I look after my friends two children after school. My dd is bff with her dd (they're both 4) and she has a 6 year old boy. I know that my friend and her dh aren't very strict and don't have much follow through with their kids. Her ds and dd were trying to walk all over me when I first started the after school care and were also bullying my dd (hitting, pushing, name calling, etc). I nipped it in the bud right away and am a bit more strict than their parents (i.e., i mean what i say and expect to be respected). Anyway, this six year old can be super moody and really mean! For example, we were having a great time today taking photographs, playing dress up, and just mellowing out. The boy started playing his drum kit really loudly where the girls were trying to do something else so I told him that it was too loud but that I would help him move it to another room. So he got really upset and said I wasn't the boss of him (his favorite line) and so I told him his choice was to move it or I would take the sticks. Anyway, he got really upset and started screaming at me that he hates me and that I'm stupid and weird and ugly. Then he and my dd got into an altercation over a toy and he i ultimately sided with him, but she was crying. when i left the room i heard him tell her he would bash her head in and would do it right in front of me and didn't care if tried to stop him. Anyway, sorry this is so long! I've heard 6 year olds can be moody and sort of depressed seeming, but is this normal? I suspect things like "you're not the boss of me!" are normal, but the violent talk and the "i hate you's"....is that typical of most 6 year olds?