheaper items as well.
ETA: their parties will cost $$$, that I haven't really calculated yet. My soon-to-be 5 yo wants to invite his whole class (which will mean a handful of parents and siblings), my DD is turning 9 and wants a bowling party (for her actual b-day, we will be in CA on vacation), my other two boys haven't decided what they want to do, I'm hoping theirs will be a combined celebration (their b-days are 2 days apart). Food and decor always ends up costing a lot more than I plan on, so I should really start figuring that part out.
Their birthdays are close to Christmas(November and February) and too close together. I think we spend around $50 per birthday.
They are used not to ask for things on their birthdays, they just ask for color themed party. DD2 turned 4 on Wednesday and she thought it would be fun to have a "green party" becuase that's her favorite color.
On christmas we spent around $300 for each girl and $80 for DS.
Growing up, Christmas was always the bigger gift event (although still not lots-- my parents always spent around 100 on kids) and birthdays were small, family events with a modest present. My husbands family considered the birthday to be the "big gift" event. It's just interesting to see other traditions.
Party and all, though, total is usually around $100. (That includes all food, gifts, and this year, a rental of a bouncy house.)
We also try to pick things that will really grow with them, and are "classic" toys, and, if possible, "educational." Not junk.
"If you keep doing the same things you've always done, you'll keep getting the same results you've always gotten."
We do buy things through out the year though so I think that makes a difference. I sometimes think it a bit odd that the "big gifts" are the ones we get whenever. When I was a kid bikes and so on were birthday gifts but those are the things I prefer to get used so we get them when they crop up.
I imagine things will change (and cost more!) as they grow and start wanting more specific things.
Personally I don't worry too much about spending the same amount on everyone, so long as everyone gets something that they want it's all good.
Ds's first birthday is coming up. He doesn't need a darn thing. He's got all of her toys to play with. Plus, we gave him a push toy and a pull toy for Christmas. And he's not walking yet. LOL! Oh, and a rocking toy. So, mama is making him some plush, wool felt balls with bells inside, a baby doll and a pillow (he loves laying his head down on a pillow, so, I'm going to use the bamboo velour from a baby shirt and fill it with wool for a nice pillow for him and probably embroider something on it, too). I hope that these will be very special to him.
Now, as she's becoming more aware, I'm starting to scale back - not in dollars spent, but in quantity. I want my kids to have toys they cherish rather than focus on how much they have (and subsequently want).
Mama to add 10/05; ds 3/09, and two angels. Expecting my 2nd rainbow baby 2/15!
This year, we took my daughter to Great Wolf Lodge for two days. Split with my mom, it cost about $200 for my portion. She also got a small present on her actual birthday.
My son, we took to see Monster Jam on Saturday night for his big birthday present . . . it was $125 for our tickets, plus about $60 on shirts and food there. He's also getting a present that I picked out before we decided to do Monster Jam (and so he'll have a present on his actual b-day, since this was a week early).
We go overboard, but we can sort of afford it (I'll put stuff on credit card if we can't) and I like doing it.
Rylie is 7, Ronin is 3.5