I think I'm confused and that I've confused my son.
Ok, so, he's 5.5 and I understand that he's begining his sexual awareness stuff. Overall, I've tried to present an open atmosphere and I want him to be able to feel like he can ask questions/talk about experiences without feeling like it's "wrong" and such.
We've already had a couple of talks because of things that went on at school (mentioning of his penis and him tyring to moon another kid, etc.)
But, he's started a fixation with my breasts that I'm sort of having an issue with.
To me it started around the time I asked him not grind his head into my breasts at bedtime. We co-sleep and he's generally been falling asleep in the crook of my arm. Sometimes he rubs his head back and forth which, obviously, hurt my breast....especially during my moon time.
Up until that point I hadn't been fully covering myself while getting dressed, but then he started the whole "Ooooh! Booooobies!! Groooooos!!" That lead to the whole breasts are functional, yadda, yadda.
That lead to a strange (to me) "accidental" touching of my breasts while I was clothed. Now, I think this is where I
started feeling uncomfortable because it would come over the way a strange man would try to cop a feel. YKWIM? Does that make sense?
So, that's when I began the "My breasts belong to me. Please don't touch them."
That all led to the whole "all your privates are yours. you wash them, you wipe them", etc. That's when I started introducing more modesty: door closed while showering, toileting, dressing, etc.
But that only led to a peeking game.
And so I thought I was taking a wrong turn with trying to "hide" myself so I laxed up a bit.
Well, the whole breast thing continues. And now when I try to gently re-enforce the boundries or remind him that his penis is private and not for anyone's eyes or that we don't discuss penis' in public my son shuts down on me.
I don't know what I did wrong, if it's his age, if it's just his personality, or if he feels admonished. I even let him know that nothing he did or is feeling is wrong...let him know that it's ok to talk about these things at home with me.
What do I do now? Let it go? I don't want him to feel lost on this issue in particular.
Just in case this might factor: I'm a single mom with very little male presence in the house. He sees his daddy very little and his daddy has a GF...I'm not sure what he sees over there (he doesn't talk about it much)...I'm not thinking there's any abuse
over there at all....his daddy is a pretty good dad.
Any advice, thoughts or book recommendations would be nice!
Please feel free to tell me I'm overthinking this and need to just calm down!! Lol.