I just don't know where my sweet, thoughtful, polite little girl has gone. She turned 5 in December and it's like a switch was flipped. Suddenly everything is drama, drama, drama and when she doesn't get her way she makes this huge scene and says something snotty. For example, we were in a bookstore the other day on our date night (since I had her little sister I try to do something with just her at least once a week) and she asked if she could get a particular princess book. I said no and that we were just there to browse and hang out. In the past she would have been disappointed and definitely would have begged a bit more before letting it go. Now though, she made a "put out" noise (loud grunt) and loudly said "you NEVER get me ANYTHING princess!" Of course this is not true and she has a princess calendar and princess cd player, etc, etc. I fought the urge to state the obvious and give her the choice to chill out or [insert consequence here].
She just seems "stuck" lately on wanting things to be HER way and she freaks out when they don't go that way. She's not as flexible when it comes to play or even when it comes to how we are going to do every day chores or whatever. She seems more sensitive too to how I react, ie. If she is making a naughty choice and not doing what she's told and then somehow bumps her elbow or falls or whatever and then I don't react wholeheartedly to her "injury" because I'm frustrated that she was making a naughty choice in the first place, she will only fixate on me "not caring" about her pain. "It's like you don't even care that I got hurt!"
I just feel like I have to ask her to do things over and over and over and I'm losing my mind! I always have repercussions for when she doesn't listen but half the time I swear she really was just in her own world.
I know my sweet girl is still in there. She's really loving and kind and SO eloquent. I just have to keep fighting this feeling like I screwed up somewhere. I just want her to be polite yet strong and assertive. Smart and independent. Flexible and creative. And so on...
Anyway, is this normal? Anyone else going through this?
Mama to Maia (12/04), Nora (9/09), Sam (8/12) and Step-mama to Aidan (3/02) and Luci (10/04).